Poor grammar?

[sandpiper]

Pick and choose very carefully here. My wife does the "supposably" like Barbs hubby, and I just let it go, now going on 33 years.

I presume that she knows you have guns, and no complaints there, so I'll let her "seen" anything she wants to.

 

[s&wchad]

There’s a time and a place for everything. Maybe she’s smart enough to weigh her words in a business setting, and she only lets her hair down around those she’s close to.

… awsome … mangager…

Next time, use spell check. Please don’t take that personally, I could care less… but how do you like it!

I've been dating an awsome woman for many months who is quite beautiful, caring, loving, giving, and intelligent. She is an accounting mangager for a defense contractor and she is very polished in her professional appearance and her communication…

Wowie zowie! Hot, smart, kind, and has a good job… You’re a very lucky man!
　

…There is however, one thing that bugs me a little about her. In conversation … but it strikes me as poor grammar…
Any thoughts on how/if to tell her?

What are you thinking? Get over it and don‘t say a word.

 

[bigcatonhd]

My wife says you should let it go or she should let YOU go.

 

[4330Inroute]

If you decide to take the correction route allow me to suggest that you take a cardboard box and a pillow with seat belt attatchment with you. She is going to take everything you've given her and throw it into her front yard then proceed to throw you out on your butt. Hence the cardboard box to collect your stuff and a pillow (strapped on) to land on. Each of us has our faults and that is what makes us unique in this world. Her formative years are behind her and to try to change her would be wrong and disastrous. Accept what is there and enjoy her company.

My wife has been working on me since day one, she has succeeded to a point but after 30 years I believe she has accepted the fact that I'm as socialized as I am going to get. I have learned to play with others although I still will not share my toys. Good luck.

 

[ky wonder]

a beautiful caring woman that talks like that is a waste of your time, and i hate to see a fellow farmer suffer, so my suggestion to you is send here down here where her grammar will fit rite in, and she wont hang on the vine long before someone will sure enough pick her up and off'n that vine before she spoils.

she sound like she belongs in the land of sweet tea and sweeter women, and where the men know how to appreciate the finer things in life, like good women, better guns and great dogs

 

[perrazi]

as stated earlier, nothing good will come from this.get over it or bail out.
if it bothers the corporate types, they would have said something already.

 

[NCTexan]

Since you asked, my two cents.

If something (easily correctable) bothers you during the beginning of a long term relationship... when every thing is new and exciting.... it will become more of an issue later on when things cool down to normal.

I'd do her a favor and mention it politely. If you can't talk about things as trivial as that, how will you handle the big deals?

Abigail van Buren

 

[venomballistics]

you have to take the warts with the beauty ... its a package deal.
you may or may not be able to retrain her on a quirk or two, but dont press your luck.
if you do too much remodeling, the walls cave in.

 

[bellevance]

Since you asked, my two cents.

If something (easily correctable) bothers you during the beginning of a long term relationship... when every thing is new and exciting.... it will become more of an issue later on when things cool down to normal.

I'd do her a favor and mention it politely. If you can't talk about things as trivial as that, how will you handle the big deals?

Abigail van Buren

This is sensible advice. If it bothers you enough to bring it up on a forum like this one, it's not going to go away. And I can sympathize. I have met a number of women with admirable attributes whose language skills are compromised by stigmatizing usage. It would certainly bother me.

I'm an English prof who works with adult college students, many of whom are prone to similar fundamental errors in grammar and usage. Often, in business settings, this kind of mistake is noticed but deliberately overlooked, just as you have overlooked it so far.

You write that this woman "is very polished in her professional appearance and her communication," but given the basic grammar trouble that you have cited, I have to say that I'm skeptical that she is polished in her communication. This kind of error falls into a category of substandard colloquialisms and mistakes that many people make routinely, because no one has ever corrected them--and because many others who may have noted them (negatively) have been too polite or uninvested to mention them to her.

Anyone at any stage in life can improve her diction and usage, especially if she is making basic mistakes that she has simply ignored or not been aware of. You are in a position to provide her with some awareness--kindly and gently. The issue here is that the error in question is very probably not the only such error, and errors like this, in a professional situation, can prejudice a listener against a speaker in subtle ways that may never be discussed. I think she needs to know that you have noticed this small error and that she can, with no trouble, focus on eliminating it from her speech.

 

[doublesharp]

Tread lightly, my friend, and take a good, hard look in the mirror before you start offering others self improvement tips.

 

[Kanewpadle]

Love her for what she is. Not what she can be.

I'm sure if she looks hard enough, she may find a few flaws with you.

It's part of life. Part of being married.

 

[willy]

Don't take this wrong ,but
GROW A SET!
Come on man, when did guys start listening to anything thier woman has to say?
Be a man and,,,, sorry dude ,gotta go! (the wife just hollered for me!)

 

[Kanewpadle]

Don't take this wrong ,but
GROW A SET!
Come on man, when did guys start listening to anything thier woman has to say?
Be a man and,,,, sorry dude ,gotta go! (the wife just hollered for me!)

Yeah, I'm in Washington and I can hear her!

 

[Gun-runner]

I've been dating an awsome woman for many months who is quite beautiful, caring, loving, giving, and intelligent. She is an accounting mangager for a defense contractor and she is very polished in her professional appearance and her communication. There is however, one thing that bugs me a little about her. In conversation she will use the phrase "I seen" instead of saying "I saw", as in "I was driving home and I seen this stray dog". I know some regions of the U.S. may consider this acceptable local grammar, but it strikes me as poor grammar. Now I love this gal enough that she could talk like Porky The Pig and I would still be glad to keep her, but it does bug me a little and I wonder if it would hinder her climb up the professional ladder. Any thoughts on how/if to tell her?

What's her phone number? If that's her only problem and from your description she's a catch! I have a few friends that would be happy to date her. If you stay on this course you'll end up single, lonely and old!
Before mentioning this to her ask her what about you that really bugs her!

 

[ect1222t]

There are really only four things a woman wants to hear come out of a man's mouth:

1. I Love You.
2. Yes, Dear.
3. I'm Sorry, Dear.
4. It's All My Fault.

Anything else, keep to yourself.

 

[Beauetienne]

This reminds of some Sienfeld episodes.

Here's my two cents.

Having grown up deep in South Louisiana (yes, there is a South Louisiana directly south of Alexandria ) I have seen some of the most beautiful dark haired, dark eyed girls in the world. Had I chosen to pass up those beauties that spoke with a heavy cajun accent and used somewhat broken english, I wouldn't have gotten very many dates (being nice here).

I would, like the majority that answered this post, let it slide.

I'm not being an english major and I wouldn't appreciate her correcting me. "I yam what I yam".

 

[bk43]

Most companies are more interested in a person's technical and interpersonal skills than their spelling or grammar. Sounds to me like you've got a gem there and I'd take the package as is and ignore the little stuff.

Bob