what we say
This whole "on line" thing, as I have mentioned a couple of times in other posts, is a new thing for me. I'm not much of a joiner, and I am a person who appreciates polite privacy. In the few instances that I have seen "discussions" become what I would call out of line; name calling, condecension, negative inferences, etc, it has ocurred to me that folks would not talk to each other this way if they were face to face, in "real life" if for no other reason that, indeed, "an armed society is a polite society." I greatly appreciate the general tone of this forum, and I gather from reading other's posts that it is the exception, and not the norm. This medium easily becomes an oppurtunity for those that have various "issues" to act out these things, and be "heard" in the only place they may have found to do so. Obviously, some oversight is desirable, and required, to maintain something like this. And it is certainly a demanding responsibility to be part of the group that performs this service. But, on ballance, I feel that those in charge do better, and find a more favorable reception with those that they govern, if they lead by example. I have had positions durring my life that required confrontation, and in retrospect, I often violated the very principles I was advocating or enforcing, when all I had to do was speak the truth to the offender, and let the guidelines we had all agreed on be the "tough guy." When considering this situation that is currently being discussed, and in 20-20 hind sight, I feel that Lee would have done better to just hold his peace, or make some overture to the individual that they were welcome to stay, as long as they wanted to abide by the rules we ALL had to follow. I'm sure he has re-thought the, "take your toys" comment, and that, in a large part, is how we grow. Words are like that, when they are out there, you can't take them back. Someone visiting the foum, or a newer member, or maybe someone like me, may have gotten the wrong impression of the forum and how it is overseen, when reading that exchange. As a young man, I rarely listened to the experience and suggestions of older men, and now I find myself on the other side of the same coin! But it is incumbent upon me, none the less, to offer these insights that came as a result, mostly, by making mistakes, and hopefully, learning from them so I wouldn't have to repeat them. Flapjack.