I work in a gun shop part time and this past year have seen a HUGE surge in women buying their first gun.
Here is what I see (weekly) as they come in for help:
-Most come in not knowing more about guns than what Uncle Johns, daughters cop friend said about a "H&K??" duty gun at Suzies baby shower 6 months ago......
-Most want something small enough to carry in their purse but big enough to stop a bear.
-Most have no intention of joining a gun club to regularly drill on proficient use of their gun .
-More than a few ( mostly elderly) have real hand strength issues which leaves them struggling work the slide and controls on a Shield , BG380 or other small semi.
So when asked for what I recommend, I often reach for a S&W J frame of some flavor because:
-It's the simplest handgun to operate under stress.
- Pull the trigger and it goes BANG. Every time. If you EVER DID get a FTF, you just pull the trigger again.
- It allows the shooter to run light loads to learn and heavier loads as they get comfortable /confidence.
- It allows for hundreds of different recoil controlling grip options that can be tailored to the shooters needs and wants.
-It's what I point to on my hip as a statement of my confidence in the above.
One more thing I've observed in most of them: I don't get to reason two above before they make a face and dismiss my advice with" Oh No, I don't want a revolver"!
I just keep telling myself that "they don't know what they don't know" but admittedly, some days I enjoy the job better than others.