Keep the XDM. I have an XD that's no longer offered here in the U.S.. It's the compact tactical XD45. 5" .45 ACP top end on a compact frame. Carry with the flush fit 10 round mag, 13 rounders for reloads or malfunction recovery if needed. I find it the best of the XD pieces, providing a low profile butt for concealment and the benefits of the 5" sight radius and barrel performance. The thing has run like a sewing machine since I first got it back around '06. I also have an XD 9 subcompact which has proven great as well, but I still prefer the .45. I know many people who are down on the XD platform and have read much anecdotal information about poor durability but I've not seen anything documented by any agency that has tested them nor photos of all the problems that are supposed to exist with the design. My main attractions to the platform are the grip safety and frame angle. I find it a better pointer and a piece less likely to go bang if something gets inside the trigger guard thanks to the grip safety.