CB, just wondering how your last two questions relate to the OP's issue?
The last person I helped here locally could not pull back the slide on his brand new Springfield XDm. He had not even loaded it in the four years he owned it--for home defense!
He was 76 years old and missing most of his left thumb when the LGS salesman hoodwinked him into buying that gun. The gun was fine, but it was not right for him because of age, permanent disability and lack of strength.
Last week a guy on this board couldn't get his slide to lock back. The description of the problem was inadequate. We went on for a couple of days when it was finally determined there was no mechanical problem. He was an older gentlemen who was lacking the strength and the presence of mind to retract the slide far enough for the stop to engage.
A person's age can effect how well they can grip and/or operate a handgun, and it relates to their experience level.
A person's mechanical ability relates to whether he could look at the slide stop to see if it is broken, or do some disassembly for repair and inspection. I assume if this individual had these abilities, he would have inspected the slide stop and told us it was mechanically fine.
Without this information being provided, I think these are legitimate questions to help determine how best to help this person.
So, yeah, when a person has a problem and wants help over the internet to resolve it, and we want to help him quickly without having to make 30 suggestions before he replies three days later that someone showed how to properly grip the gun so as not to push down on the slide stop while shooting, I think the questions are fair.
If he doesn't think they are appropriate, he doesn't have to respond. I'm trying to help, not insult anyone.