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Who Told You That You Could Call Me By My First Name?
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You were a kidd once!?
My! You've come a long way.
I am sorry.
But just could not resist.It was my dog that made me write this. Only I dont have a dog.
In one of my favorite books, Clavell's "Noble House", the setting is in Hong Kong and the major characters are mostly upper class English. An American comes to Hong Kong seeking to invest, and he asks about calling people by their first names; the British characters explain that the use of first names is reserved for family and very close friends, and that's how they tell who is whom.
America is generally a much more informal place, and I prefer to be addressed by my first name. In some cases, though, a more formal mode of address is the norm. For example, I've been going to a wound care center for over a year now; I go in twice a week, and there are about 8 nurses there who take turns attending me. Each and every one calls me "Mr." rather than by my first name, despite me asking them to use it. They said it was a professional courtesy that they use with all their patients.
America is generally a much more informal place, and I prefer to be addressed by my first name. In some cases, though, a more formal mode of address is the norm. For example, I've been going to a wound care center for over a year now; I go in twice a week, and there are about 8 nurses there who take turns attending me. Each and every one calls me "Mr." rather than by my first name, despite me asking them to use it. They said it was a professional courtesy that they use with all their patients.
keith44spl
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It kinda galls me to hear kids call their parents by their first names.
It just doesn't instill respect for when they (children) come of age.
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It just doesn't instill respect for when they (children) come of age.
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Old Arkansawyer
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When people call me Mr. I ask them to use my first name. Mr. makes me feel old, I am old just don't want to feel that way.
UncleEd
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All my life I've been addressed
as
Your Most Supreme Magnificent Excellency
Sometimes I wish friends would
just address me
as
Your Most Magnificent Excellency
as
Your Most Supreme Magnificent Excellency
Sometimes I wish friends would
just address me
as
Your Most Magnificent Excellency
TheHobbyist
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I kind of understand where you are coming from, but I'd let it go if you can.
In some situations, you are lucky just to have civility or decency.
I am a business man and am always addressed as Mr. TH or Sir. By younger people, I am always called Sir, but in truth, it makes me feel old when I am young at heart (and not old, by the way
).
In thinking about this a bit more, I am very rarely called by my first name but it is more endearing--if you will--when I hear that. YMMV.
In some situations, you are lucky just to have civility or decency.
I am a business man and am always addressed as Mr. TH or Sir. By younger people, I am always called Sir, but in truth, it makes me feel old when I am young at heart (and not old, by the way
).In thinking about this a bit more, I am very rarely called by my first name but it is more endearing--if you will--when I hear that. YMMV.
doublesharp
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I answer to Dave and have never been called mister. Wont tolerate it.
Ok, Buttercup...From now on I'll refer to you as you wish.
WuzzFuzz
No offense, just couldn't resist.....
Dad, Papaw, Rusty, Uncle Rusty, honey, Mr, sir, next, all work for me.
My father wanted to name me Samuel after his favorite uncle. Mom would have none of that. Dad called me Sam all his life. I answered.
My father wanted to name me Samuel after his favorite uncle. Mom would have none of that. Dad called me Sam all his life. I answered.
Badgerboy1
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Watch the news. Look at what's going on in society, on TV, in the movies...and this is worth spent energy? Sorry, but I can only think of the line from the old movie Stripes with Bill Murray..."Lighten up, Francis..."
Life is too short. Enjoy and make friends.
Life is too short. Enjoy and make friends.
I remember shortly after making captain on the PD I passed a detective/friend in the hallway. He asked if it was okay to call me Ken instead of referring to my rank and I said that my name had worked for over 25 years and I did not see any reason to change things.
MCorps0311
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If some called me by my first name.i'd probably keep walking, that's how long since i've heard someone call me by it.I don't remember people calling me by my first name,they been calling me by my nick name the last 49 years. That's the truth!
Did the same with my neighbors, worked out same way.
RobertJ.
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There are quite a few things nowadays worthy of being upset over, and what people call me is somewhere near the bottom of the list.
But I always use "sir" and "ma'am", and only use first names of the people I know.
But I always use "sir" and "ma'am", and only use first names of the people I know.
OP
sigp220.45
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On a slightly related note, I knew lots of FBI guys who would display their creds and say "Special Agent Mulder"' or whatever their name was to folks.
My shtick was always the same - a stupid smile and "Hi, I'm Brad from your friendly neighborhood FBI".
I always felt my way worked better. Sometimes people would wave at me on the street and holler out with a grin - Hey friendly neighborhood FBI!
I recently was called out of retirement to testify at an old rape case. The defense lawyer started his cross with "should I call you Agent?" I told him I didn't even prefer that when I really was one.
My shtick was always the same - a stupid smile and "Hi, I'm Brad from your friendly neighborhood FBI".
I always felt my way worked better. Sometimes people would wave at me on the street and holler out with a grin - Hey friendly neighborhood FBI!
I recently was called out of retirement to testify at an old rape case. The defense lawyer started his cross with "should I call you Agent?" I told him I didn't even prefer that when I really was one.
Fishinfool
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The only time someone calling me by my first name bothered me was when I was a LEO supervisor, and was conducting interactions between myself and subordinates on the job.
Now that I am retired, and working part time for an auto parts store, I have my first name embroidered on my work shirts. Once in a while a customer I have never met will come in and call me by name, obviously reading my shirt. I don't react, I just say something like "hey Bob, how's it going?. I call them all "Bob". usually I get dumb stares or corrections. Once in a while I even get the name right.
Larry
Now that I am retired, and working part time for an auto parts store, I have my first name embroidered on my work shirts. Once in a while a customer I have never met will come in and call me by name, obviously reading my shirt. I don't react, I just say something like "hey Bob, how's it going?. I call them all "Bob". usually I get dumb stares or corrections. Once in a while I even get the name right.
Larry
nachogrande
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INSUBORDINATION???
HARDLY, unless the person addressing you is "under your command". For someone that doesn't know you from Adam, lucky if it isn't some "hey profanity-profanity.
HARDLY, unless the person addressing you is "under your command". For someone that doesn't know you from Adam, lucky if it isn't some "hey profanity-profanity.
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