Hi:
Why doesn't your Wife already have it?
My buddy Jimmy would not live with someone He couldn't trust.
Why doesn't your Wife already have it?
My buddy Jimmy would not live with someone He couldn't trust.
At lunch today my wife asked for the combination to the gun safe!
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I had similar discussions with an ex fiance... What I am bringing into the marriage is not really hers so she has no "need" to be in the toy chest whatsoever. I would show her the mancave but she would not be getting access to it.
That went over like a wet fart in church
Like I told her- I don't expect to be messin with her piano- especially when she wasn't home why would she need access to my stuff?
Spoken like a true single and likely to remain so man...
That went over like a wet fart in church
Like I told her- I don't expect to be messin with her piano- especially when she wasn't home why would she need access to my stuff?
Spoken like a true single and likely to remain so man...
CAJUNLAWYER
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When I represent the wife in a divorce one of my standing rules is to get as much money and as many toys as possible as quickly as possible in HER possession. You can always give them back at a later date, but in my experience negotiation is much easier when your side is the "keeper of the goodies". When i represent the Husband, my standing order is to get your stuff out of there ASAP before she can get it. Sorry, but that's the first thing that poped into my mind when I read your post-I hope it isn't the case and there's comething else there-I truly do.
BigRich315
Member
Combination? What combination? It opens through telekinesis...
JcMack
Member
I'd like to think good thoughts butt.. Hopefully it's an electronic lock and you can change the combo. I'd give her the number and change the combo. Then if she comes back with "I can't open the safe" take it from there. The rub will be if she can't open it she calls you in to the safe area and asks you in her presence to open the safe. I'd like to hear from female members here on this thread. Just to get proper perspective.
In the 34 years I spent in LE, CAJUNLAWYER has given you the best advice I've seen. The best case I saw was one of my officers called one day and said he was going to be late for work. His wife had sold his duty gun at a Pawn/Gun Shop.
He started looking in his safe and every gun was gone, she'd sold them. We refered to her as the Baracuda.
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He started looking in his safe and every gun was gone, she'd sold them. We refered to her as the Baracuda.
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My wife to be and I had "the" discussion. We agreed that serious firepower in the wrong hands would be disastrous. Only I have the combo, and if someone else needs in, I'm already dead. Joe
Evil One
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I find the lack of trust and honesty here to be very sad and troubling.
If you cant/wont trust these people... why would you have them in your life?
My wife has access to everything I own... as I do with hers.
I can now see why the divorce rate is so high.
Jim
If you cant/wont trust these people... why would you have them in your life?
My wife has access to everything I own... as I do with hers.
I can now see why the divorce rate is so high.
Jim
JcMack
Member
People change, some adapt, some don't. The 50% first time divorce rate and 75% second time marriage divorce rate have not climbed, but have stabilized. The only reason being the economy has forced marrieds to re evaluate their situation, strictly a "cheaper to keep her/him" thing. It is no wonder the news is carrying a story currently that 20% of the population would rather spend Valentines Day with a pet. PLEASE SPARE ME STUPID PET REMARKS.
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Just simple reality of such a transient society. We no longer know people who knew "mary" her whole life... nor do they usually "know" us... marrying folks we have such short times of knowing leads the PRUDENT to be careful. Trust is wonderful but it is often "EARNED" if ya are smart anyhow...
Reagan said it best "trust but verify"
There are way to many horror stories of guys loosing all their stuff even when they weren't in the wrong to have ANY SANE man no be careful... even with a loved one...
If you want to live with your head in the sand and yer boys hangin out for her to just up and smack at anytime go ahead...
I found my way out with the class three comment above... but she still wasn't happy
BarbC
Member
I keep trying to teach my husband how to open the safe but he simply doesn't want to be bothered. Some of his stuff is in there too. I've told my son where the key is hidden just in case we're killed in a car accident.
Big Fred
Member
Exactly. I hope some of the posters are posting "in jest" and not serious. My wife is the most trustworthy person I know. She has the combinations to my safes and a detailed list of what is there.
Evil One
Member
I work on the road, my wife handles all of my "paperwork"... pays all of my bills, has a power of attorney in my name, her name on everything we own... right next to my name.
Like I said... if you cant trust a person you are married to, especially after a few years... then you really dont need to be with them.
I am on my 3rd marriage, and have lost nothing in the divorces.
The only thing I am out is child support for 2 wonderful boys that I am more than happy to pay.
Sounds like a lot of people need to figure out who they are marrying before they marry them.
As to my head being in the sand and my boys just hanging out.
Sounds like I am one of the few who isnt living life like that.
I get a phonecall, text, or email when she purchases something with "our" money... and as she is keeping the books and accounts straight, she gets word from me when I spend.
Do we do this due to lack of trust for each other? Nope.
Its lack of trust in banks and the institutions we have to shop with.
