Had a radical prostatectomy for a Gleason grade 8 tumor, after having 4 biopsies. There was certainly no dignity in the biopsies, I'd say they did not hurt, even with 16 needles each time, but did have some very strange sensations and a little bleeding for a couple days.
I've been cancer free now 15 years, and everything worked as it should afterward.
My options were
1. a couple forms of radiation - pro: no surgery, con: it burns tissue and removes future surgery as an option.
2. Da Vinci robotic prostatectomy - pro: smaller incisions and quicker recovery, can still have future radiation, con: can't check surrounding lymph nodes
3. Open radical prostatectomy - pro: can biopsy lymph nodes or any surrounding tissue, can have future radiation if needed, con: longer recovery, more of the usual risks of surgery; e.g. bleeding, infection
I chose 3, was 6 days in the hospital, very little pain, and was much relieved to hear that surrounding lymph nodes and surgical margins were cancer-free, and that meant nerves were spared and that left all post operative functions as normal.
If you have questions or want to just talk, PM me and I'll be glad to help if I can.