What do you do about a crazy person ?

[PeterJ]

We are at our winter home/campground in Texas and have incurred the wrath of one of the locals. It seems to stem from our friendship with a male friend of hers. Any time she gets near us she verbally attacks us with profanities or insults whether anyone else is around or not. My wife and I are both getting worried about where this may go. So what, call the police, tell management ? Don’t really want to leave as we are paid for the winter with no refunds, but our well being certainly takes priority. Oh,, she was hospitalized last year for mental issues.

 

[NYlakesider]

We are at our winter home/campground in Texas and have incurred the wrath of one of the locals. It seems to stem from our friendship with a male friend of hers. Any time she gets near us she verbally attacks us with profanities or insults whether anyone else is around or not. My wife and I are both getting worried about where this may go. So what, call the police, tell management ? Don’t really want to leave as we are paid for the winter with no refunds, but our well being certainly takes priority. Oh,, she was hospitalized last year for mental issues.

I know in many cases there not worth the paper their written on, but do you have enough grounds to get a Restraining Order. (or what they call them in that state!)

 

[ACORN]

I'd be calling the law. Hopefully having others willing to attest to her disturbing the peace or disorderly conduct or whatever charges can be brought. That way you have witnesses as to who started it and avoid a he said she said.
Years ago I was physically assaulted and didn't press charges. I've wished ever since that I had.
You shouldn't have to live in fear of a nut job.

 

[olcop]

Call the Police and video and record her during the next one of her rampages--no one should have to fear anyone and the more information you have, the better the case in the event it escalates.

 

[amazingflapjack]

I would exercise every option available to report this activity, and make sure to get case numbers, and the names of the person taking your complaint. Stay at it and document all incidents. Stay on the management to remove this person-responsibility should be theirs first.

 

[kmyers]

Excellent advice. I would be reporting also both to management and law enforcement. Get a paper trail on her behavior and also if others have had issues with her. Her having been hospitalized is a bad sign but it shows her history. Another thing I would personally do is invest in some cameras(with sound preferred) since they have gotten small and really pretty inexpensive with most storing the video/audio that can be downloaded and saved and that you can install around your place and past that avoid her like the plague so that any action that may turn out bad is on her.

 

[old bear]

Create a paper trail, and do your best to stay away from her. If she confronts WALK AWAY, ASAP. Contact local L/E.
Best of luck and be safe.

 

[Doug M.]

Notify management and request that they take action. Notify LE, and make a report of every incident, every time, and with alacrity. If you can get a restraining order of some type in that state based on the conduct, do so. None of these steps alone will protect you, but they are least make a record of her unacceptable conduct so that if things get to the point of having to threaten or use force, there is a good record.

Every time she gets near you, tell her to go away. Do so clearly and emphatically. If your lease or whatever paperwork gives you the right to exclude others from your rented space, make it clear to her that she is trespassing and make a report of each incident to both the management and LE.

You have no obligation to be "nice" to anyone like this. It will backfire. No one has a right to not be offended, so don't *****foot around. Hammer her with every legal option you have to impose control at the lowest possible level.

 

[ColbyBruce]

Everything everyone else said and buy a few cans of bear spray.

 

[glenwolde]

If she threatens you, that's actionable.

 

[PeterJ]

Thanks for all the help. Will talk to management tomorrow and have started keeping a paper log.

 

[snowman]

Sir,

All great advice from the above members. Only one thing I've not seen mentioned -probably because it probably wouldn't help. Has the common friend you've mentioned observed her behavior with you? Does he know about it? Have you spoken with him about it? Would he have any leverage with her?

Just a thought.

Best wishes,
Andy

 

[tlawler]

Have you tried the olive branch approach? Maybe a Walmart gift card?

 

[PeterJ]

Sir,

All great advice from the above members. Only one thing I've not seen mentioned -probably because it probably wouldn't help. Has the common friend you've mentioned observed her behavior with you? Does he know about it? Have you spoken with him about it? Would he have any leverage with her?

Just a thought.

Best wishes,
Andy

He was the first person that I talked to. I think he is afraid of her also. Said that calling the police might be the best option.

 

[LVSteve]

Video, video, video and more video. The crazies will deny, deny, deny when confronted by LE. Video is only way.

 

[Doug627]

Ask for a psych evaluation.

 

[boatbum101]

Agree with everyone else............if this really goes south the more witnesses , documentation etc will work in your favor . Shame that until something happens LE can't do a whole lot . Y'all keep the crazy in front of you where you can watch every move . Texans I've known are pragmatic in that they know that some folks aren't capable of polite behavior . Used to be pests were encouraged to find new stomping grounds .

 

[oddshooter]

My take on this crazy is unlike the others.
My field of study is crazy.

I have found that it is best to stay out of the sights of crazies. When you report her, you are going to piss her off. You could become what she thinks is the focus of her problems. Crazies don't think like the rest of us.

She sounds like she's already pissed off and bringing in the authorities can push some folks over the edge. Unless you think they are going to arrest and keep her locked up, I don't know what you hope to accomplish. There's a risk in establishing a paper trail that she knows about.

Restraining orders are a good example of legal instruments that are impossible to enforce without LE living with you. Your collecting of evidence is only for when things go over the hill and by then; it's too late to stop it, only to provide paper work for your attorney.

Between a rock and hard place is a great descriptor for your problem. Maybe damned if you do, damned if you don't.

My advice is to walk away; no discussions, no retorts, no explanations.

Your only hope seems to be that you are not important enough for her to worry about. Try to stay that way.


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[Rule3]

Maybe she owns firearms??----------->>>>> RED FLAG LAWS
Baker Act.
Yup videos and paper trail

Never respond to her, walk away,

 

[andy52]

Videos are the way to go in todays environment, they carry a lot of weight in proving a case against this person. I wouldn't go public with the videos, just present them to the authorities, at that time if they haven't dealt with the problem post the videos on whatever social media you have.