The dreaded “It’s the gun or me” gauntlet...

[swsig]

My wife and I have had a role reversal in our marriage. When we first got married back in the early '70s, she demanded a gun because her ex kept her old one, and as a native Texan she didn't feel right without a gun. So we bought a Ruger Standard. I never got to shoot it, because we lived in the only place in Texas that did not have a convenient public range, and I was pretty much neutral about guns. She, however, had access to the police range, and learned to shoot it there.

Fast forward 40 years, I've retired and have lots of spare time, and a very good public range has opened nearby. I get out the old Ruger, take it to the range, fire my first shots, and become an instant gun enthusiast and range junkie. Since then, I've become a member at the range, received my Texas license to carry, acquired half a dozen new pistols, and fired them at a rate of 1000 rounds a month. My wife, however, has completely lost interest in firearms, and will no longer step on the range. But she is still a Texan at heart. When we leave the house, she'll look at me accusingly and ask, "Are you carrying?" I'll say "Yes", and she'll smile.

 

[straightshooter1]

Thanks Joni Lynn.

I was thinking about her and how she was doing when I read her old post on this thread.

Bob

 

[codenamedave]

 

[Protocall_Design]

Some say that men are like dogs and women are like cats. Dogs have masters and cats have staff. However, it's only that way if you let it be.

 

[codenamedave]

Some say that men are like dogs and women are like cats. Dogs have masters and cats have staff. However, it's only that way if you let it be.

Reminds me of that comment floating around the web:

Women often say that men are dogs, but they forget that dogs are loyal to death if you treat them right.

 

[the ringo kid]

Has anyone ever had this thrown in their face? I had a good friend years ago that went with me to a gun store. He bought a Taurus 605 and we walked into the range with his free pass for buying a new gun. It was great. He loved it and instantly became another new satisfied gun owner. We used to go to the range at least every other weekend. When his relationship got serious she decided they needed to get married and found a bigger place. Then she found out about his gun… Sadly he had no idea how anti gun she was as it had just never come up before. He went around trying to sell it but we all know how great a deal most gun shops will offer you and even worse for the Taurus phobia. So I bought it from him and years later it's still a great gun. I can only be thankful that my female half wasn't as anti as his was. Mine has even grown to enjoy them enough that she owns a revolver and a shotgun now. Anyone else want to share a horror story or a tale of romance that a moment of wisdom saved them from???

Sounds to me like she never "really" loved him in the first place. Im lucky that all the more recent girlfriends I have-are somewhat and pro gun. Sabrina is a natural gunner like out mutual friend Caitlin. Anyway, I was listening to the radio yesterday-I think was Rush Limbaugh's week-in-review? and the host made mentioning of hearing of several women divorcing their hubbys due to them voting for Trump. Again-more cases of stupidity and not true love.

On Tues-it's my Sister and BiLs wedding anniversary. They have been married since 1977-Valentines Day. They never had any issue about him having a gun collection with my sister never having any interest in them-till about 20 years ago. From paying attention to their marriage-which works like a well-oiled machine-=ive seen how they each put 100--not 50%, not 80% but 100% into their wedding. Not bragging but, if im ever given a chance at a successful union like they have? id look on them as a good example of what to do.

 

[the ringo kid]

DAG-NABBITT-i GOTTA START LOOKING AT DATES.

 

[Iggy]

DAG-NABBITT-i GOTTA START LOOKING AT DATES.

Yup, you sure brung one up from the dead, but it appears to still have some life in it.

 

[glenwolde]

I always looked at a new girlfriend as an opportunity to buy a new gun...for her of course. Buy her a gun and see how she takes it. If she hates it, you get a gun, and maybe the girl, and maybe not. Any which way it works out. You can even recycle the guns that stay with you with a new girl.

My now wife of 35 years has a no-dash Model 63. Tyler t-grip and some vintage stag grips. It was the first thing I bought her, way before we were engaged. She went with me a few times and lost interest. Now about the only time she wants to shoot is if her friends want too. But the exposure was good so she understood what I did, and why I did it.

 

[Fishslayer]

Second date I told my wife about the guns. "There here to stay". 20 years later a Harley shows up. She was PISSED. Same story. It wasnt about the money, it was talint time away from her. CONTROL! Never give up your liberty but also don't neglect the lady. Mine has guns of her own and a seat on the bike if she wants to participate

How exactly did you come across this 6 YO thread?

