I have 5 safes and routinely wear 5 rings. I like guns AND jewelry.
The dreaded “It’s the gun or me” gauntlet...
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I have 5 safes and routinely wear 5 rings. I like guns AND jewelry.
BLACKHAWKNJ
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It's the old question of "Who's life is it anyway ?" Like all the guys I have known, put in their 40 hours a week-"There's no money!" Pull down the OT, get a part time job-"You're never home!" And what does she give up?
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Maybe the gun wasn't the issue ..... maybe it was the fact it was a Taurus.
UncleEd
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This thread was started in September
of 2011.
I imagine a lot of guns have come and
gone. And a lot of mates have come and
gone.
of 2011.
I imagine a lot of guns have come and
gone. And a lot of mates have come and
gone.
laterider
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I seem to have been the one to bring this back most recently...lol.
Not the first forum I've gone necroposter! I'm going to have to avoid the similar posts list and read dates better!
Thread is a good read for younger guys here though, life is too short so choose wisely!
Not the first forum I've gone necroposter! I'm going to have to avoid the similar posts list and read dates better!
Thread is a good read for younger guys here though, life is too short so choose wisely!
Grayfox
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Old thread but still a good topic. 
I just wonder how I missed it before? 
First off, how in the hell do you get to the point of marrying someone and they NOT know you're a gun nut? Totally boggles my mind.
My late wife was a farm girl. Guns were never a problem. Ok, maybe I over spent once in a while. But it passed.
Before we got married I told her that I will do most anything you ask of me, but don't ever tell me what to do. I extended her the same courtesy. She tried a couple of times early on, but soon learned it wasn't going to fly. We had 33 good years together.
Anyway I've been single for quite a while now and as such, I've been on several internet dating sights off and on over the years. Standard procedure is to check the profiles and if you find someone you like, send them a message. Or they send you one if they like you. Then you message back and forth for a while to see if you actually have things in common and want to have a real date. I always make it a point that early on in the conversations that I mention my gun hobby, that I have a handgun permit and that I'm usually armed anytime I leave the house. Usually in the 2nd or 3rd message. Believe it or not, I have yet to find a woman who thought this was a problem. Some aren't concerned by it, some get curious. Many of them like the fact that I carry. In fact, just yesterday I had lunch with a new lady and she had already mentioned that when we meet, she would have a Kimber Compact .45 in her purse!
GOD! I love southern women!
I just wonder how I missed it before? First off, how in the hell do you get to the point of marrying someone and they NOT know you're a gun nut? Totally boggles my mind.
My late wife was a farm girl. Guns were never a problem. Ok, maybe I over spent once in a while. But it passed.
Before we got married I told her that I will do most anything you ask of me, but don't ever tell me what to do. I extended her the same courtesy. She tried a couple of times early on, but soon learned it wasn't going to fly. We had 33 good years together.
Anyway I've been single for quite a while now and as such, I've been on several internet dating sights off and on over the years. Standard procedure is to check the profiles and if you find someone you like, send them a message. Or they send you one if they like you. Then you message back and forth for a while to see if you actually have things in common and want to have a real date. I always make it a point that early on in the conversations that I mention my gun hobby, that I have a handgun permit and that I'm usually armed anytime I leave the house. Usually in the 2nd or 3rd message. Believe it or not, I have yet to find a woman who thought this was a problem. Some aren't concerned by it, some get curious. Many of them like the fact that I carry. In fact, just yesterday I had lunch with a new lady and she had already mentioned that when we meet, she would have a Kimber Compact .45 in her purse!
GOD! I love southern women!
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carpriver
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I didn't start collecting fire arms until we had been married for some years, I had a shot gun, a deer rifle, and a squirrel gun (22lr). She was raised in a home with guns. So there really was not a discussion about guns. I believe marriage is about compromise, Some times you get what you want and sometimes you don't. Marriage is not a game, not a win lose relationship it's not about keeping score. We married young, both of us in our teens both from dysfunctional families, her parent's were abusive and alcoholic. every weekend in was drinking and physical fights. My mother was mentally ill and abusive to her children. We learned to trust each other we learned to fight fair, and to say I am sorry. we learned to let go of the small stuff, and found out most stuff is small. we are separate people with different likes and dislikes different views.
My wife is at a quilting retreat this weekend, it's something she enjoys and looks forward to all year.. When she left this morning she said thanks for letting me go to the retreat. I said your going because you want to go. I can take care of myself for a couple of days.
we have been married 53 years, It has been mostly good with some challenges and losses I still love as much now as I did when me met.
My wife is at a quilting retreat this weekend, it's something she enjoys and looks forward to all year.. When she left this morning she said thanks for letting me go to the retreat. I said your going because you want to go. I can take care of myself for a couple of days.
we have been married 53 years, It has been mostly good with some challenges and losses I still love as much now as I did when me met.
