Right or wrong

[wingriderz]

I have an on going issuses with neighbors. Last night I pulled on to our street to find the neighbors blocking the road .Its a dirt rural road. I slowed to a crawl when I saw this. As I got closer and crawling alot of the adults moved out the street. The one problem child decided to let his pit bulll loose and run in front of the car too. I still was at a crawl and dog decided to go into his yard. I didn't say a word to any of them . But gave them a look as they where yelling not so nice word. My question did I handel it correctly by refusing to be bullied ? Thoughts please?

 

[Arik]

I don't quite understand the problem. How were you bullied? Did they block you? If so why?

I'm guessing there is some history there?

But generally speaking not getting involved in disputes is the right thing to do



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[Ziggy2525]

I have an on going issuses with neighbors. Last night I pulled on to our street to find the neighbors blocking the road .Its a dirt rural road. I slowed to a crawl when I saw this. As I got closer and crawling alot of the adults moved out the street. The one problem child decided to let his pit bulll loose and run in front of the car too. I still was at a crawl and dog decided to go into his yard. I didn't say a word to any of them . But gave them a look as they where yelling not so nice word. My question did I handel it correctly by refusing to be bullied ? Thoughts please?

Hard to say if you handled it correctly.

IIRC, you've posted about them quite a bit. The sociopaths next door. Apologies if that's not right. Doesn't sound like you'll ever get them kicked out. No good answer, but from my perspective, you only have three options...

1) You can figure out some way to coexist with them (it may not be possible).

2) You can move.

3) You can live in a constant state of conflict with them. I'm guessing they have a lot more experience living like that than you do, so that may not be a great choice.

If they're swearing at you and you're making faces at them, that probably works for #2 and #3. Not so much for #1.

For #1, you could try the "speak softly and carry a big stick" approach. Give them a big wave and smile every time you see them, regardless of their behavior. Every time they trespass, call the sheriff. If they confront you about it, give them your biggest smile and say "Was that you hon?. I'm sorry, I always call the sheriff when someone I don't recognize is on the property."

If they are as big of sociopaths as you've said, moving or living in perpetual conflict may be the only two realistic options.

 

[wingriderz]

Yes blocking me from being abel to get to my gate. Our history is they trepass and vandazile and steal.

 

[Old cop]

I'm not sure about your financial situation but to me life is too short to put up w/this 24/7. Sooner or later you will be drawn into a conflict and the outcome will not be good, regardless of who the "winner" is. Sell & move away ASAP. I know b/c I found myself in a similar situation.

 

[arjay]

If you are really stuck with this bunch,they shouldn't be too hard to deal with.Look how they live,they are idiots! Schmooze em!

 

[Tenn2]

I had problems with one of my neighbors and had approached him on my own the first time. Just got a blank stare back. The second time (this involved a firearm) I got the sheriff involved and thought it was taken care of.
Nope!

He decided he was above the law as he continued his behavior.
Again The sheriff was called and this time he was threatened with jail time. Problem solved so far as it has been months since the incident.

It can be extremely aggravating but it is best left up to the police. Maybe a trip to your local PD and have a discussion with the top officer. Good luck.

 

[Arik]

Set up cameras around your property. They are not expensive and can link to your WiFi and send images to your phone. Many have two way talk so you can actually talk through the camera and record as well.

Get them legally.
Just deal with it and avoid confrontation
Move

3 options

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[Steve K]

If moving is an option it is probable the best one. I doubt this behavior will change; they seem to be trash. In the small town I worked in we had a "family" like the one you described. We were there often. On one call the women stated "If I had a truck I'd move." The next day the Chief rented a truck and we helped her move out of town.

