How old is too old to live at home?

[RJJ 1971]

Sure this will raise some interest.
But how old is too old for (adult) child to be living at home.
They are employed, over 18, not going to college, don't pay rent, aren't special needs, doesn't lift a finger to help around the house, and you really need the space for other kids in the dwelling.
So let's hear it moms and dads.

 

[shaggist]

Eighteen-OUT THE DOOR.

 

[Road Rat]

I can't tell what portion of the country you are in, but:

It he/she/it is gainfully employed they should move out and get their own place.

IF in the San Francisco are of Kalifornia that may not be financially possible..............

Otherwise - - - stop sponging off the parents and GET OUT....

Make space for the siblings still at home..............JMHO

 

[RJJ 1971]

I can't tell what portion of the country you are in, but:

It he/she/it is gainfully employed they should move out and get their own place.

IF in the San Francisco are of Kalifornia that may not be financially possible..............

Otherwise - - - stop sponging off the parents and GET OUT....

Make space for the siblings still at home..............JMHO

SW Indiana. Cost of living is very reasonable.

 

[Engine 21]

Normally, barring being in college, special needs etc - 18 is the magic number to vamoose. I left home at 18, compliments of Uncle Sam who requested my presence.

 

[finesse_r]

In today's world, often it is by the time their grand kids enter college.

I was gone at age 19 and my brother by about age 21. I know the youngest of 4 in our family lived with our folks until she was 35 and did not leave until she got married.

The second oldest moved back home with our folks after her divorce with her two obnoxious children and stayed their for 9 years, until the kids were out of high school. I know she made my parents life miserable, until they stopped asking her, and finally told her she had to leave and to take her kids with her. She did and the boy lived with her until he was about 40 and did not leave until she died. He spent his days playing games on line and getting high and as far as I know has never had a job.

I see the trend of adult children living at home becoming more and more standard procedure. If the parents spoil them rotten and never teach them to be responsible for their actions, they often never learn to support themselves. They always see that as someone else's responsibility.

 

[Bugkiller99]

No one size fits all answer. Kids, and parents, are all different.
I will venture this, it is most likely sooner than you want to believe.

 

[Jinglebob]

Mine grew up working along side me on the farm. They went to college and now have respectable careers. I would welcome any one to move back home; I could use the help and it would be nice to pass the ranch down to one of the kids who would keep it operational after my wife and I are no longer able.

 

[Road Rat]

SW Indiana. Cost of living is very reasonable.

ADIOS YOU ALL........................BYE

 

[Pef]

One of the biggest life lessons is learning that power, gas, water and garbage service cost money every month.

I think it's good for young people just starting out to have to watch their dollars. Pays dividends when in their 40's and 50's.

 

[vytoland]

I was out at 18 and never looked back.....

 

[Bill_inBouse]

tell them you are going to sell the house and move. But 18 is the magic number IMHO

 

[BC38]

18 + out of high school + not in college + employed = OUT OF MY HOUSE.

If NOT employed then WTH not? You have 1 month to GET employed or you're OUT.

And even if you find employment you only get 2 months and you're out.

Better get your act together in a hurry...

 

[David LaPell]

I remember when I moved back in with my parents when I was about 2002, it was a mutual thing. They needed the money and I had sold my place and was in between things. But I was working, did my own thing etc. I have a nephew who is 24, lives with his Mom, doesn't work, has no intention of working and can't seem to mow the lawn or clean his room without a fight. I talked to him recently and he has no checking account, nothing. He gets assistance, cashes his check and goes out on the town with his girlfriend. Either his Mom or GF take him everywhere and darn near do everything for him.
To me, if the kid is 18 and is home doing nothing, he or she is out. My wife and I talked about our son when he reaches that age what would we do. To me if he's in college or working until he gets a place we would help him out but he would be chipping in for room and board and food. If not, the door is open but only on one end.

 

[RJJ 1971]

tell them you are going to sell the house and move. But 18 is the magic number IMHO

I was almost 20 (going to local junior college, employed, still had to help around the house, and paid rent to my parents). Dad came home and said. I found a new job, so your mom and I are moving in 2 months. You can go with us or stay here and I'll help with your college (everything else is on your own). I stayed, eventually dropped out of college, and never looked back.
Honestly probably the best thing that ever happened to me to be on my own.

 

[BAM-BAM]

Eighteen-OUT THE DOOR.

My High School senior is going to be really surprised in the morning!!!!

 

[jag312]

I'm finally retiring at the end of October and moving to Nevada. My son, who has his own place, has told me that if he can find a comparable job in Nevada, he wants to move with me. He also wants a horse. I have no problems with him moving back in with me and having a horse. What I expect is that he will contribute to the household expenses, contribute to the property taxes, buy the feed for his horse, and learn how to use a shovel. I may have to shovel manure for my horse, but I am not shoveling manure for his horse. If everything goes as planned, then I can see us having a lot of fun together.

My son has also said that he wants to plant a vegetable garden and raise chickens. It all sounds good to me. I will be happy that he comes to Nevada with me.

 

[Donn]

No pat answer here. It's all up to mom & dad. Shows the difference between generations. I didn't have to be asked or told to move out. When I got out of the Army, it was a given. I got my own place. Had nothing to do with the folks. They told me I could stay as long as I wanted. But I knew at some point, "My house, my rules" would rear it's ugly head.

 

[HOUSTON RICK]

It all depends. A lot of kids have special needs and are not ready. Some are just immature. I left at 18 for college, but then I paid my own college tuition and have always had a job since I was 12. Times change. I suggest that to the wife for our kids (11&13) and I am on the couch for two days. they have never walked alone or rode their bikes to school. Not once. As for a jobs for our kids, not even on the radar. They need to concentrate on school.

 

[ChattanoogaPhil]

Buddy of mine had one come back home at 40. It was his wife's boy from a previous marriage. Three years...

It was funny. Every few years you have to go though orientation again at the Club. So the director mentions family membership and says it includes children at any age if they live at home. Buddy asks-- Even up to 40? The guy sitting next to me just about fell out of his chair. Ya had to be there.