The loss of a loved one.

[carpriver]

Allen, I am so sorry for your loss. We lost our son in February of 2009. He was trying to get sober, but crack and women don't mix.Just the the day before he died the girl reenter his life. He was lonely and that made he vulnerable to her and the drugs and sex she brought to him. He died the next night from a burst artery. I got to talk with just hours before he died. He was so ashamed of his laps an wanted to talk ; about three hour later we got the call he did not make it thought the operation. He was just 10 day from his 32nd birthday.

There is nothing that hurts more then losing a child, He was my child I loved him unconditionally. He was a good human being that got lost and turned to drugs to help cope.

I can understand your feelings all I can say the with time you will get use to the pain and you will be able to get on with living. The hole in your heart with continue to be there, fill it with the memories of the goodness that was your son before the drugs.

Gods Peace be with you and your family.

 

[Allen-frame]

So sorry. It was very brave to share such a loss. Stay at peace.

People tell me this, but it is the only way I am surviving at this time.

Thank you kernel.

And thank you all for your prayers. They have pulled me along.


Allen

 

[Stevens]

Condolences, may your family and son find peace.

 

[16thVACav]

So sorry to hear of this tragedy.

 

[TX-Dennis]

I feel your pain. Losing a child is almost unbearable. We lost a baby; a boy we never really knew but were so looking forward to meeting many years ago. That pain nearly ripped my heart out. Still does sometimes. I cannot imagine how much worse the pain must be to lose a son that you DO know and love dearly. You are in my prayers.

 

[gman51]

Yes that is a tough experience no parent should experience. Drugs and booze are hard to beat.
I went through a similar experience and I was asked what was I going to do. I said I am going to go on living. What's done is done and I will not go down with it.

 

[Donn]

Condolences Allen. I know there's nothing we can say.

 

[Trooperdan]

It seems wrong to click on "like" for this, you have my sincere condolence, from one that shares your pain.

 

[Papa32129]

I am sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what your going through.
God Bless you.


Papa

 

[Pete99004]

So sorry for your loss Allen. My thoughts and prayers are for you and your family.

Pete99004

 

[BigBill]

Allen sorry for your loss. My prayers go out for you and your family.

 

[Grip_Maker's_Wife]

Allen, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story and beautifully written and encouraging epitaph. It has made others share and I am sorry for their grief as well. Nobody likes heartache, but I "liked" some posts to show my support.

Someone told me a couple years ago that the pain we feel when someone passes serves to remind us of how much we loved and still do. I could not agree more. I can relate in similar but different ways, and your post surely brought on the waterworks. May the embrace of Christ help carry you, your family, and your son's loved ones through this difficult time.

I love this poem that helps remind us of the better place our loved ones are in. They are whole again and free! Whenever I see a Yellow Swallowtail, I know it is my best friend saying hello.

Do not stand at my grave and weep by Mary Frye

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there, I did not die.

 

[JSR III]

Allen, as the oldest member of my family, I realize that I am the next one that should pass. I can not imagine seeing one of my children or grand children pass before me. That is a pain that no person should bear.

All I can say is to remember that your son is not gone away, but merely gone ahead.

 

[BigCityChief]

Allen, prayers offered for you, Mark, and the rest of your family.

 

[soFlaNative]

With profound sorrow and regret may I offer my sympathies.
You introduced me to the world of S&W and I am in your debt.
I wish you well in your time of grief.

Brad

 

[Grip_Maker's_Wife]

When I am feeling some of that heartache at missing a loved one I find comfort in these two songs....

[ame]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OOKaircCiGI[/ame]

and

[ame]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oLbG1HmfBIk[/ame]

 

[THEWELSHM]

It's not goodbye it's "see you later" Jesus Christ will show up to you and your family in a dream soon... It will be more real than you have ever felt or experienced, like you want it to last forever. Then the negative thoughts and resent will follow Allen. Being sadly from the lost child club feel free to pm me for my phone number....
God won't give you more than you can handle.... But he will get you close. It will take you a while to look at photos and even longer for video memories, run them in your head instead and ball yours eyes out to find sanity. my o2 mate

God bless

Paul
Thewelshm

 

[CH4]

My deepest condolences...

 

[bigride]

In my work, I hear too many stories of painful loss of life far too young due to drug overdose. I am truly sorry for your loss. My wife and I will be praying for you and your family.

 

[Rustyt1953]

Allen, I don't know you as we run in different circles but our membership, in this forum, speaks to a fraternity of like minded people.

What diminishes one diminishes all. There are members here that have lost children and grandchildren, myself included. Some were lost to disease, some to violence, some to suicide and some to things we can't understand.

The hole in our hearts may shrink over time but it will never go away. I thank you for sharing this most private tragedy as it allows us to earnestly pray for and support your family in any way we can.

In His Name.