Lisa

Don’t forget to love yourself , it will be easy to stop taking care of yourself in this time
You might even feel that you don’t deserve to be happy or that you shouldn’t be .
Talk to someone , fill these next months with something good , help a senior with gardening ,teach a kid leatherwork
Above all ,know you are worthy of happiness forgiveness and love
 
PHP:
With the way you deal with adversity, Snubby, surely you must know, you are leader here, an example for us to follow..

I recall you being way overweight, and then, on top of that, being diagnosed with some sort of weird nerve disease and told by your doctors that in your future you would be unable to walk, that you would be confined to life in a wheelchair...

And your saying, "Nah. I don't think so."

And then your losing a 100 lbs — or maybe more? — teaching yourself anew how to walk, taking longer and longer hikes, biking, working out in the gym, getting leaner and leaner.. fitter and fitter...

Becoming, for the young folks, "Buff Grandpa!" And then a year or so ago, dang near breaking the Guinness world record for max pushups in a minute..

You've sure impressed the hell out of me, with your focus, your discipline, and your achievements in circumstances where most of us would just... well.. fold.

So, this latest... Lisa... I have no words.

But maybe, Snubby. Just maybe...

You can show us, lead us, not in overcoming, because surely that is impossible, but in showing us how to survive, to accept, such a terrible blow, and to keep on going.

"Choogling," you call it.

You are in the midst of what all of us — those of us in wonderful marriages for which we are so profoundly grateful — fear most in its inevitability for either ourselves or for those we hold most dear: Bereavement.

Show us, once again, Snubby, how to survive this latest, and the greatest, of blows.


One of the, if not the best posts ever here.
 
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PHP:
With the way you deal with adversity, Snubby, surely you must know, you are leader here, an example for us to follow.

. . .

You can show us, lead us, not in overcoming, because surely that is impossible, but in showing us how to survive, to accept, such a terrible blow, and to keep on going.

. . .

Show us, once again, Snubby, how to survive this latest, and the greatest, of blows.

Beautifully said.
 
I am sorry to see you are dealing with one of life's greatest problems a man could ever have. There is nothing like the pure love of a GOOD woman.

I hope you find peace through the lifetime shared of good times, even through the hardships you two have clearly faced.

I personally do not believe this is the end, but know that your wife is out of pain and waiting for you on the other side now.

Do not give up your hope, faith, and clear love for life and that of your wife. It will certainly be a hard road forward, but not impossible as long as you lean on the good times like this.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. - Psalm 147:3

May you find comfort and healing in the future.

I am sorry for your loss.
 
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PHP:
With the way you deal with adversity, Snubby, surely you must know, you are leader here, an example for us to follow..

I recall you being way overweight, and then, on top of that, being diagnosed with some sort of weird nerve disease and told by your doctors that in your future you would be unable to walk, that you would be confined to life in a wheelchair...

And your saying, "Nah. I don't think so."

And then your losing a 100 lbs — or maybe more? — teaching yourself anew how to walk, taking longer and longer hikes, biking, working out in the gym, getting leaner and leaner.. fitter and fitter...

Becoming, for the young folks, "Buff Grandpa!" And then a year or so ago, dang near breaking the Guinness world record for max pushups in a minute..

You've sure impressed the hell out of me, with your focus, your discipline, and your achievements in circumstances where most of us would just... well.. fold.

So, this latest... Lisa... I have no words.

But maybe, Snubby. Just maybe...

You can show us, lead us, not in overcoming, because surely that is impossible, but in showing us how to survive, to accept, such a terrible blow, and to keep on going.

"Choogling," you call it.

You are in the midst of what all of us — those of us in wonderful marriages for which we are so profoundly grateful — fear most in its inevitability for either ourselves or for those we hold most dear: Bereavement.

Show us, once again, Snubby, how to survive this latest, and the greatest, of blows.
You have a pretty good memory.
When my Neurologist told Lisa and I that since the prescribed treatment didn't work all he can do is to help me get an electric scooty chair and a prescription for narcotics. Actually I said "(expletive deleted) that!"
Lisa asked him, "if it was you or a member of your family, what could be done to help."
"Vigorous physical therapy," was the reply.
Basically, resistance training and lotsa cardio.
Lisa was with me through all of it. Supporting me both mentally and physically.
When I took my first unaided walk across a small parking lot, she was there to help me back.
I ended up losing 'bout 95 pounds and that went a long way toward me staying mobile.
My plan going forward is to simplify.
I've been thinking of selling our 2009 Toyota Yaris. It's a great little economical car and gets about 40mpg. There's not a thing wrong with it but we also have a new Toyota Tacoma 4wd truck and I don't really need 2 vehicles.
 
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This weekend I took the wife out to play among the flora of all the nurseries within practical range ... set her up with potting soil and let her frolic in dirt with her flowies.
Odds are, she will precede me as yours did. I grapple with that from time to time. I can more readily come to terms with my own mortality than hers.
I'm not sure how I'll take that loss when that dark day comes.
Till then ... I made her smile today.

I think I'd keep the Yaris ....
Sometimes you just need a truck, Most times a car will do.
 
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Great pictures and thank you for sharing. Bittersweet in the years of happiness together and sad because of the loss. We both offer you our condolences and best wishes.
 
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