If a complete stranger was asking then, yes, it is rude and none of their business. If a friend asks, there's nothing rude about it in my opinion. Most of my friends know I do carry but not on a regular basis. I occasionally ask them because I like to know what they carry. Same as asking on this forum about what your favorite carry gun is.
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MichiganScott
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I've been with groups of people and locations where you don't have to ask if they are carrying. It's just assumed that almost everyone is.
DoubleAdobe
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old&slow
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I tell folks ,," it's not concealed if everybody know you are carrying" !
The only time I think it's not rude is if I'm with a buddy and I'm someplace that might be questionable ,, and I ask him , or he asks me ,, " you got something with you "?
The only time I think it's not rude is if I'm with a buddy and I'm someplace that might be questionable ,, and I ask him , or he asks me ,, " you got something with you "?
gdnagle
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On the other hand, if my wife and I are going out to dinner and we happen to be walking in a seedy part of town, and she asks, "By the way, are you carrying tonight?" To me, that would be totally okay.
Like you said, it depends.
Being in any part of town could have trouble happen. Personaly I wouldn't purposely go into a seedy part of town, then again I try to avoid town.
Outside of my wife no one even knows I have a license to carry and, none of their business, no one ever see's me holster up. None of anyone's business and if should ask I just ignore them and if persistence comes a embarrassing question back to the with no answer from me.
Even when meet anyone that want to give a hug when meeting I make sure my iron side doesn't come in contact with them. Wife does every now and then brush it but never says anything.
cgt4570
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Here's a question asked of me by a ladyfriend today:
"Is it rude to ask if someone is carrying their gun?"
I said yes, then qualified my answer by adding that it depends on the situation.
She wasn't quite happy with my answer....
My friends and family often ask me what I'm carrying. The fact that I'm carrying is a given. If someone I don't know well were to ever ask me, then I would have to tell a little white lie and say "NO".
rog8732
US Veteran
I was travelling to a lot of various activities with friends, and because of the size vehicle he had, one particular guy almost always drove.
After we were all,(usually 4 or 5) seated and on our way, the driver friend always announced exactly where all the guns in the van were located. (Usually more than one).
It strikes me as good information for your travelling friends to know. .And, if they object to guns,"friends" is likely not the correct personal pronoun to use.
I have always notified my female companions where my traveling gun is,....... I might need them to use it to save my hide.
After we were all,(usually 4 or 5) seated and on our way, the driver friend always announced exactly where all the guns in the van were located. (Usually more than one).
It strikes me as good information for your travelling friends to know. .And, if they object to guns,"friends" is likely not the correct personal pronoun to use.
I have always notified my female companions where my traveling gun is,....... I might need them to use it to save my hide.
Erich
Member
I don't mind it at all if it's in the context of conditions going orange and a partner asks to confirm, "You strapped/walking heavy/packing?," or something along those lines. If it's just some dipstick who knows you're into guns, it's irritating.
Shorty 45 MK2
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Agee that it depends. But with my family it's normally "what are you packing."
Most people I work with know I hunt and shoot IDPA but none know that I carry a handgun.
Most people I work with know I hunt and shoot IDPA but none know that I carry a handgun.
vigil617
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I think an appropriate reply to the inappropriate question would be, "I'll tell you, if you'll answer this one for me: When did you stop beating your wife?" 
hdfinder47
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I don't know if that's rude but it sure as heck can be dangerous - don't ask me how I know.
shouldazagged
Absent Comrade
I think an appropriate reply to the inappropriate question would be, "I'll tell you, if you'll answer this one for me: When did you stop beating your wife?"
Or "So, how many STD's have you had?"
My usual answer to inappropriate questions is usually "Now why would you ask a question like that?" If it's someone who seems decent but clueless I'll deliver it with a slight smile. If it's someone who appears to be of the jerk persuasion, it's accompanied by a look that would deposit frost on a working space heater.
When my wife asks, then I know that she detects something uncomfortable, so it's not rude. When someone else asks, I consider it rude, but usually reply with, "You should consider me armed at all times."
BobC357
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I guess I would say, they should have absolutely no reason to ask the question in the first place. The only reason they would ask is because you've already made it known that you do carry. Nobody asks me because nobody I personally know, outside of immediately family, knows that I even own a gun.
Black_Sheep
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It depends entirely upon who's asking. When the Mrs. asks, it's not rude at all. If a complete stranger asked, either my gun is showing or they are being rude...
Rastoff
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Believe it or not, I was just about to type that, but added "the list goes on" instead. I did that because it seems perfectly OK for women to ask each other that question or at least when they're due. Still, not really a good idea.
Once while in the checkout line, the clerk asked the lady checking out when she was due. Apparently the lady had had the baby a couple days prior. I learned that day that postpartum depression is no joke. That lady had a complete break down right there in the line.
I agree. It may not necessarily be rude, but I choose to live in ignorance rather then see that again.
I've said this before but unless you have a need to know my answer to that question is always a flat no. I am absolutely convinced that if you say anything else they are going to take it as a yes and my telling them it's not an appropriate question is going to change nothing. So I just say "No" and go about my business.
As for my wife, she'd never ask me if I were carrying she knows I am
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