This is EXACTLY what I want. Funerals are just an excuse for the survivors to feel sorry for themselves.
Makeing plans for the final exit.
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This is EXACTLY what I want. Funerals are just an excuse for the survivors to feel sorry for themselves.
labworm
US Veteran
I am unaware of him and I ever having an argument.
I did hire 12 Imported Italian Professional Weepers to attend my wake. The remaining clan will be saying "What did I get"
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shouldazagged
Absent Comrade
That's awfully harsh. Is it somehow weak or self-pitying for people to hurt over the loss of a loved one? And to share it with others who loved the deceased? Is struggling with the reality of no longer having someone you love in your life simply feeling sorry for yourself?
When my wife died we held her memorial service in the church where we married. It seated 200. There were 400 in the building and more standing outside in a bitter-cold January rain. It was their tribute to that remarkable woman, and their way of telling me and her kids that they were there for us.
I'll never forget that outpouring of love and support.
Didn't seem to me like an "excuse" for anything. Nor did I consider my grieving merely "feeling sorry for myself".
Okay, I over-generalized and certainly meant no offense. Just that I've only been to one memorial service that was really a celebration of the departed's life that was completely free of any self-pity. No disrespect intended to those who disagree or who have had more favorable experiences.
I am curious as to why the OP was facing death in Vietnam in 1986... (A typo, perhaps?)
My wife can decide what to do with me when I die. I don't have strong feelings about it.
My wife can decide what to do with me when I die. I don't have strong feelings about it.
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riverrat38
US Veteran
They can fire up the Alice May on Lake Lebarge and shovel in the coal;
or, less troublesome, just put my body on an airliner as checked baggage and I will never be heard of again!
Best,
Rick
or, less troublesome, just put my body on an airliner as checked baggage and I will never be heard of again!
Best,
Rick
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I have been conducting funerals since 1983. Funerals are for those who are left alive. Those who are planning their own funeral should at a minimum consider those who will be left. Anything else is simply selfishness.
jaykellogg
Absent Comrade
When my mother passed away her wishes were to be cremated and buried, no service and no obituary. Well we had her cremated and buried at the State Veteran's Cemetery in Black Mountain, NC. There was a charge of a bit over $900 for the cremation and death certificates. No charge for the burial or the cemetery plot. She had (free) access to a family plot in New Jersey where she grew up and where her mother and some other relatives are buried. Trouble is, no one would ever visit the grave. We had a life service for her at the retirement community where she lived the last 8 or 9 years. She had a lot of people who held her in high regard there. We also put an obit in the Hendersonville paper and the Clarion, PA paper. Hospice gave us a paper with a list of cremation suppliers and prices.
As for me, I have avoided expressing certain wishes and I usually answer just do what you feel is right. I would prefer to be buried high where it will never flood.
I had a friend who when he died at age 62 of cancer I went to the viewing. I waited 3-4 hours in line to walk past the casket.
As for me, I have avoided expressing certain wishes and I usually answer just do what you feel is right. I would prefer to be buried high where it will never flood.
I had a friend who when he died at age 62 of cancer I went to the viewing. I waited 3-4 hours in line to walk past the casket.
redneckemt
Member
Told my wife I want to be cremated wearing my Vigil Sash of the OA and my Apron, and I need two silver dollars got to pay the Boatman. Scatter my ashes amongst the graves of my ancestors. And remind everyone I ll see them again. I just hope if she sells any of my guns she sells them for what they are worth not what I told her I paid for them.
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BearBio
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We have a mantle with the ashes of all our beloved, furry children. I will be burned in a cardboard box and all our ashes mixed. Wife can join us if she wishes. Then, all of us will be scattered together in some wild place. For my service, Requiem by Robert Louis Stevenson.
A Masonic Service.
