My daughters first boyfriend

For fear of permanent banishment I will not post the link, but if you want to see the proper way to introduce yourself to your "little girl's" date, google "Bad Boys II boyfriend scene". It is rude and crude, but should be given to every new father at the hospital when their baby is born.

When I first say this thread...that scene was the first thing to come to my mind...too funny. My daughter is 8...I have some time...but preparing now.
 
From my experience, the gals with the strictest parents were the ones that were the wildest once away from those strict parents :eek:
 
My wife and I raised our two beautiful daughters as best we could with all the proper morels and ethics that we posessed. After that, all that you can hope for is that something stuck. Well, we now have two fine young men for son in laws and we recently celebrated the birth of our first grandchild from our oldest. I guess we did sumthin right.
 
All of her classmates know I have a big gun collection. Twice I took a bunch of guns in and showed them to the History class. They were ones used by our armed forces from the 1870s through the 1970s. All the guys think I'm really cool.
I just think back to when I was that age and it scares the heck out of me.:eek: I was constantly on the hunt for Women, and was VERY good at it. Started dating at 15. Didn't even have a drivers license. Fortunately my girlfriend was 17 and had one. Have loved older Women ever since.:cool: All my girlfriends Mothers LOVED me. Their Dads looked at me and I could tell they were thinkin' "I know know what you're thinkin', and if I could get away with it I'd kill ya dead".:eek:
She's a really good girl.
I'm just paranoid.
I'm still gonna do surveillance though.:D
Jim



And you run the risk of destroying her confidence in you and seriously damaging your relationship! :(
 
I guess in some ways it is good having a daughter that is the youngest. That way she can always meet her brother's friends that they bring home from the Army...or prison...or where ever. "This is Big Earl, he was a shot caller for the AB up in San Quentin." Well maybe there is a downside to that.

Beyond that...it is not Sharia law. I am not going to be swapping my daughter for some goats and getting two more if she is a virgin.

I can not pay for college, so off she will go to the military to pay for further education, just as my sons will. My wife spent 20 years in the Navy, I have no illusions about how a young sailor, soldier, or Marine will spend their time, be they male or female.

On the plus side someone is usually around to turn you on your stomach so you don't choke to death on your own vomit. You can not count on that in college...
 
My baby girl is 18.. She is drop dead gorgeous, and that's not just a "boastful" father talking. She has been boy crazy since she was in middle school, and luckily has dated nothing but fine young men so far.

I love her to death, but she can act bat-guano crazy sometimes. I feel for the boyfriend, he is a great kid.. I often end up coming to his defense when they have a spat...
 
Humorous stories , and I could relate a few also.

But essentially raise your daughter to both know right from wrong , and never take stuff from anyone and stick up for herself.

Micromanaging their social/ romantic business has more ways to go wrong than to go right, only use veto when clearcut.

Excessive interference just makes the strong willed intelligent daughters double down to assert themselves. Give them a little opportunity , they will quickly see organic fertilizer head for the organic fertilizer head he really is and kick him to the curb.

And preacher's daughters have nothing on police chief's daughters.
 
PS. When I was a senior in HS my sister who was in 9th grade was dating every parents nightmare. He was my age, went to a different school. After some discussion with the kid that gained my parents absolutely nothing, my parents sent me over to talk to him at his section 8 housing. He started out with a whole bunch of rudeness and threats, then he actually took a swing at me. The following year I was a D1 190 pound wrestler. I really really worked him over and promised I'd be back. I never had to go back. It worked, and 34 years later I still wonder if I did the right thing. Future boyfriends all heard that story.

With that said, I continue to feel bad for anyone involved with my sister, she has had a difficult life.

True story.
 
A friend of mine formulated a plan (JOKINGLY)for his first meeting w/ his daughter's 1st date.

He said that he and two close friends planned on dressing all in black and meeting the kid in the driveway,putting him in a car blindfolded and driving away. After a short while, they'd take the blindfold off and say " You're not the one we're looking for!! You must be my daughter's date! We'll get you back there to pick her up before she thinks you're late. Sorry!" ;)
 
The first date I ever went on, I pulled in the driveway and saw her Dad installing a slider window in the back window of his GMC pickup. I jumped up in the bed and helped him. He still likes me, her not so much. Twenty years after that day, I ran into her at a grocery and she told me, "My dad still asks about you". P.S. He had the reputation of being the meanest Dad around. No one asked his daughter out til me.
 
