HUGE argument with wife
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truckemup97
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I guess I'm lucky. My wife wants a 642 for Christmas.
I'm unlucky, my wife thinks we have enough guns. Her reason is that some haven't been shot in 3 years.
I'm not going to argue, some haven't been shot in 6 years. The 1904 Winchester hasn't been shot in 10 years, but I inherited that from my Grandfather. It was the family pig-killing gun on the farm.
I'm not going to argue, some haven't been shot in 6 years. The 1904 Winchester hasn't been shot in 10 years, but I inherited that from my Grandfather. It was the family pig-killing gun on the farm.
Delos
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From what I see the anti-gun people are on the political march.
I passed my dads old shotgun down to oldest son. Dad was born in 1901 Iowa and used that gun before and during the depression to hunt rabbits to feed family. He also fished.
I live in an area where people have buried junk in back acres for generations. I might need to add to my junk area. A back-hoe dug hole below the 4 foot winter frozen soil line. Barrels of oil for metal parts. (and all that nonsense).
Anybody making gun magazines in stainless steel?
But there is no reason. The prisons are all full. The politicians need people on the outside working and paying taxes. If they put over half of the population in jail the anti-gun people will need to be issued guns to keep us in.
I passed my dads old shotgun down to oldest son. Dad was born in 1901 Iowa and used that gun before and during the depression to hunt rabbits to feed family. He also fished.
I live in an area where people have buried junk in back acres for generations. I might need to add to my junk area. A back-hoe dug hole below the 4 foot winter frozen soil line. Barrels of oil for metal parts. (and all that nonsense).
Anybody making gun magazines in stainless steel?
But there is no reason. The prisons are all full. The politicians need people on the outside working and paying taxes. If they put over half of the population in jail the anti-gun people will need to be issued guns to keep us in.
I feel for you DCX. My wife and I have 2 kids in our house and decided that was enough for us. Frineds of ours have been trying to have a kid for so long with no success at all. It got so bad for the 2 of them they ended up divorced over it. For lots of women having a child is the biggest thing in the world. You are going to have to give her a little bit of compassion, but I am sure you know that. Yes you are going to have to give your man card to your buddy for a few days to make this up to her, but it won't scare you forever.
My wife is a bit Bipolar, so I have learned when it is going to be a no win situation with her. If I ask her if something is bothering her and she says no, I let it at that. I know she is lying to me, but if she says nothing is wrong, I go on about my business. It pisses her off when I just go on with what ever I was doing when she knows I know something is bothering her. There are times when instead of sitting in my chair I will sit beside her and give her a big hug. If she starts to cry, then it's time for me to just sit down and listen to her. I don't mean sit there and pretend to listen, actually listen. Other times she usually comes to terms and talks about it. If something is botherning me that she did or knew about, I come right out and tell her, I would prefer she do the same. We usually have pretty good discussions about stuff, but on occassion they can get pretty vocal to say the least. It is usually me that walks away before I say something I shouldn't or that I will regret. We both know when to push, and when to stop. If things are getting a bit vocal between us and I go out into my garage, she leaves me alone. If she stomps up the steps, I just let her go and calm down, then we can go back to business as usual. We have been talking about the school shooting since it happened and about the looming threats from gun grabbers. She agrees with me 100% addressing the problem, not creating a problem with a no good solution.
She likes going shooting with me. I just thank god she doesn't want to go hunting with me. I bought her an M&P 9 for Christmas that she thinks isn't going to be here for a while, if at all now. Good thing I really laid the **** on thick about not being able to get her the gun.