A Masonic Service.
olcop
Member
plans for the final exit
Yeah, and it might cheat you out of an overpriced funeral.
olcop
Yeah, and it might cheat you out of an overpriced funeral.
olcop
feralmerril
Absent Comrade
Olcop, I am willing to bet almost every preacher there is or was, will do a funeral for free if the family is poor. Every one I was involved with asked nothing but we always just gave a card with money in it and price was never discussed with our funnerals or weddings in the churchs I went to plus I never ever heard of it with the exception of people going to those commercial wedding chaples like vegas and elsewhere.
shouldazagged
Absent Comrade
I'm told that some cultures, like the Roma (Gypsies), mourn a birth because it's the beginning of a live of travail, and celebrate a death as a release from life's troubles. I know that many years ago a local funeral home was pretty much trashed when a Gypsy tribal queen died. Hell of a party, apparently.
A woman from Northern Ireland I met a long time ago told a group of us about the wakes they held when she was a girl. She said there was in every village a cadre of old ladies who attended every wake for the free food and booze. The dear departed would be laid out on a table in his home, and the old girls would stand looking at the body and say things like, "Ah, thank God it was nothing serious!"
A woman from Northern Ireland I met a long time ago told a group of us about the wakes they held when she was a girl. She said there was in every village a cadre of old ladies who attended every wake for the free food and booze. The dear departed would be laid out on a table in his home, and the old girls would stand looking at the body and say things like, "Ah, thank God it was nothing serious!"
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I see I'm not the only Robert Service fan on the Forum.
"Since I left Plumtree down in Tennessee, it's the first time I've been warm".
Jim
SmokeStack Lightning
Member
My Pop is buried in Arlington, Mom is gonna join him there.
Both had pre-arranged funerals and it's the only way to go, especially for the ones you leave behind.
Ima getting cremated, mostly scattered (don't care where) then a portion of my ashes are going to the plot Pop bought before WW2. I share the same name as him. Just gotta change the dates on the marker. CHEAP!
Both had pre-arranged funerals and it's the only way to go, especially for the ones you leave behind.
Ima getting cremated, mostly scattered (don't care where) then a portion of my ashes are going to the plot Pop bought before WW2. I share the same name as him. Just gotta change the dates on the marker. CHEAP!
feralmerril
Absent Comrade
Shouldazagged mentioned a gypsey funneral. Gotta tell this one my co worker told me. He had a side job of riding funeral escourts. They had a gypsey funeral of supposedly the "Gypsey king" or equivent. He was curious and peeked in to see how they did it. Gypseys were fileing past the casket and throwing money and jewelry in it. The widow was weeping etc. Then she asked the funneral director to have a minute alone with her husband before he closed the casket. Joe said he peeked around a curtain to watch her. She gathered up envelopes, money and jewlery and spitted on her dead husbands face!
olcop
Member
final exit
the comment was aimed at funeral directors, not priests or preachers---however, I care for neither, probably the result of my being a LEO.
olcop
Feralmerril,
the comment was aimed at funeral directors, not priests or preachers---however, I care for neither, probably the result of my being a LEO.
olcop
feralmerril
Absent Comrade
Thanks. I see you answered brucev`s post, he`s a preacher, not a funeral director. I didnt know if you knew that from reading old posts of his or not.
I do think one of the biggest rip off business`s in this country is the funeral industry trying to sell exspendsive caskets etc. It hits all relatives at a sad time, probley already has been exspendsive medical bills leaing up to the death and then maybe given a sales pitch that may put a guilt trip on you as a selling point. That is one job I couldnt handle though.
I do think one of the biggest rip off business`s in this country is the funeral industry trying to sell exspendsive caskets etc. It hits all relatives at a sad time, probley already has been exspendsive medical bills leaing up to the death and then maybe given a sales pitch that may put a guilt trip on you as a selling point. That is one job I couldnt handle though.
feralmerril
Absent Comrade
This guy died and wanted to be buried in his cadilac. They got a big boom truck out there and as the man was being lowered in the huge grave, he was wearing a derby hat, had a stogie in his mouth and jug in his hand, a couple of his old friends were watching and one told the other, now man, dats what I call living!
