My daughter was assaulted

[Jinglebob]

[FONT=Helvetica, sans-serif]My daughter and her family arrived yesterday evening to spend the Christmas holidays with us. Something seemed off, she was not her jovial effervescent self. I poured her a glass of wine and myself a bourbon and we sat down in the den for a daddy daughter talk. When I heard what she had to say I became livid.[/FONT]

[FONT=Helvetica, sans-serif]As some of you know, my second oldest daughter is a middle school teacher. Before Christmas break, she admonished a student for not completing an assignment and asked that he turn in the work immediately following the winter break. The kid walked up to her and in front of the class, punched her in the face. She fell against the desk, nose bleeding, while the kid casually walked out of the classroom.[/FONT]

[FONT=Helvetica, sans-serif]She's had problems with this particular student all year. She said that he's been disruptive, disrespectful and at times threatening. She complained to the school principal / administrator hoping to have the kid removed from her classroom but her requests were ignored and nothing was done to to alleviate the situation. This is not an inner-city school but one located in a middle class neighborhood.[/FONT]

[FONT=Helvetica, sans-serif]My daughter is 45 years-old and has been teaching since she graduated collage. She loves what she does. She planned to teach until she retired but is considering just walking away now. She said that violence against teachers is becoming more prevalent than you think.[/FONT]

[FONT=Helvetica, sans-serif]The police are treating it as an assault and the punk "may" face disciplinary action from the court system. But, she was told that most such incidents do not get charged criminally simply because the courts can't handle the number of routine assault incidents. The attacker walks away with essentially no punishment. He may be sent back to the same school or an alternate school because the school district is not relieved of the duty of providing an education even for very disruptive or violent students. [/FONT]

[FONT=Helvetica, sans-serif]I'm still spitting nails. This is lunacy. Thanks for reading. I hope my post hasn't dampened your Christmas spirit but I needed to share with my Forum friends to help me get past this.[/FONT]

 

[Xfuzz]

Little hump is in desperate need of a tune-up
on a dark night.

 

[WCCPHD]

Symptom of a much larger problem in the US today.

 

[Onomea]

That is awful, JingleBob. I can't imagine how angry I would be in a similar situation.

How about talk to a lawyer. Find out if there is a case to be made for your daughter suing the school or district or education board or whomever if the kid who punched her is not forced to attend a different school. If so, she does not need to sue unless they refuse, or can't, send the punk to another school.

Also, maybe she could look into teaching at a private school.

Very sorry to hear this, JingleBob. I hope your daughter receives the consideration simple decency and justice demand.

 

[old bear]

Sorry to suggest the following, but.

Perhaps it is time for someone to open up a BIG can of *** whoop on the doer. It looks like that will be the only thing he understands.

Again I don't approve of unnecessary violence but drastic events call for drastic responses.

 

[Bald1]

U didn't mention the age of the student. I'm guessing 13-14 in middle school. If your daughter has a husband/boyfriend he should pay a visit to students home. Student and parents need as they say tuned up……. Bigger picture, I find it disturbing and disappointing that every male student sat there and did not react. I couldn't sit there while a woman was assaulted. I can say the same for my son and step son… I'm sorry that happened.

 

[Onomea]

...I find it disturbing and disappointing that every male student sat there and did not react. I couldn't sit there while a woman was assaulted. ...

This. .

 

[WardenRoss]

Hate to read this. My DIL had a similar incident a few years ago. She refused to tell me about it until much, much later. And I think you know why.

There was a time when some of the other boys would have taken care of this business.

What have we come to in America?

My Faith teaches me there will be a reckoning for the evildoers. My only hope.

 

[Protocall_Design]

She could possibly file assault charges against the student. Time to talk to a lawyer. We used to say "He needs an attitude adjustment." Maybe if the parents had to pay a big settlement, they might do some attitude adjusting.

 

[moosedog]

I can only imagine your anger and frustration. I pray that your daughter can find peace. You are correct, this is lunacy and it's got to stop.

 

[yaktamer]

If your daughter has a husband/boyfriend he should pay a visit to students home. Student and parents need as they say tuned up…….

I mean, how could this not be good advice?

 

[cmj8591]

I assume that she is a member of a teachers union. What's their position? They should be providing legal assistance and advise for your daughter. Where I am, there are police officers assigned to the schools. They take care of any criminal charges in situations like that. I've never heard of a teacher being assaulted here that didn't result in the assailant being removed from the school and criminal charges. This isn't anything new. It has been happening forever. What is new is the ambivalence from the people who run the school systems and their incompetence in dealing with this kind of kid. I hope your daughter is ok. No one goes into the teaching profession to get rich. I'm sure she does it because she was called to it. Hopefully, this won't ruin her love for it.

 

[Onomea]

I mean, how could this not be good advice?

Yes. As emotionally satisfying as sending the punk to the hospital would be, all kinds of bad legal problems would be likely with that path.

Which is why I like the idea of consulting a lawyer to see what the options are as to forcing the system to do the right thing.

 

[bigwheelzip]

How awful. I'm so sorry for her experience and hope she heals fully.

Last year, one of my granddaughters, an unfailingly sweet person, started her new profession as middle school teacher after getting an Education degree. She bailed out at the end of the year, only telling me that she hated it. She manages a Crocs store now.


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[Alk8944]

jinglebob,


Did your daughter make a report directly to the police, or is she depending on the school administration? Unless she makes a report herself it is, unfortunately, likely nothing effective will ever happen to the little puke!


From what I see and hear I have no idea why anyone would wish to be a teacher, policeman, or anything else that constitutes being an authority figure!

 

[BLACKHAWKNJ]

Yes, if he is not dealt with properly he will go around bragging, boasting, etc. You did not mention where the school is, is it in a trashy neighborhood ?

 

[soFlaNative]

Hoping she doesn't lose heart.
I'm sure good teachers are hard to find anywhere.

 

[glenwolde]

She should sue the School District for failing to protect her (given the history), and file a "hostile work environment" complaint with the Dept. of Labor.

 

[Doug M.]

Yes, if he is not dealt with properly he will go around bragging, boasting, etc. You did not mention where the school is, is it in a trashy neighborhood ?

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Nope, he said it was a nice middle class area.

"Spoiled brat" culture is becoming more prevalent. Given that the school was on notice, in addition to the pursuit of a criminal case with local LE, she needs to get a good tort lawyer to take on the school and the kids parents.

All the emotionally gratifying suggestions, no matter how appealing, are a really bad idea.

 

[Baxter6551]

She should file assault charges personally and follow through with the court system. Push it with her union as others suggested. Seek advice from attorney about litigation against the student personally and the school system for failure to protect as previously noted.