 

[misswired]

Been there done that(dirt road,pit bulls and theft)!
Let me fast forward you about a decade.
The wife left the drunken woman beater.
The thief is doing twenty with no parole.
The little **** boys grew up and moved away from drunk daddy.
The school bus mashed three different pit bulls( I worked with the bus driver).
Drunk daddys health has failed to the extent he signed the property over to the young daughter for her help with his care.
Young daughter likes small dogs and does good keeping them outta the road.
Threats, warrants, altercations, civil conversations, hand gestures did nothing but fuel the fire.
One responding officer told me to totally ignore them, they'd find someone else to feud with...felt sorry for a couple sets of new neighbors...but they took the heat until the rotten family caused their own demise.
Ignore...Ignore...Ignore!! I still don't look that way when passing just outta habit.

 

[Lee's Landing Billy]

Are you still there? You asked for Forum advice about this weeks ago. There will come a time when you can't take it another second. Leave NOW.....Nothing good can come out of this. The fact that it is still going on should be proof enough for you. If you don't leave we will eventually be reading about you in the papers. You do not seem to be the type to ignore these folks, so, a confrontation is sure .

 

[wingriderz]

Are you still there? You asked for Forum advice about this weeks ago. There will come a time when you can't take it another second. Leave NOW.....Nothing good can come out of this. The fact that it is still going on should be proof enough for you. If you don't leave we will eventually be reading about you in the papers. You do not seem to be the type to ignore these folks, so, a confrontation is sure .

Yes with all due respect to all on board. Leaving is not an option. We own it like most likely 99% on board here it's not a just leave solution.

 

[Ziggy2525]

Yes with all due respect to all on board. Leaving is not an option. We own it like most likely 99% on board here it's not a just leave solution.

So now you're down to two choices. Figure out a way to coexist with them or gird yourself for a long road of conflict.

If you you choose coexistence, what kind of options do you have?

 

[Watchdog]

Are you still there? You asked for Forum advice about this weeks ago.

Yep. And I don't see any new useful advice in this thread that wasn't in the previous threads about this.

If you don't leave we will eventually be reading about you in the papers.

Nope. If this continues, we'll eventually just get tired of reading about it anywhere, and won't even bother to comment on it, because this has simply become one of those S.O.S.-Different-Day situations.

I sympathize with the OP's problem, but with all the advice he's gotten here (some that was totally ridiculous, if I remember correctly), it's time to either sh...take some kind of action to resolve the problem, or just live with it and stop going on and on about it.

 

[wingriderz]

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[Ziggy2525]

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I don't think you should stop posting about it. You're frustrated. Maybe somewhat fearful. If this is the venue you have for bouncing ideas off people, you should use it. You may not always like the feedback you get. You get to sort through what you think will work for you (and what won't).

You're going to have to come to grips that there is no magic bullet to fix your problem. You can sell and move, probably at a loss. You can try to figure out how to coexist with your neighbor, either by ignoring them or developing a relationship with them. Or you can fight with them for the unforseen future.

Simple choices, hard implementation.

 

[pittpa]

Dash cam, too.


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[misswired]

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One last thought...NEVER present yourself to be armed!!!
The fools may gun you down.
They will lie under oath...all of them against you.
They will never confront you in public(witnesses).
The end game is to bring you down to their level.
Always be level headed and the smart' one...anger is NOT your friend.

Invisible revenge: Once a can of 'bad' gas happened to fall off my tailgate at the head of their four wheeler trail( they saw it fall off)...Before I could get back to retrieve it...was already in their ATV and lawnmower. None of the neighbors offered to mow their overgrown grass that summer. For some reason, they never enjoyed that four wheeler again....

 

[poordevil]

This sounds like a Drama that is not going to end well

 

[gwpercle]

Be nice , you have to live with them.
No way to wave a magic wand and make them dissappear.
Be kind , be civil , give them them the golden rule treatment.
Don't give them ugly " looks ".
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you...
Simply .... Be Nice to them, you don't have to love them , approve of their dress or actions but by being nice , a smile a wave ....how you doing ....that goes a long way in having a harmonious neighborly relationship .
Gary