UPDATE:
A lot of things have happened and I apologize for the length of this update but I think, if I'm asking for your prayers, I should tell you what I know so far so that you can pray with specificity for me should you choose to do so.
It is very early in the AM on Saturday and I am recently home from the hospital where the outside ENT did the procedure I mentioned in the initial post.
He went down my nose, then down my mouth and examined everything he could see. He found that the right tonsil looked "irregular" and biopsied it. I may have the results on Tuesday, but certainly by Thursday when I meet with him.
My cancer is not lymphoma, rather it is Neck Cancer and just happens to have been discovered when it was ravishing two lymph nodes it had metastazided into. They want to find the original or primary source of the cancer, though is a relatively small percentage of cases, they never do.
I have a year to live IF I take no treatment and let the cancer take its course. I will not do that because my oncologist told me that it would be a very bad year, that the cancer is very aggressive and would invade my airway among other places and my end would be very painful.
OTOH, he, and the other doctors, recommend, and I will do this Radiation for 42 days straight except for weekends and holidays and, at the same time, 100ml of Cisplatin (chemo) once every three weeks, for three times.
This dosage had a lot of side effects and my friend, another VN vet a year older than me, lost all his hearing as a side effect. The oncologist says that's a real possibility, but my wife says I don't listen anyway.
The radiation in the throat has a lot of side effects and, apparently, many patients neglect to do the little throat exercises needed to retain the ability to swallow, open one's mouth and speak. The throat apparently has so much soft tissue that it is easily burned and damaged and hurts like the dickens.
In combination with the Speech Pathologist, the docs scared me enough that I will do those exercises. The pics and illustrations caused me to consider a quick trip to the bathroom for a #2 or a pukey, but I was able to stop myself.
The hope of the docs is that the primary source of the cancer is that tonsil as that will allow the radiation to be narrowed to the two lymph nodes affected and the tonsils rather than shot into me widely through or over the whole throat.
I have had good news. The PET scan showed bright spot(s) at the rear of the prostate and in the colon or rectum.
My prostate was checked three days ago (I will spare you the details) and is cancer free.
I had a colonoscopy Thursday and my rectum and colon are cancer free.
I am so blessed with those findings. I was pretty concerned with having to fight two different cancers at the same time. I am so grateful that such a thing apparently will not happen.
On Wednesday, they will do an endoscopy and put in a feeding tube (I caved and agreed, pictures and the doctors stories of patients who refused the tube convinced me) which I may need for the last two thirds of the radiation period and maybe for some period after that. We just have to wait and see.
My specific prayer requests are:
For my wife, Sue. That she will remain calm and strong. As many of you know, she is a Nurse Practitioner and, as a result, knows how this cancer runs. She has been a rock, but I can see that she is concerned and I know that she "conceals" some of the bad parts I will face until the docs tell me.
Secondly, that I make the correct choices, that my discernment is "on the ball." I get to make a lot of choices, for example, how much Cisplatin and how often. I picked "All you'll give me as often as you'll give it to me." That will require three overnights in the hospital, but that seems a small inconvenience.
Thirdly, that the side effects of the Cisplatin are the least possible. The oncologist says if they are too much, they'll lessen the dosage a bit, a little more, more, more until they find the maximum amount I can tolerate. I hope to be able to take the max since this cancer is so aggressive and I want to hit it as hard as it can be hit.
Next, that the radiation in combination with the chemo is tolerated (as in bearable) by me. This is pretty intwined with the third request.
Lastly, regardless of the outcome, the problems, the pain, the nausea and pukeyness (is that a word?) that I can maintain my good testimony and share my journey with Him when I have the opportunity.
I was in a lot of pain when I came home a few hours ago, but it has subsided and I think I can sleep for a while.
Thank you so much for just being there and for your prayers.
Finally, this is for you. I was very blessed that this was discovered so early. A friend saw a small lump under my right jaw. I'd never noticed it even though I shave 4-5 days a week and shower every day (really and I use
soap, too

).
Just as women are told to check their breasts for changes
and lumps, men should also carefully observe their bodies, especially their necks for lumps.
If my friend hadn't noticed this and I hadn't acted on it (even though it was sooo small I was really embarrassed to bring it to my primary's attention) I could have been too late to have a fighting chance to beat this awful disease.
Please check yourselves from time to time and act right away if you find something.
Thank you again for considering my situation and taking it to the One who can help with anything.
Bob