Quick question please, Yes or No response
- Thread starter ColbyBruce
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ColbyBruce
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Not the issue here.
I was asked by the young man if he could confide in me; but figuring what the topic might be, I suggested he confide in the young ladles maternal grandpa. Grandpa raised both of their mothers, and lives nearby.
Thank you all.
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Absalom
SWCA Member, Absent Comrade
Apart from the "minding your own business" angle:
I'm noticing your wording: You think, or you know?
If you just think, that doubles the NO WAY.
That could turn out as bad as those "I think your wife is having an affair" scenarios where it turns out she doesn't ...
PS: Just saw what you wrote as I was writing. Good move.
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If you're invited to the wedding, the perfect time to make your objection known is when the person officiating states: "If anyone objects to the marriage of this couple, speak now or forever hold your peace." Do it! I dare ya 
DeathGrip
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I suggest staying out of their business just like I shoulda stayed out of this thread.
I can't change anything from here and probably would make thing worse if I was there.
I can't change anything from here and probably would make thing worse if I was there.
Absalom
SWCA Member, Absent Comrade
If you're invited to the wedding, the perfect time to make your objection known is when the person officiating states: "If anyone objects to the marriage of this couple, speak now or forever hold your peace." Do it! I dare ya
The OP can correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't get the impression that this is about objecting to the marriage per se.
The issue seems to be the wisdom or ethics of keeping something from very dear friends which the OP may feel they should know about.
DeathGrip
US Veteran
"If you thought"
That's huge.
That's huge.
LVSteve
Member
Not your monkeys, not your circus.
No. You don't want to be the one in the middle of that situation.
Am I reading into your comment that they might be related?
Family skeletons in the closet?
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ColbyBruce
Member
No relation. A hardship case, basically.
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ColbyBruce
Member
Exactly. I referred the confidentialities to a family elder.
I have read that domestic disputes are one of the most dangerous things that LEOs get involved in. If it's not harming me or what's mine there's no way I'm going to get involved in other peoples family. They reared their children so let them deal with the consequences in their own way in their own time. Larry
I would suggest staying out of it. It's not your business.
No.
If it comes up later, and you're asked, "didn't you know?," explain that you puzzled over the best course, and made what you thought was the best decision out of respect and consideration for your friend.
Meanwhile, let's all wish the young couple well. They are the two that matter here. It's a big, big step, and a tough one to make at 19. Fraught with danger, and anger, on all sides, and nothing to sustain them but their love for one another. But for the lucky, the blessed, as some of us know, that is more than enough.
Here's hoping they make it!
If it comes up later, and you're asked, "didn't you know?," explain that you puzzled over the best course, and made what you thought was the best decision out of respect and consideration for your friend.
Meanwhile, let's all wish the young couple well. They are the two that matter here. It's a big, big step, and a tough one to make at 19. Fraught with danger, and anger, on all sides, and nothing to sustain them but their love for one another. But for the lucky, the blessed, as some of us know, that is more than enough.
Here's hoping they make it!
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Lonegle57
Member
guessing what the young man wanted to talk about and reality may be two different things
7shooter
Member
I'd stay out of it.
OTOH my wife and I got married at 19 and 54 years later are still married although statistics suggest that teenage marriages don't last.
What strikes me Colby..(And don't take it wrong),,,You "THOUGHT" the girl had married her boyfriend...
Don't you know, one way or the other?..
What makes you suspect they are married?
As other before me have given their opinion..mine too is.... Let sleeping dogs lay...
WuzzFuzz
No .
Negative, Ghost Rider...
Alton
Member
I had a family member that was 13 when she ran off with her 14 year old boyfriend to West Texas to run a ranch. They finally got married and their family's finally accepted/forgave them. I think they where married for 75 plus years before one of them passed. They where my Great Aunt and Uncle. Love is love, no use trying to change or interfere.
. . . .Why??????
keith44spl
Member
No..........
It takes all of my waking hour to tend to my own business,
no time left to mind other folks affairs
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It takes all of my waking hour to tend to my own business,
no time left to mind other folks affairs
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Tom Kent
US Veteran
If the couple did, in fact, get married it may cause some rift or hard feelings within the two families. Those families will look for someone to blame for these feelings. If an outsider has entered the picture with "news" of the event they will quickly become the target of one or both families anger. If you value yourself,stay out of it.
Not. Your. Business.
So, NO.
See, that was easy.
So, NO.
See, that was easy.
washerman
Member
No...You said you "thought" therefore you don't know
Lady Smith
Member
They are 19yo, they do what they want to do, don't mind, it's not your business.
Grayfox
US Veteran
Aw Hell NO!
Never pass up a good opportunity to shut up.
Never pass up a good opportunity to shut up.
