Welcome back, and take it day to day. Just keep getting out of bed and finding things to do. Very sorry to hear of all your losses.
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Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss.
Condolances sent for you. Losing loved ones is never easy. Welcome back and stay in touch.
Grayfox
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I lost my wife of 33 years back in Dec. 2010. I understand what you're going through. That first year after I withdrew from the world. I went to work and just sat at home alone. I didn't go anywhere. do anything and tried my best to avoid everyone. It was a bad time. I finally realized that this was not a good thing and with the help of good friends, forced myself to rejoin the world. I wish I could offer some sage advice, but we all have to work our own way through this sort of thing by ourselves. You never really get over it, but in time you will learn to make peace with it.
I ran across this somewhere on the internet several years ago. I post it here for the benefit of those who have been lucky enough to not go through this. So that they may understand what its like to have to deal with such a loss.
I ran across this somewhere on the internet several years ago. I post it here for the benefit of those who have been lucky enough to not go through this. So that they may understand what its like to have to deal with such a loss.
I won't pretend to know your anguish or pain.
I can only add my condolences.
I can only add my condolences.
I am sorry for you loses.
It does get better, I lost my oldest son to a car accident when he was just 19. Unbelievably painful. Slowly but surely the pain subsided and the good memories remain. My wife of 25 years died in January of 2009. I was one lost man, lost my focus for a couple years. The pain has faded, the good memories remain. From time to time something will trigger my grief, but I think of the good they gave me and go on with my life, knowing that is what they would want for me.
You can do this. You can be happy and love life. Their memories live in you. They helped to make you who you are. The ones you loved and who loved you would want you to be happy. Honor them in your life
It does get better, I lost my oldest son to a car accident when he was just 19. Unbelievably painful. Slowly but surely the pain subsided and the good memories remain. My wife of 25 years died in January of 2009. I was one lost man, lost my focus for a couple years. The pain has faded, the good memories remain. From time to time something will trigger my grief, but I think of the good they gave me and go on with my life, knowing that is what they would want for me.
You can do this. You can be happy and love life. Their memories live in you. They helped to make you who you are. The ones you loved and who loved you would want you to be happy. Honor them in your life
Glad you're back, hoping we can help in some small way.
My dear wife passed away on Feb 11, 2020, ironically on my birthday.
So I can partly have sympathy with you. We had been together over
sixty years. I miss her every day. You have a much bigger load to
carry with your son added to the sadness. I wish you all of God's blessings
that we can muster. I will say a prayer for you.
So I can partly have sympathy with you. We had been together over
sixty years. I miss her every day. You have a much bigger load to
carry with your son added to the sadness. I wish you all of God's blessings
that we can muster. I will say a prayer for you.
Doug M.
Member
One step at a time. Little by little, it gets ... less bad. "Fake it until you make it" seems like a platitude, but is actually realistic.
My condolences for your losses. That is some tough sledding.
If you need to talk, we're here.
If you need to talk, we're here.
Puller
Member
Singer Craig Morgan lost his 19 year old son in an accident, his song has given me comfort due to a loss.
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Prayers sent for continued comfort in these trying times. Stay Strong!
You have a tough and heavy load to carry. My deepest condolences to you and hopefully you’ll find the grace and support to carry on.
Carpriver, I read your post last night and was simply at a loss for words. I still don't have anything helpful, consoling, to say. But I am sincerely sorry for your losses and pray that you will somehow be able to bear the burden placed upon you and, in time, find solace and peace.
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After many years in the pastorate our youngest son and his wife were killed in an automobile accident (as well as the two young female college students who crossed the line and hit them head-on).
As people of faith, we are in no way exempt from grief yet may feel guilty if we share it with others. A program that was helpful is called Grief Share. The local Grief Share here was hosted by the United Methodist Church, but is not denominationally affiliated.
The struggle for me was a consciousness that how I coped with such a loss was a testimony to my religious faith. I discovered that a vocational calling to ministry in no way mitigates the pain of losing loved ones in the short term. My assurance of an ultimate reunion has slowly helped me tremendously.
I will be praying for you and urge you to see if Grief Share or an equivalent program is available in your area.
As people of faith, we are in no way exempt from grief yet may feel guilty if we share it with others. A program that was helpful is called Grief Share. The local Grief Share here was hosted by the United Methodist Church, but is not denominationally affiliated.
The struggle for me was a consciousness that how I coped with such a loss was a testimony to my religious faith. I discovered that a vocational calling to ministry in no way mitigates the pain of losing loved ones in the short term. My assurance of an ultimate reunion has slowly helped me tremendously.
I will be praying for you and urge you to see if Grief Share or an equivalent program is available in your area.
He said it better than I can, co I'll just add "Amen."
prayers for your continued journey back to life.. as you know, prayers work... welcome back
I gave your post a like because it shows you are making an effort to carry on. I don't think we get over these things but change because of them. Usually permanently. Keep getting up. Join us here on the forum. Prayers sent for your comfort and strength.
Carpriver, I am so sorry for your losses...I can't imagine the pain you've experienced.
I don't have any magic words to comfort you...I can tell you only that here in our little online community, we're all friends, and we want you to know you can reach out to us anytime if you just want to chat, or vent, or read a kind word.
You're in my prayers, my friend...
I don't have any magic words to comfort you...I can tell you only that here in our little online community, we're all friends, and we want you to know you can reach out to us anytime if you just want to chat, or vent, or read a kind word.
You're in my prayers, my friend...
