Please forgive me if I am a bit maudlin in this post. One of my closest friends passed away yesterday evening. No not a member here but a member of our fraternity in the shooting sports. He was a victim of a neurological disease that didn't allow his muscles to regenerate. We hunted reloaded and shot together...And did gun shows, even hit the por...er.. pawn shops together. . Not that he didn't lead a fairly long life...but a few weeks ago he was doing alright...Don't really know how or what to say. But I'm going to miss him. I guess being remembered is important
Age and other problems.
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twodog max
Member
Sorry about your friend.
Yes age related problems do seem to come on quickly.
Yes age related problems do seem to come on quickly.
We all are making our journey to "the land from which no one ever returns," as George Washington often said. Sometimes it is slow and gradual, sometimes not. It hurts to lose good friends. Sorry for the loss of your buddy.
JJEH
Member
I'm sorry for your loss. I know it's tough and things will never be the same. Especially when it seems like things are going better.
Back when I was just a young dumb little soldier, I was chosen to drive one of our motor pool SGT's to a special thorax clinic. He had cancer and his lungs kept filling with water. I was supposed to take him there every Friday and pick him up the following Monday.
I took him exactly three times. On the last drive he was so high in spirits, laughing, talking, smiling. He told me how he feels like he's done at the hospital, everything is just going great.
That Saturday or Sunday he passed. Everything from then on was just weird...
Back when I was just a young dumb little soldier, I was chosen to drive one of our motor pool SGT's to a special thorax clinic. He had cancer and his lungs kept filling with water. I was supposed to take him there every Friday and pick him up the following Monday.
I took him exactly three times. On the last drive he was so high in spirits, laughing, talking, smiling. He told me how he feels like he's done at the hospital, everything is just going great.
That Saturday or Sunday he passed. Everything from then on was just weird...
TheHobbyist
Member
I am sorry for your loss. Hang on to the good memories and in time they will make you smile again. Be thankful for the time shared and keep those around you at the forefront, continuing to make memories.
Breathe, relax when you can and focus on what is truly important and take comfort in that and your beliefs.
My good friend passed away last year, he had stage 4 cancer diagnosis in mid 2020 then early 2021 (IIRC timeline) the chemo and treatment worked and he beat it. Maybe 3-4 months later he caught Covid and passed away, having his immune system being drained. Shook me up good. Learned to keep his memory, weird laugh/chuckle, and it now is a case that I view it as I'll see my friend again one day; bringing comfort.
Breathe, relax when you can and focus on what is truly important and take comfort in that and your beliefs.
My good friend passed away last year, he had stage 4 cancer diagnosis in mid 2020 then early 2021 (IIRC timeline) the chemo and treatment worked and he beat it. Maybe 3-4 months later he caught Covid and passed away, having his immune system being drained. Shook me up good. Learned to keep his memory, weird laugh/chuckle, and it now is a case that I view it as I'll see my friend again one day; bringing comfort.
I offer my sincere condolences on your -- and the world's loss -- Skeet.
I've been up on this mountain for 16 years. In only two of those did I not attend a memorial service for a friend, some many years my elder, some many years my junior. It isn't about age, it's about being a person's time. I miss each one.
When one sage codger passed another friend said, "The world just got a bit meaner." I've used that phrase many times.
The rest of us seem to manage and move along, the lesser with each loss, perhaps. Our strength bolstered a bit by our association with each of them, though.
May we never forget any one of them. Each of them we let in played a role, no matter how small or large, in making us who we are.
Thanks for letting us in and sharing your loss with us.
Take good care, my friend.
I've been up on this mountain for 16 years. In only two of those did I not attend a memorial service for a friend, some many years my elder, some many years my junior. It isn't about age, it's about being a person's time. I miss each one.
When one sage codger passed another friend said, "The world just got a bit meaner." I've used that phrase many times.
The rest of us seem to manage and move along, the lesser with each loss, perhaps. Our strength bolstered a bit by our association with each of them, though.
May we never forget any one of them. Each of them we let in played a role, no matter how small or large, in making us who we are.
Thanks for letting us in and sharing your loss with us.
Take good care, my friend.
Sorry to hear about your friends passing, but at our age we tend to attend more funerals that weddings. May your friend rest in peace, Fred
Sorry for the loss of your friend. I'm 76, and getting old is not
for sissies.
for sissies.
How close you were to someone and how much you deeply cared for them directly correlates to the weight of your heartache at losing them.
My condolences.
My condolences.
Sorry for your loss of a dear friend, there are too many of us walking this unhappy path.
If I'da known I was gonna live this long, I might have taken better care of myself over the years. But my stories wouldn't be as good . . .
Tex1001
Member
Your reputation is what men say about you on your tombstone.
Your character is what the angels proclaim about you before the throne of God!
May he rest in peace.
Your character is what the angels proclaim about you before the throne of God!
May he rest in peace.
OLDSTER
Member
I'm like an old car--falling apart. Sorry for you at your friends loss--we just never know.
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Sorry for your loss, at least your friend didn't have a "multi-year decline." Joe
Thanks for all the kind thoughts and bits and pieces of wisdom. There were 3 of us that did th gun shows hunted together and just good friends. Now only 2. I happen to be the youngest(and I'm old). Tried to take him to the hospital on a Friday. He wouldn't go. When he got there on Monday he was in a decline and never really recovered. Wish I had insisted. Dealing with really ill people was my job/business. Feel like I let him down. I also thank the owners and mods of this board for having and keeping such a place where others truly understand.
bamabiker
Member
I'm sorry for your loss. Good friends are hard to come by.
I heard a preacher one time preaching about death. He said our birth date and death date didn't really matter. The dash in between is what's important. Sounds like your friend had a good dash and you were part of it.
Remember the good times.
I heard a preacher one time preaching about death. He said our birth date and death date didn't really matter. The dash in between is what's important. Sounds like your friend had a good dash and you were part of it.
Remember the good times.
That'll be quite enough of that.
Right now think about your friend when you and he were at a gun show.
Was he the kind of guy who'd want you to feel guilty?
He doesn't sound like that sort to me.
hivel37
US Veteran
Sorry for your loss, my friend. We've all had them.
As others have said, remember the good times shared.
Carry no guilt over the circumstances.
As others have said, remember the good times shared.
Carry no guilt over the circumstances.
Benchrest1
Member
Sorry for your loss. Getting old and losing friends really sucks. Hang in there.
