How old is too old to live at home?

[williamlayton]

I know that I am going back a few generations----before you even comment that times have changed.
My generation--being from a small town---either went to college, the Army, or too a city where there were some jobs.
Some of the boys hung around awhile and lived at home while trying to get their feet on the ground. That in response to those who kick-em out the door on graduation night.
One of my friends---and he was not gay---lived at home til he was in his mid-40's---not married and not a blood sucker--when he finally married.
He was a good guy and happy----just the way he was.
I still say/ask why it bother any if a man does it the way he wants.
Just worrying about another problem takes your mind off yours ?
Blessings

 

[williamlayton]

NOW---both of my children lived at home for two years after graduation and going to a local community college. They both worked part time and we paid for their books and tuition and didn't charge them rent.
They have turned out real good.
Blessings

 

[williamlayton]

IMO---every generation is just a step that helps the next generation--their children---to do better and achieve more than you did.
That is a responsibility !
Blessings

 

[ClayCow]

You're right on with most of this. The only thing I'd add is that college is viewed as a necessity because they don't teach kids much in the public schools any more. Instead of fostering competition and excellence they dumb everything down to the lowest common denominator - the kids who can't or won't learn - that way everyone passes and no one gets left behind.

So they graduate high school barely knowing how to read or write or do simple math. Therefore they HAVE to go to college to finish getting the minimum level of education that they need to be employable. In my experience, most young 20-somethings with a liberal arts degree today know very little more than I did when I graduated high school at the start of the 80's. And their reasoning skills aren't as good as what I had fresh out of high school either.

You're right about the most marketable skills being in math, engineering, and the sciences though. There is a real shortage of talent in these sectors. Like Barbie said "math class is hard" and a lot of young folks today don't seem to have what it takes to do things that are hard.

You can see it in the forums. Most of the well spoken people on here are the older generation. I can see it in spelling and grammar, but also the thoughts/research associated with it.

Its fairly easy to spot people in my generation though sometimes it is just an old timer who never mastered the basics.

 

[ClayCow]

IMO---every generation is just a step that helps the next generation--their children---to do better and achieve more than you did.
That is a responsibility !
Blessings

Culture thing. Asian culture its ok to live at home until you get married. Why put the financial strain on the kids? Use the money for rent and utilities toward buying a car or accruing savings to get a head start in life. I dont understand and disagree with kicking kids out immediately. Some are not mature at the age of 18, thats a failure on the parent, and the way to fix that is to kick em out and have them take on the burden of bills? No wonder we have so many fighting for an increase in minimum wage. It has to be a living wage for those who havent matured but are forced out of their homes.

 

[Taurus627]

Funny how many of you assume that just because someone over 18 is living at home, it's for free and that, in my case, is a load of garbage. After my father passed away there was no way mom could handle all the household bills on just her income so, (he didn't have sufficient life insurance) even though I was 19 and still living there, I gave her a large portion of my income to cover all the bills. Lived there that way till I was well into my 30's and am not ashamed of it. My brother, who just turned 51, still lives there and it's NOT RENT FREE.

It irritates me to no end how many shallow minded people insist that living with mom is living free and can't grasp the fact that one can live at home and help with the financial obligations!

 

[Old Corp]

A co-worker I became close to at the PD was the youngest of 4 boys growing up in South Philadelphia. Their father a Philly beat officer.
He told me that after the HS graduation dinner for each of the boys, their 'special present' was given to the graduate.

The 'special present'? A toothbrush.
'Cause it's nice to have a new toothbrush when you're headed off to some sort of new life. Somewhere.

 

[BC38]

Funny how many of you assume that just because someone over 18 is living at home, it's for free and that, in my case, is a load of garbage. After my father passed away there was no way mom could handle all the household bills on just her income so, (he didn't have sufficient life insurance) even though I was 19 and still living there, I gave her a large portion of my income to cover all the bills. Lived there that way till I was well into my 30's and am not ashamed of it. My brother, who just turned 51, still lives there and it's NOT RENT FREE.

It irritates me to no end how many shallow minded people insist that living with mom is living free and can't grasp the fact that one can live at home and help with the financial obligations!

Yup. My uncle lived with my grandparents and helped them keep their household going until Grandpa died. Then he got his own place and Grandma lived with him. He didn't get married until he was in his late fifties, just a couple of years before Grandma died.

I asked him about it once. He said that although he had considered getting married a couple of times to different gals he had dated, someone had to take care of Grandma and Grandpa. Since all his brothers and sisters had all married young and had their own families to take care of, he decided that the responsibility fell to him. Seeing to it that his parents were taken care of was a higher priority for him than even having his own family.

