My quandary

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As executor of my mother's estate it fell on me to inventory her assets and divide them as stipulated in the will. Inside a wooden box that held personal belongings, I discovered a sealed envelope that contained a letter. On the outside it was addressed in my mother's handwriting: "To God".

My mother was a religious person so the letter may have contained a prayer, a confession, a petition, or something else. Whatever was inside, I assume, was very personal. Could the letter reveal a side of my mother that would endear her to me even more or did it contain some long held secret I wouldn't want, or need, to know?

The envelope has stayed tucked away in my desk for the past three months. Should I open it or should I not. I've been curious as to what might be inside and on several occasions contemplated opening it, but it wasn't addressed to me, I'm not God.

Today, while burning brush in the pasture, I took the letter from my desk, thought one last time about opening it, then placed it into the fire. As it burned, the ashes lifted silently heavenward into the morning sky and disappeared out of sight.

My duty as executor of the estate is finished. The final task was to deliver a letter to whom it was addressed. The content of that letter is now, and will forever be, between my mother and God.

My quandary is over.
 
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As executor of my mother's estate it fell on me to inventory her assets and divide them as stipulated in the will. Inside a wooden box that held personal belongings, I discovered a sealed envelope that contained a letter. On the outside it was addressed in my mother's handwriting: "To God".



My mother was a religious person so the letter may have contained a prayer, a confession, a petition, or something else. Whatever was inside, I assume, was very personal. Could the letter reveal a side of my mother that would endear her to me even more or did it contain some long held secret I wouldn't want, or need, to know?



The envelope has stayed tucked away in my desk for the past three months. Should I open it or should I not. I've been curious as to what might be inside and on several occasions contemplated opening it, but it wasn't addressed to me, I'm not God.



Today, while burning brush in the pasture, I took the letter from my desk, thought one last time about opening it, then placed it into the fire. As it burned, the ashes lifted silently heavenward into the morning sky and disappeared out of sight.



My duty as executor of the estate is finished. The final task was to deliver a letter to whom it was addressed. The content of that letter is now, and will forever be, between my mother and God.



My quandary is over.



Well done. I would have done the same.


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Fascinating story, as are most of the ones you tell.

I'd have to know more about your mother to fully decide, but I would guess you did the right thing. What I mean is, if that was my Grandfather's letter, I would run the risk of opening a letter that said "So, you think you're God now, huh???"

God knew the contents long ago, though...
 
NO WRONG WAY TO HANDLE IT.

Kudos on your ability to fight temptation. I gotta think WHY WRITE IT DOWN if you want it kept a secret? MAYBE you could have let her Priest read it, then decide if you should see it??? You certainly came up with a respectful/permanent way to handle it. May peace be with you both.
 
The personal feelings and events we share on this Forum are amazing, touching, and what make this a great place to come and read.

Thank you for sharing this very personal moment about you and your mother.
 
I believe you did the right thing but, as some have mentioned, perhaps your mother had a sense of humor and was going to get you with one last joke.

Before my mother passed away, I would get updates about twice a year on how she wanted her personal effects divided. After she passed, I found a letter marked "Open upon my death". I waited several weeks until opening it, expecting it to include some words of wisdom, final wishes, or something from the heart. When I finally opened it, it was just another list of how she wanted her personal effects divided!
 
You didn't do it wrong that is for sure. I think i would have given it to our/her pastor to read. If it had anything for the family the info could have been shared. Otherwise it would have been within the religious structure she believed in. But again that is how my thoughts would go knowing our Pastor and the Pastor of my parents. Good job caring for your mothers wishes and not just feeding your own curiosity. God Bless.
 
QUANDRY indeed!First of all it is against mans law to open someone else s mail. I have no idea what the law would be on opening a letter to God.

I agree with your assesment that the results could be good news or bad with no hint as to which. I kind of think that if she put it in the box she expected you to open it. Why would she put something in there that would hurt you knowing you might open it. My mother would know that I would darn well open it and not put anything in their that she wouldn't have told me while she was alive. The more I think about it the more sure I am that I would have opened it.

I guess the choice was; Don't open it and always have to wonder or open it and risk bad news. Either way I hope your decision doesn't someday come back to haunt you. It would me. At least if it was something bad I could deal with it and move on. But not knowing....ever....I'd go crazy.
 

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