JcMack
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That's what my cardiologist whispered to his nurse on my last office examination.
mike from st pete
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Why do folks get upset when an old tread is revived?
My wife ( of 50 years come November ) is great. She does not particularly like guns ( she has her reasons which I understand ) but basically says get what you want and do whet you want with them ( She has even surprised me with one at times ) but don't talk to her about them as she has no interest. She is pretty much the same with my knives, get whet I want but to her they are a kitchen tool (to be put in the dishwasher LOL )
It's more than just guns. As I got older I realized that I had to accept people as I found them. If there is something, anything going on that significantly bothers you, you'd better make a decision as to whether you are willing to put up with it for the rest of your life. I have walked away from at least two relationships because there were things that occurred that made me feel I would end up walking on eggs, and I accepted that it was not going to change. I'm an old bachelor, did I miss the boat?
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Old Corp
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I'm on wife #2 - when we were dating, I learned she had a gun safe before I ever did.
Long story short - we wed, and she has no issues with any hardware accumulation I indulge in, or about anything I wanna do.
It's ALL about give and take.
Don't enter into anything with edicts involved......
Long story short - we wed, and she has no issues with any hardware accumulation I indulge in, or about anything I wanna do.
It's ALL about give and take.
Don't enter into anything with edicts involved......
Protocall_Design
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No - you missed the landmine. You can't make someone else change. They will only change if they want to, from the inside. It is far better to find someone you like just the way they are. There will always be minor irritations, but it's a lot easier on everyone if the big things line up. The bottom line is - If you both want to make it work, it will work. It takes 2 to make it work, but only 1 to make it not work.
Well said, Protocall Design.
This thread may be old but I guess it's a "timeless" subject. Ultimatum-givers are bad juju. As someone said earlier along, sooner or later "it will be both." Yup. JMHO.
This thread may be old but I guess it's a "timeless" subject. Ultimatum-givers are bad juju. As someone said earlier along, sooner or later "it will be both." Yup. JMHO.
My girlfriend is total anti-gun but since we first met at the Arizona State USPSA Championships 20 years ago she doesn't mine my having guns.
Recently we were going to move into assisted living quarters. The problem was that they did not allow guns. I had to sell my meager collection and all my reloading equipment. I was loading 2000 rounds a week on my Dillon 650 but my health was degrading and I don't know how long I would have been able to keep up.
The good news is that when we decided to stay in our house I just bought a couple of .22 Ruger Mark IVs and started stocking up on ammo. I now have in excess of 50K rounds of what my guns like. I just ordered two more cases of Eley Action Plus for Steel Challenge Matches. My practice ammo is CCI Mini Mags which have about the same velocity. Neither give me any problems.
I still let her know when I buy a gun but she doesn't say anything. It's my money anyway and she realizes how safe I am. I also leave all my guns in the safe unless I am working on them or shooting them.
Recently we were going to move into assisted living quarters. The problem was that they did not allow guns. I had to sell my meager collection and all my reloading equipment. I was loading 2000 rounds a week on my Dillon 650 but my health was degrading and I don't know how long I would have been able to keep up.
The good news is that when we decided to stay in our house I just bought a couple of .22 Ruger Mark IVs and started stocking up on ammo. I now have in excess of 50K rounds of what my guns like. I just ordered two more cases of Eley Action Plus for Steel Challenge Matches. My practice ammo is CCI Mini Mags which have about the same velocity. Neither give me any problems.
I still let her know when I buy a gun but she doesn't say anything. It's my money anyway and she realizes how safe I am. I also leave all my guns in the safe unless I am working on them or shooting them.
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Again, ask "Who's life is it anyway?" One acquaintance told me he was on active duty for 3 years, 9 years in the National Guard, left because the wife was always whining about his absences. Now, at age 60, still has the wife, doesn't have the pension. Gun ownership is a make or break requirement in a relationship, won't put up with a smoker or a drinker or a drug user either.
Another acquaintance told me what destroyed his marriage was they spent every vacation at his wife's parents. She couldn't let go of her girlhood, they couldn't let go of her.
I am one of those old bachelors-71. Missed the bus ? Lost track of the number of people who used to kid me about it now say they envy my independence, financial security, etc. As the old saying goes, "It is better to be alone than to wish you were. And giving ultimatums is a form of intimidation-and bullying.
People do change, rarely for the better.
Another acquaintance told me what destroyed his marriage was they spent every vacation at his wife's parents. She couldn't let go of her girlhood, they couldn't let go of her.
I am one of those old bachelors-71. Missed the bus ? Lost track of the number of people who used to kid me about it now say they envy my independence, financial security, etc. As the old saying goes, "It is better to be alone than to wish you were. And giving ultimatums is a form of intimidation-and bullying.
People do change, rarely for the better.
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