Anybody Here Ever "won" Round 2 with the Little Woman?

[pharmer]

I've been married 3 times, this time almost 10 years so I figure I'm going out in a box this time. My question is simple: After an "initial disagreement" (usually petty or a "point of order") and you come away feeling victorious, vindicated and visceral, after a period of time has elapsed (the longer the worse), does this remain through "round 2?" Round 2 always begins innocently and then doom: "You said xxx$$$&&&***, is that right." Still bloated from previous victory I can never recall what EXACTLY was said. One word change and voila, defend, defeat, done. Next thing I'm taking back stuff I never stole. Am I alone in this? Joe

 

[Onomea]

No. .

 

[oneounceload]

A old friend of mine had been married and divorces three times.
He said next time that he was just going to find a woman he hates and buy her a house; it's faster and cheaper that way.

Happy wife = Happy life!

 

[soFlaNative]

I'm lucky, Mrs. Native rarely hears what I say just what she thinks I said.
Usually the issue become confused enough to where it's not important enough to pursue.

 

[eb07]

We don't argue like that. Thankfully.

 

[kraynky]

They have memories like elephants,............ or is it that elephants have memories like women??? Simple little miss judgments of 15 years ago are never forgotten. I've apologized for things I never did....... At least not that I recall anyway

 

[Ματθιας]

I sort of feel sorry for all the married, miserable, henpecked/cucked men. Nonsense like that is one of the reason's why I'm not married.

My philosophy, if there's too much emotion and drama, dump them and move on.

No wife = Happy life

 

[Hawker800]

Yes dear, you're absolutely right. What on earth was I thinking.

 

[hoosierone]

It took me a long time but I finally figured out the best thing to do is keep your mouth shut. Whatever the issue, their minds are made up and they will not change.

I have one good friend who refers to his wife as the "war dept". I use the term "Supreme Soviet" or "Geheim Statspolitzi"

Remember, mouth shut, overcome the urge, you will not prevail otherwise.

 

[Jessie]

The Japanese tried that.
I think they called it " Kill with silent contempt"
Don't even respond. Act like it never happened.
That might work ONCE

 

[pharmer]

I sort of feel sorry for all the married, miserable, henpecked/cucked men. No wife = Happy life

I tried that. After #2, I was single from 1992 until 2010. I gotta admit doing what I want, whenever I want, buying stuff I don't need and not having to explain has it's major upside. And I certainly wasn't looking for love, especially having recently terminated a year-long relationship with a "hostage taker" when I found "the one" that has completed my life. Life is about as good as it can be except for those infrequent instances when we're both crazy on the same day. Joe

 

[italiansport]

I've been married for over 50 years and I don't remember even getting to round #2. Count your blessings if you survive round #1!
Jim

 

[Jessie]

It's called life and it's usually what you make of it or allow it to be, I guess.
I know the pluses outweigh any negatives since I've been married.
I pretty much still do what I like to do, within reason ( and that's one of the pluses...she keeps me within reason)

 

[JcMack]

I had a good looking wife that loved sex. Just not with me. An argument with her meant she'd shut down and wouldn't talk for days or weeks sometimes. Hard to reason with an attitude like that. After 8 years of misery I took my 8 year old son with me (only kid) and divorced her. I'd never live with anybody again. Fortunately everybody feels the same about me.

 

[walkin jack]

Pharmer, Your OP made me smile. And I hear where you're comin' from. Some times it's better in the long run to Just use 2 simple words.

YES DEAR

You may win the occasional battle but You will never win the war. I have been married for 53 years. 6 to wife #1 and 47 to my current one and at some point it occurred to me that women tend to hold a grudge and they never ever forget. But also bear in mind that sometimes SHE will be right. That is a bad time to press your point. Knowing the difference is important.

In my current marriage I have put my foot down (stood my ground)
only 3 or 4 times. The secret is to pick your battles wisely. If you're right stand pat. But no point in going in to battle over silly stuff. You'll always, eventually) regret it if you do.

 

[Texas Star]

I occasionally won, but in closing, Pat would often snarl, "Fine!"

But it wasn't really fine...

Divorce is a wonderful thing.

 

[Texas40]

Well after 3x marriages and one long term live in but never married to her each being about 7-8 yrs I have concluded I am not cut out to be married.

So last one ended in 2015 and last 4yrs have been beat ever.
House almost pd off
Truck and car paid off
Bought a nice little chunk of land that will be the spot for retirement in another 5 or so.

Kids are grown with kids of their own (only had kids with first one in 80s) so life is good.

All goes well land and all will be pd when I retire and I wont have to support her.
BTW I was smart/fortunate enough to have owned my houses etc prior to marriage each time so never had to vive um anything but their suitcase and the door.

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[ddixie884]

NO!.........................

 

[Rustyt1953]

To parrot italiansport, we have never gotten to round 2. Round 1, which has never been heated, never lasted long as neither of us is wired that way.

She is a joy to be around and life without her would be, as Vizzini said, inconceivable.

 

[S42N8]

Well, it *could* happen.

Probably a case of picking your battle. You could win, but losing the war can be Pyrrhic... or, in my case, divorceic. Best money I spent

In fairness to the ex, I certainly have my faults. That said, being a member of the marital catch-and-release program works for me!