If it were me, I would leave. If the rental agency is aware of the situation, I would appeal to them for a refund. Who knows, they may be willing to do the right thing. They don't want trouble any more than you do. Restraining orders, etc. can lead to further aggression, and do nothing but document the situation. If this person has mental issues the last thing you want is for them to further obsess about you. The best case scenario is go your own way and let her find another target. I know this sounds like giving in, but this is one where you want to win the war not a battle. Good luck in a tough situation.
What do you do about a crazy person ?
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jlrhiner
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Thankfully, I'm usually the craziest person in the campground.
usmc2427765
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I would suggest contacting local Law Enforcement and have a patrol officer talk to her and maybe, maybe obtain an emergency mental health commitment. Usually good for 72 hours and will put her on the local LEO radar.
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I would purchase a few cans of pepper spray from a good gun shop or a police supply shop that handles good quality products. Keep one in your car, one in your house and give one to your wife. If she were to assault you they are very effective and won't expose you to as much of a law suit as a firearm. If you use the pepper spray on her once I am sure that she will never forget the incident. Sometime their isn't an easy answer to a local problem. Good luck!
I would purchase a few cans of pepper spray from a good gun shop or a police supply shop that handles good quality products. Keep one in your car, one in your house and give one to your wife. If she were to assault you they are very effective and won't expose you to as much of a law suit as a firearm. If you use the pepper spray on her once I am sure that she will never forget the incident. Sometime their isn't an easy answer to a local problem. Good luck!
Money isn't the only reason. Post 27
Peter, i have NOT read all the responses to this comment.
But, here are my thoughts. DO NOT leave, that is exactly what Crazy Lady wants. As hard as it may be Stand up for yourself and family. Don't let a Crazy person win this fight
Hang in there Pal, everyone here is pulling for you.
I will gift you some of the best advice I've ever been given. "Stay Strong."
Peter, i have NOT read all the responses to this comment.
But, here are my thoughts. DO NOT leave, that is exactly what Crazy Lady wants. As hard as it may be Stand up for yourself and family. Don't let a Crazy person win this fight
Hang in there Pal, everyone here is pulling for you.
I will gift you some of the best advice I've ever been given. "Stay Strong."
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Huskerguy
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1. Try not to be alone - either you or your wife. Better to have someone with you for a witness.
2. As soon as an attack starts, pull out the cell phone and clearly state with the recording started "I am recording this."
3. Don't escalate anything. Stay calm, and be as nice as possible, keep your voice tone very low and quiet. The more civil you are, the more it builds your case.
4. Write down past events as accurately as possible, when, where, what was said as best you can remember. Keep it factual, not how you feel.
5. Go down the chain of command. First start with telling this person you are offended and do not wish to continue this method of "communication" and that you will notify authorities. All said quietly and firmly.
6. Proceed to the owner/manager of the site. Always start there so they are aware. They should tell you how they are going to handle it and when. They should also tell you what to do if it happens again and who to report it to. Emphasize that if it continues you will report it to authorities.
7. If nothing happens and this persists, then go to the local police. Take all of your documentation and who all you have reported this to and when. That will give them a lot more information to go on and proceed with a plan rather than to "wait and see if this happens again" kind of thing.
8. Be prepared to move. The owners/manager could ask both of you to leave. I think he would be within his rights to do so but I would also think they would likely give your money back.
9. The hardest thing to do in these cases is not react. I have found a smile and reassurance can help but if the person is truly mentally ill, all bets go out the window.
Best of luck with this and let us know how it turns out.
EDIT: I might add that I was a teacher/administrator for 36 years, I have seen one or two of these. Yes, parents can be told to not enter the school because of their behavior.
2. As soon as an attack starts, pull out the cell phone and clearly state with the recording started "I am recording this."
3. Don't escalate anything. Stay calm, and be as nice as possible, keep your voice tone very low and quiet. The more civil you are, the more it builds your case.
4. Write down past events as accurately as possible, when, where, what was said as best you can remember. Keep it factual, not how you feel.
5. Go down the chain of command. First start with telling this person you are offended and do not wish to continue this method of "communication" and that you will notify authorities. All said quietly and firmly.
6. Proceed to the owner/manager of the site. Always start there so they are aware. They should tell you how they are going to handle it and when. They should also tell you what to do if it happens again and who to report it to. Emphasize that if it continues you will report it to authorities.
