My daughter was assaulted

Sorry to suggest the following, but.

Perhaps it is time for someone to open up a BIG can of *** whoop on the doer. It looks like that will be the only thing he understands.

Again I don't approve of unnecessary violence but drastic events call for drastic responses.

As much as she'd understandably want to do that, that's the last thing she needs to do as she'd surely lose her job and likely have charges filed. Additionally it would add to that student and their families perceived victimization.
 
Good advice. First day of teaching, look the class all over carefully.
Choose the biggest boy in the class. Go to his desk , jerk him out
of his chair and break his arm. Probably won't have any discipline
problems.
 
This is not all that new

Assault perhaps. But disruptive misbehavior in U.S. schools is not. I graduated from a decent high school in 1965 and I did not always conduct myself as respectfully as I should have. Bit of a smart aleck I must admit.

If the teacher was firm and fair, we behaved. If easily pushed around, we talked back and told jokes and acted up. Assault never entered our minds.

After the service and college I looked into teaching high school. After sitting in one day in a high school history class I gave up that idea. This was 1975, I believe. The kids' behavior was just intolerable and I pitied the teacher, who was obviously embarrassed that he could not control his students.

After I retired from the newspaper business I volunteered to tutor at the elementary school I attended in the 1950s.

Things had changed, the neighborhood was now poor and most of the students were from single parent families. I had a wee bit of trouble but quiet firmness usually got me through. Of course we are talking about children ages 7-10 years old.

I did that from 2014 until Covid. I enjoyed it and feel I may have done a little good during my time. I'm thinking of going back in as a tutor if they will have me.

However I consciously avoided any thought of working middle school or high school.

It's a pity school discipline and administration are so weak these days. After the home, school is usually the most formative part of a young person's life. If the home is lacking and the school is chaotic, what chance does a youngster have of turning out okay?

So sad, both for the teachers and the students.
 
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[FONT=Helvetica, sans-serif]She said that he's been disruptive, disrespectful and at times threatening.

One and two are more common than we might think. Now threats against another person... I think she need to set him straight! Right when it happens. She should also file a police report. Because should he then follow her, stalk her, threaten her, etc. then she needs to handle her business. And then at least she's been reporting him to the police.
 
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Unfortunately this is not so uncommon anymore.
My neighbors across the road are both teachers. The wife teaches middle school in our little town.
There is a young man in our neighborhood who is a thug. Yep at 10 years old a thug. He had struck several teachers and nothing was done by the school. When he stabbed the school resource officer in the arm, I believe hell came to breakfast.
That was two years ago and now he is a much changed young man. Today I saw him out shoveling my elderly neighbor's drive and walks before I could get to them.
Somebody got through to the kid and I bet it was not his parents.
 
Get the appropriate authorites involved, or at least on notice. A Grand Jury raked the Loudon ,Virginia School District over the coals for covering sexual assaults, the assailant has been convicted-as a juvenile, the school superintendent "fired".
 
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Actually, the violent part was always there. Violence was kept in check by the fact one would respond in kind until the assault was stopped.
Nowadays, only the "authorities" have the authority to respond to violence.
Violence will continue until the cost of violence outweighs the benefit.
YMMV
 
If that happened in my family he might well find himself alone someday and have a group of "witnesses " appear and start "talking" to him.

My other thought is file suit against the parents as they are responsible for the little ***

As far as the authorities go remember that the squeaky wheel get the grease. The local news, school board meetings, city council meetings all good places for friends and family to squeak,
 
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Look up "Hostile Work Environment". It's a legal term for having to work in a situation that scares you. Looks like she's in one if that kid is back in the same building. There are legal remedies that she's entitled to use.
The principals are paid the big bucks to handle stuff like this, and if they don't then she needs a lawyer to educate them.
Best wishes for a successful outcome.
 
Middle School

A friend used to own a restaurant and had to deal with young people like this on a daily basis. He once remarked that "You wonder how these kids got to be such losers and then you meet the parents (or, more likely, the parent) and then marvel that they aren't worse.
 
I feel bad for you. I know how angry I would be if it was one of my daughters.

However, the rest of this might be hard to read, so you might want to stop here.

Nothing will happen to the little suspect. Nothing. Prepare yourself for that. I know it is hard to swallow, but you have to face reality.

Prepare for them to vilify your daughter. How dare she be so "you know what" against that young man?

I feel bad for folks like your daughter. They honestly want to help, but don't understand that the "protected class" are untouchable.

I'm so sorry she has gone through this.
 
My daughter is a teacher here in NY's capital district. She is very passionate about teaching and she has a very good head on her shoulders. Lately I've noticed quite a change in her demeanor when I ask how things are going at her school. All though she won't discuss it, I suspect something similar may have happened to her. I wish that she would confide in me. I would go to the ends of the earth to help her in any way that she needs me to.
 
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