Well, I am no expert, for sure, and I never owned a set of trifocals, because I can get along with bifocals, but I DO have a bit of experience with what is going on with me, almost none with what is going on with you. Nevertheless, maybe some of my comments will help.
First off, it depends on what you are trying to do. In my case, no glasses = close reading distance. Also, I am almost old (74), so ability to see at different distances comes from spectacles or bright sunlight, not eyeballs.
At my age, experience and daily routine, the top segment is corrected for infinity, certainly common practice, and, by my choice, the bottom segment is +1.75, meaning that I can see well at about 22.5 inches, just right for computer use, acceptable for reading, and excellent for dashboard instruments in my car. For extended reading of small print, I simply remove my glasses. Note that there is a lot more flexibility outdoors, where the light is brighter, which results in much greater tolerance of incorrect focus.
I find that the best position for the separation of upper and lower is such that when I look straight ahead (through the top segment), the division is just below where I take notice. The optometrist's assistant notes that this puts the separation (when I am looking straight ahead through the top segment), right at the bottom of the iris, which is generally considered the dividing line for the top of the middle segment of trifocals. This seems to me to be consistent with normal use of trifocals.
Because I am old, though not quite palsied, I usually shoot two-handed. This makes my +1.75 lower segment quite acceptable for target shooting, although even target focus can be usable with proper attention to sight picture.
It sounds to me like your (?) choices of segment prescription are quite appropriate, and positioning, as well. Nevertheless, the choice is ultimately yours, not your optometrist's.
It can easily take a couple of days to get used to any new prescription, or even just a new pair of glasses, with apparently identical prescription. Technical reasons abound.
I'd give it a few days, or more. You will learn to deal with your computer. Glad to hear that things (apparently) went so well with you. If it becomes clear that they haven't, post further and, God willing, someone will help out.