ok I need thoughts on this one is she crazy?

[Crazy K38]

A buddy of mine a few months back got a call from his mom, she said her heart was going out (she has some terminal heart condition) and she wanted him closer, so he quit his job and moved there, when he gets there he finds a similar job but it paid almost 2.00 less an hour, and he had to use his mom's jeep to drive the hour there commute, well he starts coming up short on the bills and has to rely on her to help out a little bit on his rent. In the meantime she gives him a cellphone because his other one wouldn't work in Louisiana, but she blocks all calls in and out but hers and he has family here! well he gets his own prepaid and she FLIPS!! well she finally gets over it and things are good for about a week til Christmas, he has his dad come and see the grand kids and she cuts him off from the jeep for work, tells him to go to **** about the rent, with it just a few days away, and leaves him, his wife and his two young kids jobless and about to be homeless with about 250$ to his name, so he moves back here, then she gets furious because he moved and calls social services with TONS of false claims, claims so bad the social worker said if she called again they will press charges on her, and he finally told her she was disowned, now she is trying to email him saying she forgives him and it was all his fault!?!?! what do you guys make of this?

 

[mwtdvm]

Once upon a time..

the wife of a friend told me that she had a hard time figuring out where the soap operas stopped and reality started. At the time I thought she was a bit off. Now, 35-40 years later, I think she may have been one of the sanest people I've ever met. Your posting makes me glad that my family with it's minor dysfunctions is mine, and your friend will hopefully be able to make some sort of life when this strange chapter in his life is over.

 

[DougE]

Louisiana ya say? Sounds like she might be a member of my old lady's family.

 

[G-Mac]

Wow!

Sounds like she's nuckin' futz!!!!!!!

 

[sasu]

That sort of behaviour would also be typical for a psychopath/sociopath. No regard for the well being of others, just him/herself as the center of the universe.

It is not so important if a person would be really diagnosed with such a personality disorder or not, but it is very important for people being treated like that to recognize the manipulation for what it is and get themselves out of the situation, better sooner than later. It is really hard to do if the manipulator is a close member of the family, but it does not make sense to destroy your own life and lives of the other people around you, either.

Such manipulators pull every string trying to find the ones that work best. Most often they work on the feeling of guilt. The manipulators abuse to their own advantage the social instincts most people have.

 

[Crazy K38]

thanks, when I was down there she did that a lot! I had been wondering if she was a sociopath, but with her being my mother and raised like that I didn't really see too much wrong. IDK why I trusted her but it won't happen again

 

[Crazy K38]

oh s***, oh well, yeah it was me not a buddy, but anyway yeah I think she is nuts now

 

[Zilmo]

Yup, whack-job.

 

[GatorFarmer]

Only a competent mental health professional who's actually examined someone can arrive at an accurate diagnosis. That said, it sounds more like bipolar disorder to me. Bipolar people - aka manic depressives - do things like that quite a bit. Charming sometimes, hateful other times, it makes for an interesting cycle. I lived with a bipolar girl for a while. Good times, good times.

It could also be drugs, legal or illegal. If someone is in fact in ill health, they might be taking all sorts of things that could influence their mood and/or thinking.

My advice to your friend would be to go join the Navy.

 

[Crazy K38]

I can't my wife hates the thought of me in the armed forces and vows a divorce if I try it

 

[GatorFarmer]

I can't my wife hates the thought of me in the armed forces and vows a divorce if I try it

I don't blame her, since being a military spouse isn't a lot of fun. However I thought your "friend" was the one with the problem?

 

[Crazy K38]

yeah I accidentally let that oune out of the bag a few posts earlier, I really don't like letting people know about her, because a few people have the whole' apple don't fall far from the tree' though and I have tried hard to not be like her, plus I kinda hate the fact I am related to her

 

[USAF385]

because a few people have the whole' apple don't fall far from the tree'

I've seen apples that rolled quite a ways from the tree once they've fallen.

I wouldn't recommend the military for a young guy with a young family. Especially the Navy (they don't let families on the boat). I'm not just saying this because of obvious reasons, but the Air Force is a great place to raise a family depending on your career, as long as the wife doesn't mind being away from her family. With the right Air Force career you could easily do a 4 year term with no deployment.

 

[GatorFarmer]

Gotcha, I missed the post where it was really you. Don't worry about it. Even if insanity does run in a family, it sometimes skips generations or takes different forms. I'm an entirely different sort of crazy than my parents for example. It's more of a genetic predisposition anyway when it comes to things like bi polar disorder. It doesn't mean that a person will develop a given condition.

You might choose to avail yourself of family counseling if you do seek to make ammends with your mother.

My wife left her mother behind for the Navy years ago, and only recently talks to her again. I still avoid my parents. Lots of people have odd family dramas. Heck, my much storied maternal grandfather was going to shoot my father at one point. Don't let it get you down.

 

[Crazy K38]

thanks gator and USAF believe it or not I look forward to reading your posts, I find I can't trust people a can see but i can trust people I have never met! lol, you guys on the forum are about my closest friends

 

[USAF385]

Anytime

 

[GatorFarmer]

If you can't get good life advice from strangers on a gun forum, where can you get it?

Seriously, it's a fairly mature and level headed bunch here and there's usually good advice when members have various personal problems or a crisis that is perplexing them. Many people have varied life experience, so someone usually knows something about even obscure topics.

 

[Old 44 Guy]

Wow

K-38; Brings back some memories of long ago. Guess my mother was Bi Polar. Sounds like it anyway. She loved & hated in the same sentence. Cursed my Dad & said she loved all of us. Dad died in 1968 & Mom died in 1999. Think Dad died of a broken heart. I had married by then & had 3 kids.Mom deceided she wanted a blood test on my kids. My wife flipped out as you know.We wanted to get her help but NO GO. I feel for you. Keep your head up & things will get better. My Father, Mother, Wife are gone now but I still look for tomorrow. Heading to Calif. next Thursday to be with my kids & grandkids. Makes a nice vacation but I don't stay long enough to wear out my welcome. Have to stay around long enough to vote our Pres. OUT !!!!

 

[BarbC]

Sometimes you just have to keep your distance - emotionally and physically - for the sake of your own sanity and that of your wife and kids.

 

[2Loud4You]

Ok, you DO see the irony in your screen name then, right? My ex-wife was bi-polar but she wasn't as crazy as you describe your mother so I'd say your mom has some extra issues. I don't know wow I'd deal with that, I love both my parents and they're still together BUT when the mind starts going things change. I'm sorry you can't have a healthy relationship with her which means your family can't either because you'll put to much stress on them. If your wife hates the idea of the military and considering what you've already put your family through, I'd settle down somewhere and just live a happy life raising a family. If you need to do something for your mother, go visit her but maybe leave the family at home.