Teen's note to self...Don't make Dad mad!

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I've noticed that there are short clips of this online where him reading the entire blast she put online is cut out. Apparently they have a woman who comes in to clean occasionally (how often I don't know) but who does it on a barter basis because she's having a hard time and he said "Do not ever again refer to her as the cleaning lady." Also the daughter had just spent 3 months grounded (no computer, etc.) for a similar rant on Facebook. This rant she tried to hide from her parents even as dad was spending money and time on her to upgrade her software. But a lot of the blame for things like that belong on us as parents because we want our kids to have what we didn't. I know a teen who just could not live without a new smart phone. Why? Her smart phone was sixth months old and some of her friends had newer phones so hers was out of date. Her parents bought her the new one. Children now days want all the new electronics a child just has to have so they can survive by not coming out of their rooms except for school and meals. I was at the library the other day and their computers were down. A teen wailed to her mom,"How am I going to research my homework." Her mom pointed around the library, looked at the teen and said, "They are called books. Look it up!" This apparent brat from the video doesn't need that shot up computer to do homework, just a visit to the library. She might actually learn something in the process if she reads a book instead of Wikipedia.

People mention his humiliating her by posting this on YouTube but what about her posting her rant on Facebook. You know some of her friends shared that so she was humiliating her parents in public also.

When he was still in school, the first time my son put a BIG dent in my car on a pole, I told him to be more careful. The second time when he messed up the front end by running off the road I made him pay for it out of pocket. The third accident in six months when he hit another car, I cut his DL up right in front of him. We let him get it back a month later but a month of riding his bike to his girlfriends house at age 17 and using her car taught him a big lesson. He's not had another wreck in over 20 years.

Like I said, since this was the kids second offense for basically the same thing, I would have used a shotgun on the laptop, cut off her phone and, if she had one, confiscated the iPod. Then I would give her a library card and, IF I could find one, a transistor radio with one earplug. Teens are a lot like an old mule. Sometimes you just have to do a little extra to get their attention!

CW
"When I was a child, I was appalled at my parents ignorance. When I became a man, I was amazed at how much they had learned." - Mark Twain
 
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Before you jump on this guy listen to the video very carefully, including the letter his daughter published on Facebook. And it will help if you've walked in his shoes.
 
I'm basically a nice guy, (really!) and I can gaurandamtee that the laptop would have been toast. Don't know about the .45, (maybe a chainsaw). As far as her being "scarred", actions have consequences.

Way to go dad. YMMV.
 
The absolute best comment I've seen on this video involved a grandson with a dog collar!:D
 
Just watched the entire video. I don't agree with what the man did by destroying the laptop,but I can understand his frustration with the girl. I will admit though he was very calm and collected about it all, and I don't know if that's good or bad.
 
The absolute best comment I've seen on this video involved a grandson with a dog collar!:D

"You get mad at your daughter and shoot her laptop. She see's it's OK to shoot stuff and robs a liquor store. she's arrested and goes to prison where her cellmate teaches her how to smuggle drugs into the U.S. She escapes from prison, steals a plane, and becomes a wealthy drug smuggler. A flock of seagulls get caught in her propeller and she crashes into the ocean. don't hurt a flock of innocent seagulls. Get rid of Comcast and get DIRECTV."
 
My kids go to a small private school, no computers in the school at all. The report cards are typed onto an old card stock report card with an old type writer. Sadly, this will be thier last year in that school as I've been moved to Utah. I'm hoping I can find a decent private school here to put them in. I have no plans of letting them have thier own laptops, they will have a computer in the main living space of the house they can access. We don't have tvs in any room but the living room, and that's not going to change.

I'm on the fence about this issue, but I think he did what needed to be done. Let her rant in a real diary if she is that upset about it. Social media is a curse...
 
i probably wouldn't have shot the computer as it could have been sold, but it was his decision and i support it. Flame away. I've got asbestos undies :p
 

Thanks for posting the update. Being a parent is a real challenge today, more so than what my parents had to deal with in the 50's. The competition from sources outside the home is, for many young people (and their parents) overwhelming. But kids and parents, most anyways, are resilient and I believe this family will get through this. Now if the media will just cut them a little slack to work things out..........
 
I don't know If I would have shot the laptop. Probably would have sold it. Plus I'm a cheapskate and would not destroy something that had value. Shooting would have shown I have no control over my own temper. In my day you would have got a good beating, girl or boy. I prefer being mentally superior. Showing anger can defeat any intended message. A calculated response works better for me and leaves a different image. When they find out they can't push your buttons they stop trying. My oldest daughter who is now 32 tried to pull a "I'm moving out of the house cause I can" when she was 16. Boyfriend issue. I was startled for a moment but then started helping her pack. She says "why are you helping me?" No brainer says I. I don't have to worry about where you are or what you're doing and look at all the money I'm going to save. Less food I have to buy, no new clothes, the electricity and water bill will probably go down by half. Now his parents can worry about all that stuff. I thought my wife was going to choke on her own tongue to keep from laughing. The packing went on for about a half an hour and my daughter starts crying. I'm not saying anything. She finally comes out with, "dad I don't really want to move". Then why am I packing all this stuff? "Cause I'm mad." We'll I said, I'll be damned if I'm unpacking it. Suppers at 6:30. We had a nice father, daughter talk later. The boy friend is old history.:)
DW
 
I disagree about the dad losing control.

At all times on the video and his news interviews, he appear calm and rational. He also has exceptionally good taste in gun platforms and calibers.

He simply destroyed the laptop for a lesson. I just wish I could see the other side of the laptop.

Many years ago, my youngest daughter was "helping" decorate the Christmas tree. She accidentally dropped a couple of the decorative balls. This made her feel so badly she would not stop crying about it. We tried to tell her it is ok and only an accident. No joy. I picked up several of them and threw them one at a time into the brick fireplace to show her they were only things and nothing of importance. She stopped crying and learned a lesson in life.

The guy gave his daughter a lesson she will not forget and he did so in a calm and easy going manner.

I bet the daughter is a brat to begin with.
 
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Quite a few interesting responses from our group here. I will add mine with a story. When I was 12, I received a set of wood and plastic tinker-toys,( name could of been different) Before the first week of having them was over, I made little rubber band guns out of them and was using them to shoot my younger brother 7. My Dad told me several times to stop, using verbal, and physical pressure applied to my back side. However, I continued to use them in an unacceptable manner.

The next time I did it, probably the next day, he had me gather them all up and meet in the den. There I loaded them into the fire place, lit the fire, and sat and watched them burn. Memory is fuzzy but I cried the whole time, probably telling him I was sorry and I wouldnt do it again, but to now avail.

I learned several lessons that day. My father meant what he said, and breaking the rules meant you could loose everything. My job was to look out for my younger brother, not harm him. Wood tinker toys burn hot and very fast.

My attitude changed at that point, maybe a defining moment of which path in life I would go down. I didn't commit suicide, start robbing banks, or become a serial arsonist. I remember that day still, although my father doesnt, my mother seems to think he just threw them away. Some lessons need to be sharp and to the point, so they a lifetime mark to remember by.

I now have 4 kids of my own, 2 boys 2 girls. Each one is different. A stern look will correct the oldest or the youngest. Jr, needs the fear of Dad, and he gets the point, My oldest daughter, the 3rd child, (i was the 3rd out of 4 as well) is my "the sins of the father" child. She is my reminder of what a pain in the *** I was to my mom and dad till the moment. Im hopping to find a different way to reach her, each child is different only time will tell.

Holding hands and singing wont solve every situtation
 
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