My Wife, Light of my Life The Rest of the Story

[Alk8944]

When I made the first post I wasn't ready to reveal more, but here it is.


Approximately 6 weeks before her final illness my wife was diagnosed with a bone marrow cancer, but not Leukemia. She had completed the first round of chemotherapy just the week before. This cancer severely compromised her immune system, which is why the infection got a foothold. Monday the 9th she was having issues and I took her to the emergency room where she was running a fever of 104 degrees. The last she was coherent was Tuesday morning and she died just after 10:30 Friday night. The last Oncologist I spoke with, about 3 hours before she died indicated this was one of the worst cancers, with average survival post-diagnosis of 6 months. The only consolation I have is she was not aware of what was happening, and she didn't suffer. I only prayed for two things, that she would be healed, and that GOD would show her mercy! He gave me a positive answer to one of these prayers, for which I am grateful.

 

[Sistema1927]

Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?" - John 11:25-26, ESV

I would say that both of your prayers have been answered, even if it is hard to believe at present.

 

[Bill 76]

I am so sorry for your loss . . .

 

[federali]

My Condolences

I am truly saddened to learn of your loss even though we don't know each other beyond the forum. Losing a spouse cannot be easy. I've had a really bad year health-wise and my wife was there to nurse me back to health. Don't know what I would have done without her.

 

[soFlaNative]

I've heard when a spouse passes a woman carries on but a man dies by half.
I hope to never know the truth, again my deepest sympathies.

 

[S&WIowegan]

Very sorry for your loss. My wife and I have been together since 1965 and have lead quite a life. We are both children of tenant farmers so there was no property to think about. I was first born and my Dad realized I was smart. He told me one day after I turned 16 I better find jobs away from the farm if I wanted to go to college. My wife was the youngest and got a good scholarship as did I.

Now that we are in our mid to late 70s I have begun to realize I can't imagine life w/o her.

 

[robvious]

sharing is healing... so thanks for sharing the story of the light of your life... I pray for peace and comfort for you and all who loved her...

 

[6518John]

In my time on the forum I believe these posts have been among the most profoundly sad. Your heart break bleeds though each word you say. I wish I knew something to say to help.

 

[bamabiker]

The closest people I've lost were my parents and by the time they passed I was thankful to God for Him taking them. Didn't make it any easier but at least their suffering was over.
As a believer I feel they are not gone just gone a head and I look forward to seeing them again.
My condolences.

 

[M29since14]

sharing is healing... so thanks for sharing the story of the light of your life... I pray for peace and comfort for you and all who loved her...

Well said. I'm always at a loss for words in tough situations. Those words express my sentiment very well. "I pray for peace and comfort for you and all who loved her."

 

[Bajadoc]

"Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted." (Matthew 5:4). Sorry for your loss, prayers sent.

 

[hsguy]

So sorry for your loss. Very similar to my wife. She had just finished her second round of chemo and contracted an infection and died in 36 hours. You will never get over it but I have found that you learn to accept what happened and life does get easier.

 

[Old 44 Guy]

I have been in that situation 3 times. Not a good feeling, ever. My first wife died 32 years back. Talk about an empty feeling. The Good Lord & my 3 kids sure helped me along a rough road.

 

[les.b]

So sorry for your loss.

Best Regards, Les

 

[Alk8944]

My Wife, Light of my Life

THANK YOU ONE AND ALL FOR YOUR KIND REMARKS.

You have helped some. As you expect the pain has not really lessened yet, but I know it will in time. We were both raised in the Methodist Church, but now are Conservative Baptists. When Barbara joined what was then our Baptist congregation I had the great honor of baptizing her by immersion. A very happy occasion.

Again, thank each of you.

Al Kinckiner, Sandy, Utah.

 

[gman51]

It's a tough road to travel but we can get over the rough areas on the road. It may seem like we are in a tunnel at times but there is light ahead. Sometimes we have to lay new track to find happiness again. That's better than going round and round in the round house stuck in the same place going nowhere.
23 years ago I was asked what was I going to do. All I could think of was to say I am going to go on living. I made it and I am happy to be enjoying life.
We each deal with sadness in our own ways. Don't let the sadness consume life. There is no good in that. May you find happiness in your days as you look around at the good in life all around you. If you search for happiness then happiness will find you.

 

[Bat Guano]

Late last year I had major surgery. My wife and daughter were there for me. Not long after I got back on my feet my wife died--on New Year's eve, no less.

We were married 41 years. Her passing leaves a dull ache. I'll have a thought and realize that she isn't there anymore. But at least she went quickly which was a blessing of sorts.

Luckily I have two good grown kids who keep an eye on me, and am more appreciative of what good people are doing for me. Life goes on.

 

[4506517]

You are fortunate to have shared such a remarkable life together with such a remarkable partner.

Cherish the memories....in those she lives forever, as she will in your heart. I believe most people do not find such a cherished partner.

I'm not sure I can say much, if anything, to help stem the pain. I hope you find peace, and from what you've posted, I am sure you will.

I did not know your wife, but I am fairly certain it is what she would have wanted for you. It is an admirable trait in a person to stay strong the entire distance for their loved one.

 

[woodsltc]

I can't add more than what others have already stated, so I will simply say that I've prayed that the Lord will give you strength, comfort and peace of mind. God Bless.

Don