Shooting with the ex

[GatorFarmer]

Eh. I'm still married to the only wife that I've ever had and never had that much animosity towards any ex g/f that I'd have thought about harming them. From some of the "jokes" I gather that a few people might want to consider seeing a therapist.

Anyway, it's up to you, but if you get along with her in general, that she in effect is a single mother ought not be a barrier. End relationship advice section.

To learn firearms, people really ought seek out professional training. Unless that is your line of work, however skilled you are, it doesn't necessarily make you skilled at imparting a skill set in a solid manner. No slight on you, it's just that many people try to teach others to shoot, but it is not a real substitute for professional training, the more so if one is seeking to learn to use firearms for personal defense.

 

[DGNY]

Ex, etc.

Strato - many of us admire your positive, forbearing attitude and actions. Way to go. Such an example is rare in my experience.

Regards,

Dyson

 

[84CJ]

Got to follow your heart and never say never. Been living with my EX for 11 years.(that could mean she is not my ex anymore) Never been happier.
People make mistakes and smart people learn from those mistakes.

 

[84CJ]

Eh. I'm still married to the only wife that I've ever had and never had that much animosity towards any ex g/f that I'd have thought about harming them. From some of the "jokes" I gather that a few people might want to consider seeing a therapist.

Anyway, it's up to you, but if you get along with her in general, that she in effect is a single mother ought not be a barrier. End relationship advice section.

To learn firearms, people really ought seek out professional training. Unless that is your line of work, however skilled you are, it doesn't necessarily make you skilled at imparting a skill set in a solid manner. No slight on you, it's just that many people try to teach others to shoot, but it is not a real substitute for professional training, the more so if one is seeking to learn to use firearms for personal defense.

Good advise but some people will not ask for help or are unable to pay for the guidance from a pro so any amount of firearms safety is better than nothing. I help people like that from time to time and have never made a cent. I teach firearms safety in the military and have since 1989. Range OIC RSO etc.. but have never held an official instructor title. I will correct unsafe acts in a tactful manner and suggest they hire an instructor. But if ask I will teach them to be safe. I never offer advice about the laws for concealed carry. Shoot dont shoot stuff. But I will certainly make sure they know how to handle a firearm and be safe with it.

 

[bobcat]

I have a bumper sticker in my man cave, "I still miss my ex, but my aim is improving."

I had a cheating ex, she's lied to and about me, lied to my kids, and still gets a check outa me until next May, you're a more forgiving man than me, and no, I don't care to spend anymore time with her, armed or unarmed...

Take care...

 

[bountyhunter]

I thought this would be like one of those letters to Penthouse things......

 

[bountyhunter]

My ex has been bugging me lately to teach her how to shoot so I called her yesterday morning and said "Let's go shooting."

I was at the range when some nitwit woman came out of the bay and walked up and said:

"The ammo you sold me is jamming my gun."

So the guy starts examining the gun and I can see what looks like black tar sticking to his fingers. He asks:

"Do you ever clean your gun?"

Her answer: "No, my husband cleans the gun."


"When was the last time it was cleaned?'


"How should I know, I divorced him three years ago."

Seriously...

 

[feralmerril]

She sounds like a woman friend we have here. She kept the house and the motorhome. The exspendsive motorhome just sits and she wont sell it or give it to her ex. I think he lives under the bridge and wears a barrel. If she were to sell the MH, he probley would get half?

 

[narc766]

Kudos to you for introducing someone to the world of shooting, that said I could never take my ex shooting and I doubt she would even want to go with me now that I think about it.

 

[BarbC]

My ex still gives me good gun advice, .380 reloads and sold me a .243. So far, so good. We may have had our differences but we still have things in common.

 

[semperfi71]

Strato,

You are a good person.

And you are on the path to finding a better partner should you want one. You cannot move forward if you are looking back. And bad feelings towards an ex become an anchor.

I know.

 

[Strato]

Got to follow your heart and never say never. Been living with my EX for 11 years.(that could mean she is not my ex anymore) Never been happier.
People make mistakes and smart people learn from those mistakes.

I think that does mean she's not you ex anymore I have to say never though. The relationship was built on trust and that's gone. The way I see it it just wasn't meant to last forever. If I get angry and completely shut her out then I lose a friend too. If we eventually stop talking as we both move on with our lives that will be fine too. Right now single life aint so bad There have been a few times I almost felt like thanking her

 

[DOEBOY1]

I'd say be careful she may be looking for a Daddy for the little one. I'm not saying that would be bad for the baby it needs a daddy but rather for you. She may be using you to fill a void because she knew you would. Becareful remember " hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me". I would probably ask her to hook me up with one of her hot friends of the week if she wanted back in my life. Who knows she might. Doeboy

 

[Strato]

I'd say be careful she may be looking for a Daddy for the little one. I'm not saying that would be bad for the baby it needs a daddy but rather for you. She may be using you to fill a void because she knew you would. Becareful remember " hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me". I would probably ask her to hook me up with one of her hot friends of the week if she wanted back in my life. Who knows she might. Doeboy

She knows better than that. She's actually in a long distance relationship with the baby's father now. He's helping her financially and flying in once a month. He's owning up to the responsibility and I can't even blame him because he thinks her time with me was in the past and has no idea that she was still with me when they started fooling around. Damn! I have to admit if this would've happened when I was younger I probably would've reacted a lot differently.

 

[DeathGrip]

So she's lying to him too?That says it all.That's OK with you?

Hang in there,It's not over.

 

[Strato]

She lied to me and cheated on me. Why would I expect her to be honest with the next guy? She has to live with what she does,not me. No I don't think she's being fair to him now but I can't let it become my problem. I don't want that much involvement in her life. We're still friends but not on a high level. She calls me. I don't call her. In some ways my life is better now. She'll never be a big part of it again and she knows that so it's all good.

 

[DeadAye]

I would never go to the range (or right at anywhere else) with someone I cannot trust!
YMMV

 

[Marshall 357]

Their all Ex's for a reason,and everytime I see mine she has another ex under her belt- maybe she will get the hint someday- the world does not own her a thing and she's a pain in the butt.

 

[Strato]

I would never go to the range (or right at anywhere else) with someone I cannot trust!
YMMV

I understand what you're saying but there's a huge difference between trusting someone in a relationship and trusting them to keep the muzzle pointed in a safe direction. She follows direction well and exercises good safety measures. The fact that she once held my heart and messed up with that is irrelevant. It doesn't make her dangerous. It doesn't make me hate her or not talk to her. Sure it did a little at first but I decided to move past all that and live my life. When she needs a friend and asks me to help her with something if I'm not busy I help her out. It's really not a big deal.

 

[84CJ]

I think that does mean she's not you ex anymore I have to say never though. The relationship was built on trust and that's gone. The way I see it it just wasn't meant to last forever. If I get angry and completely shut her out then I lose a friend too. If we eventually stop talking as we both move on with our lives that will be fine too. Right now single life aint so bad There have been a few times I almost felt like thanking her

I understand. My wife didnt come back pregnant. I would like to think I would handle things just as you have if I were in your shoes. A baby would certainly complicate things. The real shame here is I think you would or could be a good father.

I have not looked into SC laws but Im pretty sure a judge would say she is my wife again.lol

I was married in church divorced in a court of law. Wonder what the church would say. Its kind of funny our family knows we seperatd but few know we actually got divorced. Until I posted it here for the world to see.lol