I always admired him for that.

 

[RSanch111]

Funny how many of you assume that just because someone over 18 is living at home, it's for free and that, in my case, is a load of garbage. After my father passed away there was no way mom could handle all the household bills on just her income so, (he didn't have sufficient life insurance) even though I was 19 and still living there, I gave her a large portion of my income to cover all the bills. Lived there that way till I was well into my 30's and am not ashamed of it. My brother, who just turned 51, still lives there and it's NOT RENT FREE.

It irritates me to no end how many shallow minded people insist that living with mom is living free and can't grasp the fact that one can live at home and help with the financial obligations!

It was pretty clear that the tone of the initial post was not addressing children who chose to stay home to help with bills as a major or even contributory breadwinner.

 

[BC38]

It was pretty clear that the tone of the initial post was not addressing children who chose to stay home to help with bills as a major or even contributory breadwinner.

True, but you have to admit that the same can't be said of EVERY post in this thread.

 

[Skeet 028]

I livedat home until I was 24 at least part time.. when I was in the US. But I was expected to help and did. we lived in a big ol barn of a house built in the 20s(1820s) and my mom wanted to live in a nice little house so I told my father to buy some property and I had a house built on it. Never regretted doing that even though it used most all my socked away money. mother fretted over that...but heck I was young and could always find more money. I put the money away when I had a pool room in that big ol place...I also bought Winchester and kept a fairly large collection. Sold most of them and bought another house when I got married to the one I'm married to today. Houses cost a lot less than they do today. I grew up thinking you always help your family... and not mooch off of them.

 

[dswancutt]

It was pretty clear that the tone of the initial post was not addressing children who chose to stay home to help with bills as a major or even contributory breadwinner.

Unless it is directly affecting the OP, I would say that it is really of no concern to him or anyone else. Even if it was family, unless they live in his house, not his problem.

 

[Kevin J.]

It's simple IMO. At 18 you have three choices, get a job, go to college (and study a real employable major), or join the military.

 

[rustythread]

One of the great dis-services to our children in recent decades has been elimination of the draft. IMO, every 18-year old should spend a couple of years in a structured environment growing up a bit and learning responsibility. Then take the GI bill and head for school if so inclined.

 

[RJJ 1971]

Unless it is directly affecting the OP, I would say that it is really of no concern to him or anyone else. Even if it was family, unless they live in his house, not his problem.

It's a thread on the internet and I wanted opinions.
You must have 2 roommates still (called mom and dad).

 

[ClayCow]

One of the great dis-services to our children in recent decades has been elimination of the draft. IMO, every 18-year old should spend a couple of years in a structured environment growing up a bit and learning responsibility. Then take the GI bill and head for school if so inclined.

The GI Bill wouldnt exist if there were a draft continuous in nature. Its an incentive to get people in the military and join up. If people are going to get forced in, there doesnt need to be an incentive. There are enogh people in the service who dont want to be in, id rather not have forced people.

Instead id say it would be good people went off to college, military or did something like peacecorps or something which brings people of different cultures and backgrounds together. Gen Mccrystal had a talk about it and I absolutely agree.

I also assume by draft you mean mandatory military service.

 

[Bkreutz]

I hope I can live at home until they carry me out in a box. (wife hasn't kicked me out yet)

 

[dswancutt]

It's a thread on the internet and I wanted opinions.
You must have 2 roommates still (called mom and dad).

Well, I live with my 80 year old mother and my 77 year old uncle who had a stroke last Dec. I moved back home in 2006 when she was diagnosed with breast cancer and taking care of my dad who had had a stroke a couple of years earlier on top of the sclerodermia he had before the stroke before passing away in 2010 for complications from both. I do all the mowing, driving, etc. I guess to be a "REAL MAN" like you, I will just leave so she can fend for herself.

 

[ClayCow]

Well, I live with my 80 year old mother and my 77 year old uncle who had a stroke last Dec. I moved back home in 2006 when she was diagnosed with breast cancer and taking care of my dad who had had a stroke a couple of years earlier on top of the sclerodermia he had before the stroke before passing away in 2010 for complications from both. I do all the mowing, driving, etc. I guess to be a "REAL MAN" like you, I will just leave so she can fend for herself.

So he wrote that in jest

 

[RJJ 1971]

Taking in and helping your children in tough times (divorce, catastrophe, or abusive relationship) is certainly one thing. Them never leaving and having kids and staying there forever is def another situation.

Guess you didn't read this post earlier.
I'd say helping a sick loved one would fall under catastrophe.