Stolen gun returned!

[jmace57]

I will just say that my wife's mother died over 30 years ago. And missing pieces of jewelry are still showing up at family gatherings being worn by the kids and grandkids of the Executrix of her Will (who was a family member). Every item that was not specifically bequested to one of her children, ended up in the Executrix's jewelry box, rather than having been split up. My wife's mother's family was quite wealthy and some of the items were worth tens of thousands of dollars.

My wife and I have been very careful to make very specific bequests for ALL of the valuable items we own. And we review and update the list fairly regularly.

 

[Muley Gil]

My mom and (step)dad had a trust set up a number of years ago. When my dad died in 2013, everything went to my mom. My step brothers and sisters were all teared up and of course promised to check on my mom.

As time went on, mom only heard from one of the step sisters on a regular basis. When she sold her house, my youngest step brother didn't have time to receive the items his daddy had left to him. My younger half brother only called mom twice a year and couldn't be bothered to visit.

Needless to say, mom decided to change her will, cutting out most of the step children and my younger half brother. She even told me that she didn't want any of the step children at her memorial service when she died. When mom fell and went into a coma early last year, I notified my younger brother. Mom had a DNR order in place and the docs said she was only alive because of the breathing machine. I had them pull the plug, as she definitely didn't want to be a vegetable.

The next day, little brother and I went with the executor of the trust to the bank. Brother was very upset to see that he was only to get her cookbooks, which he had requested to receive. I tried to explain how hurt mom had been when he (younger brother) basically ignored her after dad had died. I also told him I would take care of him once the estate was settled.

Since mom died in the winter, the memorial service was postponed until spring. I called my brother numerous times, but he never returned my calls. He didn't show up for the service nor did he come get his cookbooks.

I decided not to send him a check if he couldn't show enough respect to show up for her service.

 

[Old TexMex]

Muley, you have my respect. I was executor and had to explain what "final wishes" meant.

I explained: It doesn't mean "what y'all thinks best" or "what y'all think is fair", it means "what Mom said to do".