Inexplicably unmentioned as yet, is the wide variety of aftermarket revolver grips that can change the shape, "softness", texture, etc. of any given gun's grips to-or-from punishing to forgiving. If, as suggested, you take a hard look at J-frame revolvers, or any revolver, don't rule it out until trying it with soft, cushiony, rubber grips, or other materials and shapes that may be better suited to your hand's geometry than the stock factory offering. I once thought, for example, that I needed a soft rubber grip on my .357 J-frames. Then, I discovered that, instead, I really preferred the Craig Spegel designed "Boot Grip" with which I've subsequently and expensively equipped some J-frames. Trial is way cheaper than error --- shop around!