My wife 'acquired' my 2" 10 some years back. I had fitted the rounded goncalo alves fg Hogues to her hand on a used 3" 65 - which she hated. The 2" 10 was instant love - I sold the 65 and mounted the grips on my 2" 10 - and she only shoots +P 158gr LHPSWCs (Remington R38S12) in it (It's +P rated - a 10-11 made 12/02 - I bought it new 9/03 - $280 + s/h from CDNN!). Bob Munden would be proud of her shooting. Myself, I bought a new unissued security guard trade-in 4" 64-8 for a bedside gun 5/08. Then - 2/10 I bought a PC627 UDR - a second one 10/10 as a bedside gun. Both are in the safe - my pocket protector 642, same Remi's, goes from my pocket to the nightstand. Go figure.
Now, I bought some other J-frames...
I have a 632 Pro - and a 642. Believe me - with the small OEM rubber boots, the 642 with +P 158gr LHPSWCs, is kinder in the recoil department than the really brisk recoil of that 632 Pro with either AE 100gr SJHP or Speer 115gr Gold Dots, both in .327 Federal Magnum - and sporting the larger wood grips of the 60 Pro, which I obviously like. The 3" 60 Pro is acceptable, according to my wife, with those +P's. She still prefers the 2" 10, however - she likes blued revolvers - I like SS (The 2" 10 was my only blued revolver!). Let your wife pick what she uses for home protection. If .38 +P is 'too much', consider standard .38 Special 148gr full wad cutters. The .327 Fed Magnum is an answer for a gunmaker needing a use for a bunch of 3" SP101's in .32 H&RM - rebore the chambers/restrike the caliber - get Federal to make some ammo - new round! The .32 H&RM round took two decades to die - I'll be shocked if .327 Fed Mag makes one decade. Try to find brass & bullets - then afford them. .38's are cheaper - and a lot more plentiful. Rant off. YMMV!
Stainz