Surviving menopause

[DeathGrip]

she has neither left so I let her borrow mine
Her mother died of cancer last year, so Ive seen her under the influence of extraordinary stress. If I were to make an exception for blowing a gasket, that was it. Im quite proud of her for maintaining an exceptionally even keel.
Her mother was also nuts .. paranoid manic depressive. I believe that growing up with that issue forged her resolve not to become that what tormented her through youth.
Might be something to that. The girl is tougher than I'd ask of anyone

I know what your saying. I'm thinking we have the same issues. She was Daddy's girl until he passed. I mentioned Moms a nut?

I'm gonna leave it here. It's too much of a drift.

I've got problems with aging parents of my own. I get to play mechanic on Dads '91 Cougar in the morning.

 

[2fingers]

Been through all of the above for at least 10 years or more.
Yes dear and no dear, I love you, I am going shooting or I am going to cast bullets. She would not get on hormone therapy or any drugs so yea that was fun. Still love her, and we did get through it but man did I ever eat a ton of aggravation and smile.

 

[P&R Fan]

The thing is, I think a lot of guys get married and now we have to deal with PMS and the monthly visitor on a regular basis. Ladies (I know you're reading this), you need to understand, we have NO idea what that is all about. Then, after 20 years or so of marriage, we're kinda used to it. So now what happens? It all stops, and BOY, what a change!!! I doubt there's a man in the world who can fully understand this process. We still love our Wives, but it's hard to cope. We care deeply about what is going on, and remember, we want to fix the problem, but unfortunately we can't. I have found the only thing that helps is if I cook, clean out the dishwasher, take her out to eat and be gone as much as possible. I have had a few nights when I have had 12 hour surveillance assignments recently. It's very profitable, which she likes, but I'm also not hanging around the house. That helps us both.
Oh, one more thing I'm seriously considering. I think I may get "I'm sorry, I was wrong" tattoed on my forehead.
Yeah, that may help. I'll post the picture when I do.
Jim

 

[kraigwy]

Anybody out there whose wife got through menopause without all this drama?

Yeap, my wife jokes about it, biggest problem is Hot Flashes.

I swear that Global Warming is caused by all the Baby Boomer Women and their hot flashes.

From reading this, I thank God for my wife.

I kid you not, we joke about her hot flashes. I keep a RayTeck MiniTimer (laser temp gage) on the end table, when I see her getting a hot flash I zap her. You'd be supprise how much of a temp change she gets when she has a hot flash.

Hit her with the laser on her forehead, then when she gets a hot flash hit her again, normally the fluxatiion is about 6 degrees.

 

[OK Hog Shooter]

All l gotta say bout this topic is: grin n bear it, men... this, too, shall pass!

 

[old bear]

Somebody better spell me soon!!

Brother, it sounds like you and the kid need to have a guys bonding weekend out of the house. You sound like you really need a break and time to collect yourself. After that hopefully you will be able to find the START of a solution to the problem. If that does not work, well let me suggest lots of good Scotch.

 

[Onomea]

Yeap, my wife jokes about it, biggest problem is Hot Flashes.

....

Hit her with the laser on her forehead, then when she gets a hot flash hit her again, normally the fluxatiion is about 6 degrees.

Good to hear that she can joke about it, and handles it well, but Good Lord! Six degrees of temperature variation! Holy smokes!

 

[Stevie]

It's better today....was a bit better yesterday....I'm no longer the sorriest man in the world...

I re-read my original post where I stated I've suspected menopause for a couple years....this isn't true. Really I've known we were headed for menopause for maybe 5 or 6 years. I have quite a bit of experience dealing with it...but this last bout of it has been long and bad!

My son and I discussed recent and past events last night...and decided menopause is a bit like combat. Combat where you(men..sometimes daughters too) have no tactical advantage. You must manuever defensively and keep yourself under cover...and shooting back leads to casualtys on your team. You just keep moving and keep your head down accepting your casualtys as you take hits.

 

[captorquewrench]

Yeap, my wife jokes about it, biggest problem is Hot Flashes.

I swear that Global Warming is caused by all the Baby Boomer Women and their hot flashes.

From reading this, I thank God for my wife.

I kid you not, we joke about her hot flashes. I keep a RayTeck MiniTimer (laser temp gage) on the end table, when I see her getting a hot flash I zap her. You'd be supprise how much of a temp change she gets when she has a hot flash.

Hit her with the laser on her forehead, then when she gets a hot flash hit her again, normally the fluxatiion is about 6 degrees.

We knew I had a problem when I would open the freezer door and stand there.

 

[venomballistics]

It's better today....was a bit better yesterday....I'm no longer the sorriest man in the world...

I re-read my original post where I stated I've suspected menopause for a couple years....this isn't true. Really I've known we were headed for menopause for maybe 5 or 6 years. I have quite a bit of experience dealing with it...but this last bout of it has been long and bad!

My son and I discussed recent and past events last night...and decided menopause is a bit like combat. Combat where you(men..sometimes daughters too) have no tactical advantage. You must manuever defensively and keep yourself under cover...and shooting back leads to casualtys on your team. You just keep moving and keep your head down accepting your casualtys as you take hits.

I am reminded of this time I was sitting with my friend in my old Pinto at the ripe old age of 17.
He was rather distressed ... his girl was really putting him through it. Then I told him "Its a case of boy meets good sweet girl. Girl turns bitter and you start missing the one you met doing all you can to have her return. She never does"
I have yet to poke a hole in that one, or give it a word of revision beyond some paraphrasing due to being so long ago.

