Oh I'm still chapped about the total lack of respect. It's a wound that won't soon heal and it ended the relationship abruptly. I just won't let it make me bitter or maybe I'm a little numb but I just don't feel like being mean about it. She's not a bad person. She just messed up and she's paying the price. I don't see any harm in fixing her car and teaching her how to shoot safely since she chooses to have a firearm anyways. She knows what she lost and she knows she can't do anything about it so all is well.
Shooting with the ex
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Oh I'm still chapped about the total lack of respect. It's a wound that won't soon heal and it ended the relationship abruptly. I just won't let it make me bitter or maybe I'm a little numb but I just don't feel like being mean about it. She's not a bad person. She just messed up and she's paying the price. I don't see any harm in fixing her car and teaching her how to shoot safely since she chooses to have a firearm anyways. She knows what she lost and she knows she can't do anything about it so all is well.
sipowicz
Member
Oops...opened this by mistake...thought it said shooting at your ex...
Your a better man than me buddy.
DeathGrip
US Veteran
Your something else Strato.I mean that in a good way.Don't let this get to you later.Resentment can be held back for so long if you get my meaning.Your time with her is over and probably better spent some where else than fixing HER car or taking HER shooting.What's she gonna do for you?Bleed you more?Sorry,I don't want to get personal and hope you have some good people there for you that can offer better advice than me.
Just my thoughts,DG
Just my thoughts,DG
sheriffoconee
Member
Life is too short to hold on to anger. Anger/hatred/resentment take energy. It ain't worth it.
The OP handles it his way. He is good to go. More folks outta take his example and I would have less work to do.
The OP handles it his way. He is good to go. More folks outta take his example and I would have less work to do.
DeathGrip
US Veteran
I couldn't agree more.I just hope "He's good to go." and it don't get to him later.Some can and some can't.I only know what I'd do and offer my advice as such.
Strato You have my respect.
Hey DG she gets very little of my time and only at my convenience. I'm not holding on to resentment. I've learned to let it go and move on. As far as still caring about her as a person and wanting her to be safe, I guess that's just my nature. I'm actually enjoying being single again.
That's exactly how I feel
DeathGrip
US Veteran
'Nuff said.
Evil One
Member
I have 2 ex wives.
The first I am still good friends with, have 2 kids with her.
If she were a gun person, I was nearby, and she asked... I would take her shooting.
I worked on the road and was hardly ever home... she needed something else. I cant begrudge her that.
MUCH better for her to leave than just run around behind my back, in my opinion.
Wife #2 couldnt handle my depression when my father died.
We dont speak, her choice... not mine. I dont hold any ill will toward her.
I may die tomorrow, I am not about to waste my time and energy holding something against someone I dont have to.
Jim
The first I am still good friends with, have 2 kids with her.
If she were a gun person, I was nearby, and she asked... I would take her shooting.
I worked on the road and was hardly ever home... she needed something else. I cant begrudge her that.
MUCH better for her to leave than just run around behind my back, in my opinion.
Wife #2 couldnt handle my depression when my father died.
We dont speak, her choice... not mine. I dont hold any ill will toward her.
I may die tomorrow, I am not about to waste my time and energy holding something against someone I dont have to.
Jim
I agree completely. But it's easier said than done.
When two people swear an oath in front of God and witnesses, it should not be violated.
To do so for any reason is unforgivable IMHO.
Evil One
Member
I take oaths seriously, however people can and do change.
If the love and caring escapes from a relationship, and people stay together because they said they would... its VERY easy for that relationship to get bad nasty.
Seen it too many times.
My wife and I made an oath to each other.
We have never met anyone we have felt as strongly about.
If one day she doesnt look at me in that way, I dont want her feeling she is bound to me and to resent me.
Jim
If the love and caring escapes from a relationship, and people stay together because they said they would... its VERY easy for that relationship to get bad nasty.
Seen it too many times.
My wife and I made an oath to each other.
We have never met anyone we have felt as strongly about.
If one day she doesnt look at me in that way, I dont want her feeling she is bound to me and to resent me.
Jim
Strato, it sounds like you know how to get through life. Hate and anger hurt those who carry it, the most.
Holdin' your head high.........Like a man.
Strato, eventually someone will come into your life that will make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else. Sounds like you got a pretty good grip on the situation. Just beware of the potential pity-party. As for fixing her car and some shooting, I think it helps you prove to yourself that you are a person that isn't holding a grudge and it also eases her mind a little as you can spend time with her in-spite of her behavior or choices. You both feel a little better about the situation. Sounds like you had very deep feelings for each other, but she botched it for a reason that may or may not ever be known. Keep your head up and you will be rewarded when you least expect it. The best of luck to you(and her) in the future. Until then, spend some quality time at your favorite gun store and help the economy with a few purchases every now and then. As for me, I had to pass on a bird hunt with a friend due to obligations. So, I'm going to the range with a few other friends after the chores(obligations) are done. Sprefix
Strato, eventually someone will come into your life that will make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else. Sounds like you got a pretty good grip on the situation. Just beware of the potential pity-party. As for fixing her car and some shooting, I think it helps you prove to yourself that you are a person that isn't holding a grudge and it also eases her mind a little as you can spend time with her in-spite of her behavior or choices. You both feel a little better about the situation. Sounds like you had very deep feelings for each other, but she botched it for a reason that may or may not ever be known. Keep your head up and you will be rewarded when you least expect it. The best of luck to you(and her) in the future. Until then, spend some quality time at your favorite gun store and help the economy with a few purchases every now and then. As for me, I had to pass on a bird hunt with a friend due to obligations. So, I'm going to the range with a few other friends after the chores(obligations) are done. Sprefix
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feralmerril
Absent Comrade
I wouldnt have met my wife had not my ex pulled pretty much the same deal as yours did!
I don't have the energy to be angry. I can't say it doesn't hurt but I choose to be ok with it. My life and my feelings changed but I'm still me. We still have good conversations and I haven't seen her baby and I'm sure that helps. She knows she'll never hear the words she would like me to say and as long as she's ok with that I can be kinda friends with her. We were friends for several years before we got together in the first place. I don't have to forgive her and I won't but I don't have to be a jerk to her either. She's the one that has to live with what she did. Being a bachelor is kinda fun and maybe someday someone else will touch my heart and hopefully it'll turn out better next time. I really only started this thread to give my ex credit for doing well at the range and being a good student but I have to admit it feels good to get some of this off my chest too. Thanks guys.
Yes, people change. Times change. Things change. Everything can and will change.
But it's still no excuse to sneak around.
Strato, hang in there my man. The right one will show up when you least expect it.
It's all good
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