HOUSTON RICK
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Do not use the same lawyer in a "mutually agreeable" divorce, or at least make darn sure that it is your lawyer and not hers, or you will regret until Gabriel blows his horn.
Why can't two agree to divorce. Split things equally. Be friends after parting. Use one lawyer. Keep it simple and affordable.
I'd just like to thank everyone again for all the suggestions and advice.
You guys have been very helpful.
Did you own the house before you were married? If so, you should be able to keep it. Otherwise, sell it and both move on.
Anyone else go through a bad divorce?
My wife is very controlling. That, coupled with low self esteem and bi polar disorder which she is "self medicating" has created an environment which I am increasing unable to tolerate.
I disagree with the advice about hiring a "junkyard dog" attorney.
Unless there are significant amounts of assets to be divided, you will be better served by hiring a local attorney who specializes in domestic law and who has a good reputation for reasonableness. Your interests will be protected and defended, while at the same time your attorney will be able to cooperate (I hope) with the other side's attorney. This is a much better situation than one in which take-no-prisoners attorneys are involved, which will lengthen and complicate things unnecessarily (except for the wallets of the attorneys).
Too often, I think, divorcing people hire hard-nosed attorneys as a way of making the opposing party's life as difficult as possible, for selfish and hurtful reasons. It doesn't help, and when all is said and done, you won't be any more or less divorced than if you had gone with reasonable, professional, and non-ego-driven attorneys.
Trust me on this one.
If she is controlling and has a mental disorder there is no help for that.
I was once married to one like that too. None of your own children are involved. Get out now but get the best attorney you can find.