Its a question of value assigned to the relationship.
You have it tagged at a handsome sum. This is made evident by your effort. Your kids seem to have done the same. the question is, just what value does she hold to it?
I like the idea of recording the tirades. Perhaps she really is unaware. Hearing the blow out would remedy that. But be prepared for the fact that she could be fully aware and that a large portion of the behavior is a control game rather than an affliction. If so, the family relationship holds little value in her eyes and will eventually dissolve.

 

[jimmyj]

Long Story Short:
1. Run away from home.
2. Join the Foreign Legion
3. Hire a Hit Man.
4. Keep on Trucking-this will pass.
5. Don't listen to Jimmy-He is old and crazy as a Loon.

 

[Rule 303]

I was real lucky, my wife didn't have much problem and knew what was going on and took care of it, but then again she's been an RN for over thirty years.

I've worked many suscides of women who destroyed their family and turned them against them by not getting treatment for this. The family left and they had no one to blame for evreything that was wrong. Everything from pills to shotguns to the head.

One lady lived in a mansion and offed herself when she realized what she had done to herself and her family. When we contacted the family, they told us to do with her what we wanted, they would have nothing to do with her even in death.

Women, who all want equal rights, should wake up and smell the coffee. There are medical treatments for this and if they refuse to use them, then they deserve what they get.

No one should should be forced to live in an insane assylum
unless they belong there.

No one is perfect, but crazy is crazy and I wouldn't put up with it from someone and I would not expect anyone to put up with it from me.

Rule 303

 

[CAJUNLAWYER]

It's better today....was a bit better yesterday....I'm no longer the sorriest man in the world...

I re-read my original post where I stated I've suspected menopause for a couple years....this isn't true. Really I've known we were headed for menopause for maybe 5 or 6 years. I have quite a bit of experience dealing with it...but this last bout of it has been long and bad!

My son and I discussed recent and past events last night...and decided menopause is a bit like combat. Combat where you(men..sometimes daughters too) have no tactical advantage. You must manuever defensively and keep yourself under cover...and shooting back leads to casualtys on your team. You just keep moving and keep your head down accepting your casualtys as you take hits.

Now you're talkin' Face it-it's a small price to pay for the privilege of being the alpha male

 

[JohnK]

How do you spell, HORMONE REPLACEMENT THERAPY......................?

I know, I know, it's almost politically incorrect lately. Tiny increases in some health risks. Some advantages.

BUT, if your women doesn't take them, she has a 99% chance of becoming a five letter word.

 

[keith44spl]

And,
If you wonder why the husbands occasionally just pack a bag and go fishing or hunting (or drinking), wait until its your turn being the target. Kind and understanding plays no role and doesn't help an unprovoked rage directed at you. It just try's your patience.

Yup,

Dick's on top of this one!

I always kept a roll of gun money stashed in the pick-up and a grocery bag of duds...

When things got too hot,,,

Jest went S&W buyin' or a new Harley or Vette for myself.

Hey, it kept me from havin' to take them "Happy Pills" !


Best of luck to the OP.


Su Amigo,
Dave

 

[williamlayton]

I don't know.
I don't know how I did it.
I am very serious about this though---it aint easy.
Blessings

 

[captorquewrench]

I don't know.
I don't know how I did it.
I am very serious about this though---it aint easy.
Blessings

If you think it isn't easy for you guys to live with a woman at that stage in her life, imagine actually going through it for yourself!

My husband says guys do have the equivalent. He says "if you ladies go through menopause, I must be going through womenopause." (and yes, you do have your change, but it's not nearly as dramatic. so mild that most people don't even know about it)

 

[JcMack]

In the USSR if Mrs. Igonovich was going thru the change, Mr. Igonovich would take the horse off the plow thus giving the Mrs. more opportunity for exercise to work off her issues.

 

[P&R Fan]

If you think it isn't easy for you guys to live with a woman at that stage in her life, imagine actually going through it for yourself!

My husband says guys do have the equivalent. He says "if you ladies go through menopause, I must be going through womenopause." (and yes, you do have your change, but it's not nearly as dramatic. so mild that most people don't even know about it)

Please understand, I'm not trying to minimize it. I know it's a really tough time for you Women. I pray my Wife goes through it quickly.
Missus P&R Fan, 4 1/2 years my senior, says I'm going through the male version. I don't think so. Still have a thick head of really good hair (although it's going pretty grey, which I like). I can still do everything I could do at 16, and I can actually do all of them better now, and I don't ever expect that to change. (Go ahead, laugh, then read Numbers 14:28- God says "as ye have spoken in mine ears, so will I do to you"). I stay in good shape by playing racquetball about three times a week, and am wearing size 31 jeans right now. I refuse to acknowledge the male version of menopause, at least for myself.
OK, OK, I will make ONE concession to aging. I can't remember what I just did yesterday. But I can immediately recite who played in all 46 Super Bowls. Some things are important, you know.
Now, what were we talking about?
Jim

 

[JcMack]

Please understand, I'm not trying to minimize it. I know it's a really tough time for you Women. I pray my Wife goes through it quickly.
Missus P&R Fan, 4 1/2 years my senior, says I'm going through the male version. I don't think so. Still have a thick head of really good hair (although it's going pretty grey, which I like). I can still do everything I could do at 16, and I can actually do all of them better now, and I don't ever expect that to change. (Go ahead, laugh, then read Numbers 14:28- God says "as ye have spoken in mine ears, so will I do to you"). I stay in good shape by playing racquetball about three times a week, and am wearing size 31 jeans right now. I refuse to acknowledge the male version of menopause, at least for myself.
OK, OK, I will make ONE concession to aging. I can't remember what I just did yesterday. But I can immediately recite who played in all 46 Super Bowls. Some things are important, you know.
Now, what were we talking about?
Jim

Got any pics of yourself? Whats your sign?