@Ziggy2525
The OP made it his business the moment he came asking for advice here. I don't expect his involvement in the matter to go any deeper than that, but so long as he asks for advice and folks continue giving advice which I feel is motivated by fear or indifference, I will offer mins from the perspective of a man who doesn't base his decisions on what is the path of least resistance, but rather the one that keeps people safe, because believe it or not, I care. I don't know this woman, but I'm still concerned for her safety, and I can't agree with this absurd notion that she ought to walk around unarmed while a dangerous man who has already threatened her life is on the loose.
Sure, she should put up trail cams, read up on local laws regarding Self-Defense, etc, but she should get the gun first and foremost just in case this creep shows up in the meantime. I doubt this guy is just going to conveniently stay away while she makes all the necessary preparations to deal with the legal side of the situation, so rather than have her get caught off guard in a situation in which her only change of survival is to stop the threat, I'd recommend that she gets a gun in advance of anything else.
Yes, the TC should inform her not to get trigger-happy or start brandishing her gun at this guy, but to keep it holstered unless it is absolutely required, and maybe even give her a little crash course on firearms safety over the phone or whatever, but she should still have it.
She asked him for help and clearly intends on getting a firearm, so her decision ought to be respected, as should the decision of anyone who seeks to exercise the Second Amendment rights and defend themselves from criminals. So he should lead by giving her the advice she requested first, then follow through with additional suggestions regarding how to avoid or otherwise approach the legal side of a potential self-defense shooting.
If her talks down to her like some of these folks suggest by trying to dissuade her from purchasing a firearm for self-defense, then he'd be doing her a disservice at best, potentially endangering her at worst.
If certain men would rather face the reaper than a prosecutor, then that's their prerogative, but when they start pushing their opinions as the only correct opinion, complete with contradictory statements regarding how the same justice system which they clearly believe is just as likely to crucify you as protect you, that's when I cannot in good conscience say nothing.
Their suggestions may seem logical and sound enough on the surface, but they lack compassion nor conviction. They aren't concerned with this woman's safety, nor for her grandchildren, they aren't thinking about all of the people who might be devastated by their possible murder, they're just thinking about the financial expenses of a lawsuit and driven by their own unwillingness to contend with the law and fight for their rights against corrupt and dishonest men within the judiciary system.
As for why I assume that she's an elderly woman. Well, I guess I'm just old school. I grew up in a time in which grandmothers were generally old women, (or at least the ones I knew were) so the word "grandmother" is synonymous with old lady to me.