My wife says I have too many hobbies....

[G-Mac]

My wife says I have too many hobbies....but what I think she really means is that I have too much "stuff". I have collections (accumulations?) of multiple things....guns (of course). "Why do you need so many guns? You don't even shoot them all! You don't hunt any more!". Electric guitars, basses, and amplifiers....I have multiple Fenders, Gibsons, etc. that I rarely take out of their cases. She said I should sell them all EXCEPT ONE. That would be a hard choice! Oh, and then there's the motorcycles....one Harley Sportster that I bought new in 1988 and multiple old dirt/motocross bikes from a 1971 Suzuki TM-400 to a 1981 Yamaha YZ-125. Let's not even get into the tools I have plus welding equipment. I think she's worried that when I kick the bucket she won't know what to do with everything. Maybe it's time to liquidate some stuff???????

 

[6518John]

You should have retorted with “am I limited to one girlfriend too?”

And I wonder why I am divorced.

 

[Ματθιας]

Ask her what she expects to be done with the money resulting from the sale of your stuff.

Or better, yet you could just smile and ignore.

 

[notsofast]

My wife also tells me I have too many hobbies and she’s right

 

[rwsmith]

It's hard to say goodbye.....

It's hard to say goodbye to old friends.....

 

[pawngal]

As the widow of a guy who collected too much of too many things,
PLEASE think of the little woman!! thin things out.
I have been dealing with guns, thousands of knives, hundreds of straight razors, God know how much fly fishing stuff, duck decoys, hundreds of duck calls, ice fishing decoys, smoking pipes, Stetson hats (about 20), Harley-Davidson collectibles, pocket watches, Native American pottery (about 100 pieces) & jewelry and who knows what else!

Oops, forgot about the 3 old non-running Mercedes and a Suburban that had been stored for years.

There are times I just want to pack a suitcase and run away.

 

[DeathGrip]

Make sure you're quality stuff gets good homes and not sold out for pennys on the dollar. Or worse yet a gun buy back.

 

[Ivan the Butcher]

I never did many of the things I currently do before or while we were dating! But over the last 41 years, I have picked up a number of hobbies, yet she doesn't complain (except when finances are truly tight).

I was probing for the reason a few years ago. She mentioned that she liked who I am, and what I do reflects the inner most part of me. She also pointed out that most of my hobbies are similar to her father's. Since I don't chase any skirt but hers, she can easily live with that!

Not only does my wife trust me, so does my God. They both seem to trust my judgement, honor my decisions, and even come to my aid when I fail. Too much stuff may not be your issue, your track record (or even some other relative's) might be the source of her fears.

Ivan

 

[RobertJ.]

My wife looks at my stuff and wonders if I actually need it. I always explain, "Yes! I do!"

I only have a few hobbies (guns/shooting, fishing, music, and rockhounding) and have whittled all my stuff down to the bare minimum (well, except for guns). But, I'd rather deal with a little complaining than be one of those guys whose only hobby is watching TV.

 

[islamoradamark]

I been sellin some stuff I dont use only to support another hobby buying boat gas so I can do underwater metal detecting shallow of course keeps me cool in the water out of the sun in the A.M

 

[357-RevolverGuy]

Stop listening to her. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life! lol I'm kidding of course. I sometimes feel like I may be getting to that point too and have been contemplating narrowing down all my guns and knives to just 10 each... but it's so hard to do. Especially when you spent so much time searching for them in the first place.

 

[Maddog 521]

My hobby lately is trying to hold on to what I have. My wife thinks someone else should have most of this stuff.

 

[Old TexMex]

I don’t have hobbies. I have obsessions and compulsions

 

[moralem]

I am not being flippant, but why should your wife influence what you do with your hobbies/collections?......but let me offer a caveat, as long as your hobbies don’t impact the household budget, impose upon your shared space or eat into your time as a couple. Marriage doesn’t mean you give up your individuality or individual interests but you don’t get to unilaterally pursue such without consideration of the union.......it is all about compromise......all the best with your decision.

 

[Step N. Mud]

Buy an old Jeep!

 

[SPEEDGUNNER]

Hooo Boy, this thread is a familiar refrain...

 

[Hillbilly77]

G-Mac, I work in North Syracuse now, so I’m not terribly far from you.

I’m willing to stop and see what guns you have for sale any time.

 

[Goldstar225]

I'm with Moralem on this one. As long as you don't spend money the family can't afford and your hobbies don't harm the family relationship, I wouldn't worry about it. If she is concerned about the burden of disposing of the hobby stuff after you're gone, write up an inventory with current values that she can use as a guide and update it annually.

 

[pawngal]

I'm with Moralem on this one. As long as you don't spend money the family can't afford and your hobbies don't harm the family relationship, I wouldn't worry about it. If she is concerned about the burden of disposing of the hobby stuff after you're gone, write up an inventory with current values that she can use as a guide and update it annually.

An inventory & value is great but finding a market for a lot of collections/hobbies is not that easy. Sure, there is eBay, but I won't live long enough to list everything. Not to even mention trying to ship 7 ft. one piece fishing rods.

A lot of things I have sent to a local consignment auction house but that doesn't bring the best $$, especially after their commission.

 

[mike from st pete]

Too Much

My ex-wife (when we were married) always complained my stuff took up too much space that she needed for her stuff.