My wife is a bit Bipolar, so I have learned when it is going to be a no win situation with her. If I ask her if something is bothering her and she says no, I let it at that. I know she is lying to me, but if she says nothing is wrong, I go on about my business. It pisses her off when I just go on with what ever I was doing when she knows I know something is bothering her. There are times when instead of sitting in my chair I will sit beside her and give her a big hug. If she starts to cry, then it's time for me to just sit down and listen to her. I don't mean sit there and pretend to listen, actually listen. Other times she usually comes to terms and talks about it. If something is botherning me that she did or knew about, I come right out and tell her, I would prefer she do the same. We usually have pretty good discussions about stuff, but on occassion they can get pretty vocal to say the least. It is usually me that walks away before I say something I shouldn't or that I will regret. We both know when to push, and when to stop. If things are getting a bit vocal between us and I go out into my garage, she leaves me alone. If she stomps up the steps, I just let her go and calm down, then we can go back to business as usual. We have been talking about the school shooting since it happened and about the looming threats from gun grabbers. She agrees with me 100% addressing the problem, not creating a problem with a no good solution.
She likes going shooting with me. I just thank god she doesn't want to go hunting with me. I bought her an M&P 9 for Christmas that she thinks isn't going to be here for a while, if at all now. Good thing I really laid the **** on thick about not being able to get her the gun.
fred5876r
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My wife said "no AR", so I bought a Mini-30 in 7.62x39. Hey, it's a "Ranch Rifle", not a AR!
Pointshoot
Member
I'm no scholar in that area, but I vaguely remember some Old Testament warning about the fall of a nation - - here's one version of it:
"Childish leaders oppress my people, and women rule over them. O my people, your leaders mislead you; they send you down the wrong road." -
Isaiah 3:12
The way the part about women was explained to me years ago, is that it takes, both, the nurturing, caring, emotional nature of women - - and the
less emotional, level headed, and action orientated nature of men to "make the world go round". Its all about balance. If one type of thinking/feeling gets out of hand youre in trouble.
We're being hit with a lot of emotion on this issue, but not a lot of reasoning or good sense. If we take actions based on just emotions, this nation is unbalanced and it'll fall.
(Note:Apologies to any Bible scholars out there.)
"Childish leaders oppress my people, and women rule over them. O my people, your leaders mislead you; they send you down the wrong road." -
Isaiah 3:12
The way the part about women was explained to me years ago, is that it takes, both, the nurturing, caring, emotional nature of women - - and the
less emotional, level headed, and action orientated nature of men to "make the world go round". Its all about balance. If one type of thinking/feeling gets out of hand youre in trouble.
We're being hit with a lot of emotion on this issue, but not a lot of reasoning or good sense. If we take actions based on just emotions, this nation is unbalanced and it'll fall.
(Note:Apologies to any Bible scholars out there.)
Time "heals" all. Let the emotions die down before anymore discussions.
44 special Dave
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To orig poster;
Moosedog has some good brief advice.
Most of the advice you've gotten here was well meaning and well thought out.
What I would ask you to consider: Has she been anti-gun all along and just put up with your hobby?
The problem (s) surrounding the sandy hook shooting are complex.
It is a tragedy! But to do a 180 leads me to believe it's an excuse to bare her real feelings.
Good luck
Dave
Moosedog has some good brief advice.
Most of the advice you've gotten here was well meaning and well thought out.
What I would ask you to consider: Has she been anti-gun all along and just put up with your hobby?
The problem (s) surrounding the sandy hook shooting are complex.
It is a tragedy! But to do a 180 leads me to believe it's an excuse to bare her real feelings.
Good luck
Dave
BigCityChief
Member
The tragic events in Sandy Hook have stunned the conscience of this nation and the media have generally exploited this situation to push an agenda antithetical to the beliefs and opinions of many forum members, including myself. I am disappointed that very few media outlets have decried the lack of adequate mental health support/reporting systems across the country that permit clearly psychotic individuals access to firearms. Everyone will process the tragic events differently and I can only recommend that you accept your wife's position with love and respect without abandoning your position. I have carried guns my entire adult life and my wife has always made it clear she's happy I do. Her response to Sandy Hook included a request to make sure I trained her and my son to be highly proficient in the safe use and care of every firearm I own. Good luck,
