Who Told You That You Could Call Me By My First Name?
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That's hysterical!
Ole Joe Clark
Absent Comrade
The folks that call me Mr. are the nurses and people I owe money. Since I don't owe anyone any money I only get that from the medical community. 
Have a blessed day,
Leon
Have a blessed day,
Leon
Doug M.
Member
I once in a while deal with military personnel for my work - they get addressed by their rank, because they have earned that. Corporal, PO3, Master Chief, Colonel, you name it ... all the same to me in terms of the respect owned to those who earned it. That's just me, and I am not sure where it comes from, as Uncle Sam did not have my delusions about my worth as a potential JAG. I remember seeing an article in which a military officer serving as a command's PIO was doing referred to as "Ms. X" when she was a Navy Lt. That really griped me.
There are people who really annoy me, and as far as I can tell, their first name is "Mother". Refraining from using it as such is sometimes more than I can handle.
There are people who really annoy me, and as far as I can tell, their first name is "Mother". Refraining from using it as such is sometimes more than I can handle.
Grayfox
US Veteran
When someone addresses me by my first name my guard immediately goes up. You see in my family, for four generations now, all the men have had the same first name. But we all have different middle names and that middle name is how we are normally addressed by family and friends.
My formal name is first name, middle initial and last name. This is what I use for any business purposes and how I sign all forms of paperwork.
So when someone calls me by my first name I know that they are not a friend or family. They have simply read my full name and are now trying to weasel there way into my confidence. I usually just let it slide when dealing with business people as I know this is about business and nothing personal. It also helps to keep me on my toes.
Only family and close friends call me by my middle name and that's because I want them to.
I am a son of the South. Mama raised me with manners and I still address folks as Sir, Ma'am, Mr, Mrs or Ms regardless of age until they tell me otherwise.
My formal name is first name, middle initial and last name. This is what I use for any business purposes and how I sign all forms of paperwork.
So when someone calls me by my first name I know that they are not a friend or family. They have simply read my full name and are now trying to weasel there way into my confidence. I usually just let it slide when dealing with business people as I know this is about business and nothing personal. It also helps to keep me on my toes.
Only family and close friends call me by my middle name and that's because I want them to.
I am a son of the South. Mama raised me with manners and I still address folks as Sir, Ma'am, Mr, Mrs or Ms regardless of age until they tell me otherwise.
If I know you, I'm OK with you calling me by my first name (Robert) or even my nickname (Bob).
Otherwise, don't assume that level of familiarity.
I especially hate it when some smarmy salesperson starts using my first name to "chummy" up to me to try and sell me something.
Otherwise, don't assume that level of familiarity.
I especially hate it when some smarmy salesperson starts using my first name to "chummy" up to me to try and sell me something.
amazingflapjack
US Veteran
Being from Georgia, you were most likely raised that way. If that's the case, you ain't likely to change. There, it's OK to call someone by their first name, as long as there is a mister or Miss in front of it.
I think that she......
...loves and respects you, too. Why is there a problem there? If it makes a difference and it REALLY bothers you, let her know. I'll bet that you accept it and let it ride.
...loves and respects you, too. Why is there a problem there? If it makes a difference and it REALLY bothers you, let her know. I'll bet that you accept it and let it ride.
brigeton
Member
I understand not liking a stranger calling you by your first name but if friends and family can't use your first name you have a problem.
Well, I don't think it's from being old. And I'm pretty sure it's not a Southern thing, although manners certainly are or used to be more important in the South than in some other areas.
My own opinion is that you see exactly what is going on. I would only say that I try not to be too harsh on young 'uns that weren't raised any better. I try to figure out what they really mean, and act accordingly, and try to remember whose tongue I'm supposed to bite.
Bullseye 2620
Member
Some folks go through great trouble to get people to say their name ...
And some people never get called by their name . . .
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In my trade there are many nicknames. I worked for a great guy called Ollie. When I saw the name Earl Stanic, I didn't know it was the same guy. I am known as Big Jim. I know guys like, The Cobb, Davey, Jonesy, Klag, DS, My Tye, Cowboy, Montana, Hoochie Momma, etc. We are very informal. I am a supervisor and hate to be called Sir. First of all I am not better than the people that work with me, I just serve in a different role. Plus, some of it is from the Marines, I was an NCO, not an officer and most NCOs didn't want tto or like being called a "Sir". Right after boot camp, while awaiting assignment to a ITR platoon, I spend a few days working in a supply depot. I called a Gunny "Sir". LOL whoa did he let me know my mistake. Never did that again.
My family all calls me Jimmy because as a child it separated me from Uncle and Grampa Jim. I am Jim, not James. I always addressed my family seniors by Aunt, Uncle Grandpa followed by their name. I introduce myself as Jim. I am Jim, I am proud of the Jim I am, that is all I want to be to people. My grand kids call me Gtrandpa Jimmy, my nephews uncle Jimmy, Its enough for me.
In my family if something is modified in some manner it is "Jimmyed" LOL Jimmy the modifier.
My family all calls me Jimmy because as a child it separated me from Uncle and Grampa Jim. I am Jim, not James. I always addressed my family seniors by Aunt, Uncle Grandpa followed by their name. I introduce myself as Jim. I am Jim, I am proud of the Jim I am, that is all I want to be to people. My grand kids call me Gtrandpa Jimmy, my nephews uncle Jimmy, Its enough for me.
In my family if something is modified in some manner it is "Jimmyed" LOL Jimmy the modifier.
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OP
Interesting. Here, Janes and Johns are referred to as Chicks and Dudes.
Here it comes across as being "cool" IE, perhaps a holdover from the seventies.
"Duuuuuuuuuuude! How's it goin!" happens a lot.
An interesting twist. Here, if you call a Latino gangbanger "Amigo" it's like calling a person of color "boy".
Careful how you use "Amigo."
I know, ridiculous. I lived in Oklahoma and we called everyone Amigo. Think John Wayne move...............kinda like Pilgrim.
Wait a minute, is Pilgrim still okay?????????????????
OP
Good point, if it has the prefix, it doesn't sting as much.
At least where you are from.
OP
In modern circles, as a supervisor, nicknames will get you in a world of trouble and probably fired.
I'm older, and always gave my staff nicknames. Had to stop that about ten-years ago.
I had one girl that quite often said "Gimmie a break Mr. XXXXXX". So I nicknamed her Kit Kat. Can't even think about doing that anymore. Can't refer to her as "girl" either.
I know, different subject, but I really miss nicknames.
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wingriderz
Member
Always by first name
ancient-one
US Veteran
I have lived in Oklahoma all of my life except for my time in the Navy and have heard very few use the word Amigo until the last few years when the influx began. Then it is mostly those speaking Spanish.
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Step N. Mud
Member
The Nuns at St. Rita's grade school would tell me 'Your name is MUD!'
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