I suspect the lady is good at a lot of things.
Guns not being one of them.
Your effort will be better spent aiding her in the betterment of the things she is already good at.
Everybody I've ever crossed paths with who complained about the "rigors" of operating a firearm never blossomed into a competent shooter.
YMMV... but it probably won't.
Not what you wanted to hear I'm sure, but reality is real.
This is so true in many aspects. Many years ago before and after we were married my wife was a 2nd Amendment fan (wouldn't have married her otherwise) but did not see a reason for her own firearm.
I traveled a lot for many years and shortly after we were married she saw a 65LS in an NRA magazine and said I'd like one of these for the times you are out of town. One day in Ft. Morgan,CO I couldn't help myself and stopped into the gun shop...he had one and we made a deal. In 20+ years it got a few hundred rounds (maybe).
She wasn't confident with it ever. It's locked up now because it's a fine in box all papers item...
Work took up way too much time over the last 4 years and I lost sight of balance and family. Last year We/I decided we needed more time together. What to do...? We tried lot's of stuff and so today,among other things, once a month or so we spend a day shooting at the range (I clean the guns...she cooks up something great).
She LOVES to go shoot. She prefers autos...I prefer revolvers...we are each better with our preference. In the last year my darling wife has become confident with guns and guns have helped us rediscover our connection.
Tell ol' Hildagard and Bernie that!
So...the moral of the story is...as life goes along things change...complacency can in fact be replaced by necessity. Especially in metro Denver commie CO.
Be patient with your loved one. A .22 is better than nothing, a .22 Mag may follow , a .38 may be next...take it slow , up-size in increments...let the confidence build. Someday she may just take some pops in a .44 Mag and say wow I just drilled a hole in that 1/4" piece of steel...you sure did honey.
Unfortunately one day she may make you look like **** when she's popping away with an auto or whatever! Take it slow and let things sink in. Most ladies think different than men do...thats just fine. We need them just as much as they need men...patience pays.