Reconciliation

[Pilgrim]

A wise man once said, that for a marriage to work, both people have to want it to work.

Sounds like he was right.

Good luck.........from someone who's been married 46 years...not all happy but we both wanted it to work.

 

[revolver59]

There is no such thing as perfect human being,therefore,there is no such thing as a perfect marriage! The reality of the fact is that,people in young marriages have to grow up and face the facts of life.I doubt anyone has heard the words (Life is easy) It is not! It is a challenge and sometimes a struggle,in other words it has its ups and downs,and you have to take it like most descent people do, confront the difficulties together. In any instance.Walking away is for the weak.I don't care if you are a man or a woman! Specially when there are kids involved.There is no problem that can't be solved between adults but some people think it is easier to walk away,and go meet someone new.Is that someone really the perfect person!! B.S. Like I said before there is no perfect person. So you have to bight the bullet sometimes,and do the best you can to get along, for the sake of your kids,and your family.There is no way,someone else can give your kids as much love as you will,as a natural parent.
Some of the best marriages came out of the hardest times that the world has faced,such as world wars,the great depression etc.Those people stuck together no matter what they had to face in life's difficulties.
But anyway,I am glad to hear you are back together,and I wish,and hope that things stay that way for you two.
With all my best wishes to you.

 

[Mule Packer]

Wow, there's some great advice in all the previous posts.

Someone once told me, "You don't marry the 'right person.' You become the 'right person'." That pretty much sums it up...you're continually working together to become the right person for your spouse.

I wish you both the best.

 

[M3Stuart]

..."come to that bridge when we cross it." ....

Or, as I say: "We'll bomb that bridge when we come to it."

Good for you and good luck going forward!

 

[long colt frazier]

Good Luck, divorce is rough even if you want one.
Mark

 

[Engineer1911]

Looks like the two kids grew up for the child's benefit.

Congratulations and keep up the hard work. Your lives will be better because of your joint efforts.

 

[HankG]

Had a good friend who was married, divorced, and then remarried his former wife. A month before he died they had party in town to help raise some money for him. He was well known and well liked by all. He apologized to me for the party and said the only reason he let it happen was that he wanted to make sure his wife would have a little extra to allow her to keep their house. He didn't know he was dying until a few months before his death and was in his early 50s. You and your wife go at the rest of your life together as a team. I hope you both have a long and fruitful life awaiting you.

 

[oberon]

I don't know you from a hole in the ground, but you have survived a serious event and are coming away with all you faith and trust intact. There is no better way to get on with life than with the one you committed with.
We should all be so motivated.
To prevail in the long haul, you must stay on the path.

 

[wildenout]

Thanks all for the likes and overwhelmingly positive feedback, and also the great advice. I am feeling even more blessed now to have my forum behind me. The thing that always kept me going was a quote by Honest Abe "It's not the weight of the load that breaks you, it's how you bare it."

 

[vigil617]

Keep your eyes on God always, and on each other not so much. Good advice that it took me three tries to get right....mostly....

 

[mtgianni]

I guess I am in the trust but verify camp. I would continue to do all you can to make things work while both of you get a test for STD's and she gets a pregnancy test. I sincerely hope that all continues to go well and would not consider this advice a stumbling block in any way.

 

[zzzippper]

Half of all marriages end in divorce. The rest end in death.

 

[Double-O-Dave]

Wildenout:

I am very happy to hear of a chance of reconcilliation for you and your wife. The key to your relationship will be mutual trust and respect, which may be difficult given the recent past, but can be achieved.

I will also pray that both of you find patience, wisdom, and room for forgiveness in your hearts for yourselves, and for each other.

God bless, and best of luck to both of you.

Dave

 

[wyo-man]

I sincerely hope you work things out.

wyo-man

 

[bgrone]

Hope

I sincerely hope it works, one grandson's parents are divorced, he is only 5 and alternates every two days with mom or dad, it can be tough. I can't brag on myself as I am on second marriage, although we worked hard to keep the kids out of the middle. May God bless you and your family.

Jim in Iowa