Well I can say without any effort that all our daughter's are "Daddy's Girls" no matter how old they are. My youngest married this guy that sat around playing video games and after he had his gastric bypass and belly tuck all of a sudden he thought he was God's gift to women. My daughter caught him cheating on her, told him get out and don't comeback with the texas state trooper standing next to her. Divorced him, violated divorce decree regarding a car which put her in debt. Her mother in law stiffed her for the boat ticket since she didn't pay anything at all. Since the divorce I haven't seen him and hope I never do. Frank
 
Oh man you guys are killing me, I am dreading the day I hear a knock on the door from one of my two girls dates. The youngest is six and the oldest just turned ten today. My wife has already told me I need to calm down, I can be rather blunt. It's the jarhead in me. We just had "The Talk" Saturday night about boys to the oldest. To say the least my wife was embarrassed, and daughter was confused. I wasn't embarrassed or confused. Did I say I am dreading this?
 
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After thoughts on the little Mrs Model 70's actions on this subject.

We moved to St. Louis and one guy who worked down the hall buddied up. I told the Mrs he was recently divorced and might like one of her great meals. That friday night he showed up, couldn't keep his eyes averted from our daughter (#3) who just turned 13 going on 30 as they say. She was and is very sharp.

This guy had hidden it very well, he thought he was very cute and gifted which allowed him to say inappropriate things to anyone. Probably the extra sugar his mommy rubbed on him when he was young. I was ticked at his lack of manners and leer, my wife is very low key. She leaves some discipline all up to me.

I'm thinking, just throw him out, if he lips me at work there is always the parking lot when he shot a couple more burning lazer words that were intercepted by the death star. He said, I just can't get over how good looking you are. Why don't you call me some time when your parents are out.

Little Mrs meek M-70 bounced up and sounded a little like Darth Vader, she forcefully told the jerk to put down his fork and get out the door, she said she has a shotgun and if he ever shows up again the first shot will end any hopes of you ever having children, only she was a little more pointed and direct.

At work he said inappropriate things several times. He thought he was the gift, we thought about buying him a one way trip to the moon.

A week or so later as we were going to lunch the jerk says, hey everybody lets go get a beer after work and swing by M-70's house to smooch on his good looking wife and daughter.

Well I needed that job but I reached around him grabbed a door jam right behind him pulled with my arm and thew my body against him pinning him to the wall. I got close to his ear, there were 5 or 6 witness' but they worked for me and did not like the jerk.

I said, whatever you do to mine I will do to you 10 times over and you will not like the ending. One more smart lip from you and I'll remove it.

My team, both girls and guys, started giving him lip, little things like hey are you lonely, need a hug, see da boss. He quit coming to our department and found others to harrass.

Geez, that's been 20 years ago and I still wanna tie his windsor knot for him.

When Daughter #3 was about 14-15 a fellow a year or 2 out of HS started coming by, he just wanted to talk to her. Mrs M-70 said her bedroom door stays open, got it?

One evening she said open the gun safe, give me an empty pump shotgun.

The door was shut, silly boy, mommas ain't to be messed with. I followed to watch, she shoved the door open and yelled as she racked the shotgun. I would bet a winning lottery ticket that his underwear had to be discarded, no way they could have been cleaned and made suitable to wear again. His eyes were large as he ran for the door. He never came back.
 
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You guys make me glad I've got boys.

Maybe it's the girls I dated, but I was the respectful one and they'd jump me first chance. My wife was the exception.

A younger sisters boyfriend used to sneak into the house after my dad died. I chased him out plenty of times, as I'd be up half the night on any given day. As soon as I moved out she was pregnant. It was an old house with no insulation. A mere footstep sounded clear as a bell from one end to the other. You can only do so much.
 
Man, are you guys crazy. She has her first boyfriend at 17, and you don't like it? High school is for dating, and experiencing adult feelings, and learning to handle relationships. She met him in Christian school. If you scare him off the next one will be a 29 year old, 6'4" Hell's Angel. None of you know what your "little girl" acts like when she's alone with a boy in a car. It does not matter how she was raised. Her own genetics and personality will dictate her behavior, not you. She will snuggle and flirt, and kiss, and whatever else she wants to do, and he will just be a slave of his own biological urges and do what she wants. And you can't stop it. Don't be a dope, get her on the pill, you don't have to tell the church about it. Let her live her life, not yours.
 
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I hear you Wbraswell. All 3 of my daughters lived their own life. Dating, heartbreaks and whatever else is what they did. I however reserved the right to deal with perv's, or guys that thought it was manly to hit one of my girls. My daughters had boy friends that I did like, but some boys did not understand that the grim reaper oft spoken of is a father too.
 
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