 

[Ole Joe Clark]

Well, I was just gonna read and not get involved, but.....
Some 52 plus years ago I married the prettiest, nicest little girl/woman in the world. She weighed about 85 lbs. soaking wet, she was 18 and I was 21. Owning guns never came up in our marriage plans, I guess she knew I had a couple and that I liked to hunt and fish. As the years passed by I hunted and fished as much as I wanted to, which was a lot. Took her dove hunting and she killed more than a lot of the guys that went. Bought her a Colt Detective Special and a Ruger 44 magnum rifle that she still fiercely claims today. She is still my Best Friend and Sweetheart. We still go shooting and fishing together. Of course we have had our disagreements over the years, but less and less as we are older, (some will say old) now. I love her dearly, and she loves me, and as we said many years ago, "till death do us part." I thank God every day for my good wife.

Have a blessed day,

Leon

 

[BLACKHAWKNJ]

Marrying someone and think you'll "change" them is like buying an old run down car and thinking you'll "change" it into something better. Who here has converted a K-22 into an M-29 ?
Makes me think of an incident from my Civil War reenacting days. The wife of one reenactor was always quacking he was "spending too much" and "taking too much time"-he always took his stepson, her son, the kid had the time of his life, had a father, enjoyed the camaraderie, etc. He succumbed to cancer-the service was a sea of blue. I don't think anyone went up to her to offer condolences.

 

[Bekeart]

Just gotta find the right woman.
One day my wife asked me, "Are any of these guns loaded?"
Figuring I thwarted her I replied, "Nope they're all unloaded with the ammo in another room."
She replied, "Then what good are they if none of them are loaded?"
Yup, got me a good one.

Years ago while loafing with and OLD gunsmith in Kansas he mentioned that the shotgun over the door was ALWAYS loaded.

Too many people are killed by UNLOADED guns.

Bekeart

 

[the ringo kid]

Yup, you sure brung one up from the dead, but it appears to still have some life in it.

Lets us just blame Snubby for thread ressurection instead.

 

[the ringo kid]

Marrying someone and think you'll "change" them is like buying an old run down car and thinking you'll "change" it into something better. Who here has converted a K-22 into an M-29 ?
Makes me think of an incident from my Civil War reenacting days. The wife of one reenactor was always quacking he was "spending too much" and "taking too much time"-he always took his stepson, her son, the kid had the time of his life, had a father, enjoyed the camaraderie, etc. He succumbed to cancer-the service was a sea of blue. I don't think anyone went up to her to offer condolences.

Andrew Zimmer--the guy who eats gross stuff on one of the cable stations--did an hour episode on the types--how prepared etc--kinds of food that the average Johnny Reb would eat IF they had anything to eat? Some actually sounded good. For instance--Coffee could be made by slicing a sweet potato into chips-frying them, then grinding it in a coffee grinder-and wallah--Coffee. It supposedly tasted good.

They also showed how to make (and try to eat) Hardtack ( Crackers)

 

[the ringo kid]

PS,Zimmer took the oath of allegience to become a Reb. ) he lasted 24 hrs.

 

[franzas]

Firearms are protected in the Constitution. Marriage is not.

 

[cmort666]

Firearms are protected in the Constitution. Marriage is not.

Neither is malaria...

 

[dougb1946]

I don't know... we had a really good marriage and friendship until he retired and didn't want to do anything or go anywhere except to the garage and drink. Everything I did to entertain myself, he had a problem with because it took attention away from him. So after two years of him screaming at me to quit whatever I was involved with at the time, he demanded a divorce in a drunken snit fit and then refused to take it back because he "didn't want people to think he didn't mean what he said" and he "has his pride."

He also has my house, my furniture, my safe, my dog, my friends. Oh, and I had to quit the job I love because I couldn't afford to live where I worked on the income I was making part-time. He refuses to keep me on any of his insurance once we're divorced. For all of this, he said I could have $20,000. He wanted the divorce over with in 90 days. I have balked and the proceedings are stalled at this point.

So I left and went to do some work in a far away place to stay busy, make a difference, and be completely out of my element so I don't get depressed.

And that's where we stand.

And it's a shame.

You need a better lawyer.

 

[Kevin J.]

If any woman tries to make you choose between her and anything except
another woman, run away as fast as you can. This is advice from a man whose has been married for 39 years. Like a motorcycle you need two wheels, love and respect.