It is really not all this complicated.
No, don't shoot them, yes you can deprime them.
Large rifle are TALLER than large pistol primers.
Put on your safety glasses
Put the cases with the wrong primers in the resizing die and slowly resize them popping out the primer. Put the collection tube or however you press holds the spent primers in a new container.(to keep them out of the dead primer pile)
After you deprime them all. put them back in the box and use them for rifle cartridges.
Many many, live primers have been removed with no problem. Just don't slam the lever on the press, push slow and easy, they are not going to go bang.
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https://ballistictools.com/articles/primer-pocket-depth-and-diameter.php
Minimum and maximum dimensions of primer pockets
Here is a table of the minimum and maximum primer pocket and primer dimensions. Surprisingly this data isn't too easy to find, so I have done the research for you. Dimensions in inches.
Primer pocket dimensions and tolerances Pocket Type Depth Min Depth Max Diameter Min Diameter Max Small Rifle/Pistol 0.1170 0.1230 0.1730 0.1745 Large Rifle 0.1250 0.1320 0.2085 0.2100 Large Pistol 0.1170 0.1230 0.2085 0.2100 Primer dimensions and tolerances Primer Type Height Min Height Max Diameter Min Diameter Max Small Rifle/Pistol 0.1150 0.1250 0.1745 0.1765 Large Rifle 0.1230 0.1330 0.2105 0.2130 Large Pistol 0.1150 0.1250 0.2100 0.2120 It's interesting to note that while small pistol and small rifle primers are exactly the same size, the same is not true of large pistol vs large rifle. I have heard of people substituting small pistol and small rifle primers during desperate times, but one should always be careful of pressure increases and the potential for pierced primers if one resorts to such extreme measures. It's always best to use components as they were intended.
Another notable fact is the overlap in tolerances. The largest primer is taller than the shallowest pocket, and the loosest in-spec pocket is the same size as the smallest in-spec primer. It's for these reasons that we sometimes run into so much frustration with certain brands of brass and primers.