I married a woman who doesnt blow money, who saves more than I ever thought I could on my own... and due to her watching out for me/us, was able to weather 9 months of unemployment without going homeless or missing out on meals... while keeping the house warm and the lights on.
If you dont have that kind of trust in your spouse, you need to keep looking.
Living with distrust and suspicion isnt living.
Jim
Like I said... if you cant trust a person you are married to, especially after a few years... then you really dont need to be with them.
I am on my 3rd marriage, and have lost nothing in the divorces.
The only thing I am out is child support for 2 wonderful boys that I am more than happy to pay.
Sounds like a lot of people need to figure out who they are marrying before they marry them.
As to my head being in the sand and my boys just hanging out.
Sounds like I am one of the few who isnt living life like that.
I get a phonecall, text, or email when she purchases something with "our" money... and as she is keeping the books and accounts straight, she gets word from me when I spend.
Do we do this due to lack of trust for each other? Nope.
Its lack of trust in banks and the institutions we have to shop with.
I married a woman who doesnt blow money, who saves more than I ever thought I could on my own... and due to her watching out for me/us, was able to weather 9 months of unemployment without going homeless or missing out on meals... while keeping the house warm and the lights on.
If you dont have that kind of trust in your spouse, you need to keep looking.
Living with distrust and suspicion isnt living.
Jim
84CJ
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My wife has my code one of them. Only i have the master code. If at any time I feel uneasy I just delete the secondary code. My son called and needed the title to his car so I had to give him the code or drive 30 miles home to open the safe. I gave him the third spare code and changed it when I got home.
For those using the Key or Day lock feature. I hope you never leave home with the dial locked only. Each safe company has their own key but all Liberty keys are keyed alike. I keep keys for most major safe brands in my safe cracking kit for all the Liberty safe owners look at your key it should be SGR615 Unless it is pretty old I keep that one in my pocket since I deliver a lot of liberty's.
For those using the Key or Day lock feature. I hope you never leave home with the dial locked only. Each safe company has their own key but all Liberty keys are keyed alike. I keep keys for most major safe brands in my safe cracking kit for all the Liberty safe owners look at your key it should be SGR615 Unless it is pretty old I keep that one in my pocket since I deliver a lot of liberty's.
flagman1776
Member
This is kind of off topic from the original post...
At the time of my first marrage, all my guns were pre-marital. I barely saw the divorce coming but moved all my guns to a friend's safe, execpt my duty weapon. I kept that at the station. When I moved out, that weapon was entrusted to another officer.
I know of several horror stories of soon-to-be-ex's claiming they were threatened. In those days there were sanctions... today there would be job loss.
I eventually sold half of the guns to raise money... I was bankrupted just before I moved out. (The money ran out & so did she.)
My current wife "knows" the combinations to the safes but would probably need help to get them open. Since she had no interest in the guns & has no knowledge of what was there & what is newer. Some guns have been traded with her knowledge... Really the collection has been pretty static.
BTW, I've twice held guns for others during divorces & conflicts. Have a witness, make a record SN's, all parties date & sign it... same on return. I once had to go to court to testify that I had these guns when HIS ex made a false claim... she should have been prosecuted for perjury, but was not. Basically a PITA, making room for his stuff...
As to the original post... I wonder why she wants to know?!
Russ
At the time of my first marrage, all my guns were pre-marital. I barely saw the divorce coming but moved all my guns to a friend's safe, execpt my duty weapon. I kept that at the station. When I moved out, that weapon was entrusted to another officer.
I know of several horror stories of soon-to-be-ex's claiming they were threatened. In those days there were sanctions... today there would be job loss.
I eventually sold half of the guns to raise money... I was bankrupted just before I moved out. (The money ran out & so did she.)
My current wife "knows" the combinations to the safes but would probably need help to get them open. Since she had no interest in the guns & has no knowledge of what was there & what is newer. Some guns have been traded with her knowledge... Really the collection has been pretty static.
BTW, I've twice held guns for others during divorces & conflicts. Have a witness, make a record SN's, all parties date & sign it... same on return. I once had to go to court to testify that I had these guns when HIS ex made a false claim... she should have been prosecuted for perjury, but was not. Basically a PITA, making room for his stuff...
As to the original post... I wonder why she wants to know?!
Russ
charlie sherrill
Member
"Honey, I don't feel comfortable with anyone handling my guns without me being there. If you need to go into the safe (leave out the word "my") I'll be glad to open it for you." Or my favorite..."It ain't none of your damn business what I've got in there!"
You guys that have been married for longer than a quarter century or have a wife who shoots better than you or has more guns than you (think Lynnie and Barb) will have to handle this differently.
Move the gun safe to a different secure location before you get married.
You guys that have been married for longer than a quarter century or have a wife who shoots better than you or has more guns than you (think Lynnie and Barb) will have to handle this differently.
Move the gun safe to a different secure location before you get married.
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