wildenout
Member
I have posted a few times in the forum in regards to my marital situation and pending divorce. But I felt like I needed to post just this one last time so I wouldn't look like the Boy Who Cried Wolf over the whole thing.
My wife had me served with papers in December, the week after Christmas to be exact, and we split our accounts etc. and started entrenching for the fight. This having been my Senior Year in College, I refused to move out (because I was poor also and having just had a son in May 2013, I wanted to see my boy's first year). So we had little fights, I moved into the other room, discussed papers, I went to school, babysat whenever she was at work. It was a weird and hard situation, I wrote about it a few times here on the forum and I also want to say thanks to all those who wrote back and gave me great advice.
Flash forward to March (spring break for me) I arranged to have the both of us and my son go and visit my parents in Las Vegas, things had gotten to a smooth functional/business like relationship with us so this was going to be somewhat of a "lets practice this divorced parent thing." Long story short, as I laid awake doing homework on a couch downstairs the wife came to me and started asking questions about how things would work. You know, other special events not outlined in the papers, plays, dances etc. It was hard to think about, but I gave what I thought were good answers and a lot of "come to that bridge when we cross it." kind of stuff. With giant tears in her eyes, she asked me if there was any chance of reconciliation...
First let me say, that was a BIG shock to hear her say that. Second, I do still love her so I said yes and that I would be willing to try. We have since then put the divorce on hold, are taking a small break/time apart, and it is atually going really well. I feel confident in the fact that it will work out and everything will be ok. We are going to try and find a new place to call home away from both our families to give us a fresh start and I am excited.
There were no real negative reactions in our family or friend circles when we started to tell people our decision. So I hope there won't be any here, I just felt I owed the forum an explaination and also a cause to pause and realize what we have and maybe not complain about it or want to change it. I also didn't want to seem like a giant flip flopper saying "I'm divorced, I'm separated, I'm married" etc.
Thanks for the read and support.
My wife had me served with papers in December, the week after Christmas to be exact, and we split our accounts etc. and started entrenching for the fight. This having been my Senior Year in College, I refused to move out (because I was poor also and having just had a son in May 2013, I wanted to see my boy's first year). So we had little fights, I moved into the other room, discussed papers, I went to school, babysat whenever she was at work. It was a weird and hard situation, I wrote about it a few times here on the forum and I also want to say thanks to all those who wrote back and gave me great advice.
Flash forward to March (spring break for me) I arranged to have the both of us and my son go and visit my parents in Las Vegas, things had gotten to a smooth functional/business like relationship with us so this was going to be somewhat of a "lets practice this divorced parent thing." Long story short, as I laid awake doing homework on a couch downstairs the wife came to me and started asking questions about how things would work. You know, other special events not outlined in the papers, plays, dances etc. It was hard to think about, but I gave what I thought were good answers and a lot of "come to that bridge when we cross it." kind of stuff. With giant tears in her eyes, she asked me if there was any chance of reconciliation...
First let me say, that was a BIG shock to hear her say that. Second, I do still love her so I said yes and that I would be willing to try. We have since then put the divorce on hold, are taking a small break/time apart, and it is atually going really well. I feel confident in the fact that it will work out and everything will be ok. We are going to try and find a new place to call home away from both our families to give us a fresh start and I am excited.
There were no real negative reactions in our family or friend circles when we started to tell people our decision. So I hope there won't be any here, I just felt I owed the forum an explaination and also a cause to pause and realize what we have and maybe not complain about it or want to change it. I also didn't want to seem like a giant flip flopper saying "I'm divorced, I'm separated, I'm married" etc.
Thanks for the read and support.
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