I guess I'll never figure out why someone doesn't like J Frames. I've never liked the look of nickel (and I don't own a single one, more for those of you that like them)
This reads extremely silly. You can't figure out why someone doesn't like a J-frame and in your next sentence you admit that you've never liked the look of nickel.
If you cannot see the futility of these two statements in a row then it's hard to help. Even still, I can tell you for sure that I don't like J-frames. I don't like the fit, I really dislike the geometry of them, it makes the double-action trigger pull different and FAR less enjoyable than K/L/N-frame guns. They are typically only 5-shots, and as a side bonus, they are visually very unappealing to me. If you cannot understand how I feel that way, imagine your favorite J-frame dripping in a gaudy nickel finish and maybe the lightbulb appears!
As for the OP, I read your opening post twice. What it seems you are asking for is a suggestion that maybe had not occurred. You absolutely love a great trigger and you aren't looking for another revolver.
Since you are a long time and very active participant on the S&W Forum, I think maybe a truly
ELITE Smith & Wesson might spark a real interest for you and deliver for pure shooting joy and ownership pride.
S&W Model 52-2. It will not be low in cost and it's far better if you are a handloader. Worse yet, the magazines are stupidly priced and they only hold 5 rounds. (ha! like a silly J-frame!) But
just get your hands on one of these and check it out, even if you aren't so easily convinced to drop the money on one. If you spot one, just -FEEL- the slide to frame fit and if you can, dry fire one of these pistols.
If you don't have any experience at all with a S&W Model 52, I think you could open up a whole new love affair with a handgun. You'll own a fantastic small machine that oozes quality and fitting. You'll have a piece of American history. You might take in a handgun with a trigger better than any semiautomatic pistol you own, it could be better than any semiauto trigger you've ever experienced. And accuracy just about as good as you can ask for from a handgun and outclassing every single "service/duty grade" pistol ever mass-produced and sold by the tens of thousands.