Great insight.
I am curious: should there be a slight "pause" when staging the trigger before firing? I do kinda feel comfortable with that since it is only an EDC gun, not a competition gun with a light DA.
Or is it one continuous stroke without the pause?
Opinions differ, but I prefer a straight-through pull. If you have to fire in self defense, you're not going to have the time to stage the trigger. Just pull straight through. I would argue the same applies when trying to make a more precise and/or distant shot.
For practicing, focus on smooth, consistent speed. The goal is to pull the trigger through as fast as you can while keeping the pull smooth and consistent. The slower you pull the trigger, the harder it is to keep the sights aligned. Get some snap caps and do dry fire practice for a few minutes every day. That will help improve your skill.
Also, don't neglect trigger release. If you want to get faster, learn to release the trigger as soon as the gun fires. Let the trigger return fully forward, but keep your finger in contact with the trigger; this helps minimize the chance of short-stroking the trigger. Again, dry fire practice with snap caps is your best option with getting the hang of it.
Eventually, you'll be able to cycle the trigger quickly with minimal sight disturbance (nobody can hold a gun
completely still).
Of course, live fire practice is also important to incorporate recoil control.
That's my approach. Others have different opinions. One isn't necessarily better than the other, but I think the approach I use is most applicable to self defense scenarios.
Even better, get some hands-on instruction from someone who knows how to run a defensive revolver (Grant Cunningham comes to mind). Short of that, I'd recommend his books on defensive revolvers and snubs as a good guide.
Hope that helps.