7. If nothing happens and this persists, then go to the local police. Take all of your documentation and who all you have reported this to and when. That will give them a lot more information to go on and proceed with a plan rather than to "wait and see if this happens again" kind of thing.
8. Be prepared to move. The owners/manager could ask both of you to leave. I think he would be within his rights to do so but I would also think they would likely give your money back.
9. The hardest thing to do in these cases is not react. I have found a smile and reassurance can help but if the person is truly mentally ill, all bets go out the window.
Best of luck with this and let us know how it turns out.
EDIT: I might add that I was a teacher/administrator for 36 years, I have seen one or two of these. Yes, parents can be told to not enter the school because of their behavior.
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PeterJ
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A quick update,,, I had told her friend that I was going to call law enforcement the next time she got nasty with me and also told him that I was prepared to defend myself. He knows that I carry and have a great fondness for firearms. I walked within 10 feet of her today and she just looked away. Hopefully this is the end of that. Her friend also told me that she hates guns.
I think a body cam would be a good investment. They are not expensive and if she sees it might just walk away.
Good Luck,
Russ
Good Luck,
Russ
Safety in numbers.
The "don't go alone" advice is good. You mentioned this is where you have a lot of friends - if they've been there a while, they're aware of this person. If she's been hospitalized, there's a small but nominal chance this could go south. Get your friends to go to site management and file complaints. If they've seen the behavior, get corroborating witnesses for local LE (they're probably aware of the person as well.). Make this a win-win: site management gets to evict her, and you & neighbors get a safer community.
Do NOT confront or antagonize her. Crazy caint be fixed without a lot of counseling and care, and even then, it's uncertain. Texas is a one-party consent state, so record away. (See Texas Penal Code ss. 16.02 Texas Recording Law | Digital Media Law Project). You're already in Condition Orange; carry & exercise caution. FWIW.
The "don't go alone" advice is good. You mentioned this is where you have a lot of friends - if they've been there a while, they're aware of this person. If she's been hospitalized, there's a small but nominal chance this could go south. Get your friends to go to site management and file complaints. If they've seen the behavior, get corroborating witnesses for local LE (they're probably aware of the person as well.). Make this a win-win: site management gets to evict her, and you & neighbors get a safer community.
Do NOT confront or antagonize her. Crazy caint be fixed without a lot of counseling and care, and even then, it's uncertain. Texas is a one-party consent state, so record away. (See Texas Penal Code ss. 16.02 Texas Recording Law | Digital Media Law Project). You're already in Condition Orange; carry & exercise caution. FWIW.
carpriver
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You have been given lots of good advise, You have to follow upon on what you were told. For what ever reason she has fixated on you. You need to be aware of that do your best to avoid her and do not respond to any of her rants.
ChuckS1
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Can't fix crazy.
Funflyer
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No you can't, but I know a guy who can make it become a missing person for less than the cost of a new M&P.
Doug M.
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I know of a workplace full of somewhat cynical people who have very poor filters in which there are sarcastic references to things in the nature of "evidence today, pig poop tomorrow". I cannot advocate such actions, but I can sympathize.
1. Buy a pig.
2. Put the pig in a pen near the road.
3. Don't feed it much.
4. When she comes up raising cain about the pig, ask her if she knows how quickly a hungry pig can consume a body.
That should at least get things moving a little quicker, one way or the other ;-). And don't blame me, Doug started this ^^^^^
2. Put the pig in a pen near the road.
3. Don't feed it much.
4. When she comes up raising cain about the pig, ask her if she knows how quickly a hungry pig can consume a body.
That should at least get things moving a little quicker, one way or the other ;-). And don't blame me, Doug started this ^^^^^
Mexican Kerry
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Body cam. If you want evidence of her confrontations, its less obvious than holding your phone in your hand.
I've been dealing with a bad neighbor for going on 4? years now, I feel your pain. Its frustrating, and its hard on the family.
I've been dealing with a bad neighbor for going on 4? years now, I feel your pain. Its frustrating, and its hard on the family.
TripLeader
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I would ask her for a loan.
Nothing drives people away like when you ask them for money.
Nothing drives people away like when you ask them for money.
Actually, I would loan her $20.00. You would never see her again.
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Steer clear of 'em.
Geronimo Jim
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Bet I know which party.
