Hey guys well....I got it!! I ended up with the M&P 9mm full size. I took the advice of many of you on here and went and shot several different types. I liked the .40 but I shot the 9mm so much better! I tried the glock and just really liked the grip and feel of the M&P 9. I almost went for the pro decided that I was happy with this gun and I think it will make a hell of good first weapon for my collection......I say collection because I am very new to this but after spending a couple of hours at the gun shop I had a shopping list for what was next 
tks for the help!!!
gamble

tks for the help!!!
gamble